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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
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Hey,theres this girl i like and i wanted to do something special to ask her out.There was two things i was thinking about and i was wondering if someone could help me decide.The first one was for christmas i was going to get her a card and get a pack of green and red gum (christmas colors) and a pack of her favorite gum and put them all on the card,and get her a bracelet and get one of them gift tags and out it on the bracelet saying i love you more then you can imagine .. will you go out with me?.
The 2nd idea is for valintines day i was going to make two big hearts and put them together with a opening in it and on them write "inside is all the things i love about you"on it then fill it up with little hearts saying all the things i like about her and put the bracelet in the heart.and put a bigger little heart in the middle of the bracelet tied to it by string saying "All the little hearts added together is how much i love you..will you go out with me?
I was also thinking since i really want to do the heart present...i could do the heart present and the card one .. put the card on top of the heart..because i think she'll really like the heart...but would the heart go ok with the other card and christmas?
i really like all ideas lol..can someone please help mee??
Thanks :)
Oh my. Please save the "I love you" thing until you're going out with her. Any guy that says I love you, go out with me to a girl--yea, that's a no no.
For Christmas, get her like a cute little teddy bear and have the teddy hold a card asking if she'd go out with you.
Um, for Valentines Day, give her a rose and a box of chocolates and ask her out at that time.
Either way, please don't say I love you, blah blah.
Guys laugh at me and are really mean to me and don’t treat me well at all. It’s because I talk weird, I’m too opinionated, I have a brutal sense of humor, and I only listen to musicals and Sondheim……
For example, they always snicker whenever it’s time for PE….I’m the most not-athletic person in my whole class. I can’t even run a mile. I was telling my friend about how un-athletic I am, and this guy overheard and goes, “Yeah, you sure are.”
And when we were working in groups, and this guy whispered to the other girl in my group, “do you actually expect her to do anything?”
Lots of stuff like that every day. And more,
And I’m not being paranoid. I gave it the benefit of the doubt; but when I discovered that half of the guys blocked me on AIM, it’s pretty obvious that the guys hate me.
I know I should be strong and I shouldn’t care about what those morons think of me, but it still hurts. I bet they wish they could make fun of my body as well, but fortunately, I’m not overweight, and I don’t have any really ugly features that they could laugh at.
It really, REALLY hurts my feelings. I know I shouldn’t be so sensitive, but it makes me feel awful.
What should I do? I can’t tell a teacher, that would only decrease my reputation. And my school counselor doesn’t know squat.
Don't even waste a single breathe on them. They're obviously not worth anything if they treat you like dirt. Ignore them and go on through your day with your friends and that's all you need in school. Friends...and well school supplies may be in need XD
Ignore them and don't let them get to you. If they don't get a reaction from you, then they'll just stop because they can't get any fun out of it. Don't even wonder what they're doing, don't look at them, don't talk to them, etc. Soon enough they'll realize what jerks they're being and better yet people around you will know how much of a pain they're being.
They're 14, they should get more mature. Seriously. There are no guys in my school that are like that and they're 14 and up. But really, don't even get stressed out over them. They're nothing
okay so Im 5'3 and weight 123 lbs. I think im fat. i hate that extra tummy fat that i can't seem to get rid of. My friend that ways like 105 and is my height, isnt fat at all! she eats the same as i sometimes more, and it drives me nuts that i always gain the weight and she doesnt. We both do sports. and are basically the same. and im not saying i want my friend to be fat or anything. i just wonder why im the only one that puts on the weight and stuff out of most of my friends.
Okay, it's because your friend has a high metabolism rate. But by the time she becomes an adult, she may have weight and health problems if she continues to eat whatever she wants and how much she wants now. About 2/3 of teenagers who has a high metabolism are likely to gain more weight and be fat when they're adults.
So don't worry about it. If you want tips on how to lose weight or get fit, just send me a question and I'll answer for you =]
ok. my love life stinks. no guy has ever had a crush on me im the only ones of all my friends who hasnt had a boyfriend. okay. i have to give myself props though because now i am alot better with guys than last year and im also at a new school this year and it was nice to get a fresh start. anyways. guys just dont... i dunno. all the guys are nice to me and they flirt with me and mess with me all the time for fun and im not ugly. its weird. i have gotten so many compliments on how pretty i am this year than anyother year. and i asked my best frined who is the most honest person i know how pretty i am and she gave me an 8.5. and alot of other people do think im pretty. the whole point im getting to with this is because i dont feel pretty. the reason why is because no guy has liked me before and i really would like a boyfriend. i just dont get whats wrong with me. i may think im not pretty but im not ugly. believe me on this. i guess i compare myself to the other girls. the slut girls. and how im not pretty like them.i dont know what to do with guys to not make them like me but to flirt wioth me more and stuff. i kind of go a little overboard with my crush so what can i do about that? i wear makeup and for some reason i feel ugly and dont know what to do. each year i always wish that one guy will like me and we would have a relationship together and i always dream of having a boyfriend to much. is it a possibility why you think i guy doesnt like me. thanks to anyone that helps!!
First things first--it would really help if you gave us your age but anywhos.
Believe it or not, a lot of the guy friends that I know don't care about the looks. They basically judge you on how you act and your personality. I know that some guys disliked me few years ago because I don't have much self confidence in oral presentations an what not. I was just too shy and quiet. So in the end it all comes down to your personality, how true you are to yourself and others, and how you act in school.
Stop comparing yourself to those slutty girls. All they are are people who put on 5in. of make up just to attract guys that aren't worth much.
You can't get guys to do more or less of something or have their feelings change for you and what not. You need to let nature just take it's course and you can't rush it.
So my advice to you is before you even THINK about guys you need to get these things accomplished
1. Higher your self confidence. Do people like you for how you look or for who you are? Are you friends just friends with you because you look pretty or because they like who you are for you? If people judge you on how you look, that's their problem and they shouldn't even waste your time.
2. Stop with the make up. Just learn to love your skin without all those make up. By the time you're 20--when you should really start wearing make up--you'll have to wear mroe make up to cover all those wrinkles you caused by wearing make up now. Sure, light mascara, eyeliner, and lipgloss wearing is fine but no concealers [sp?] foundations, powder, etc. So NO make up PLEASE.
3. Work on your self image, If you really don't think you're pretty, then try differenct kinds of cloths on or different colors and whatever makes you look good and flatters you, stick those kinds of cloths.
4. Last thing--have yourself just confident in yourself and around other people. Don't feel selfconcious because that's a turn off for most guys.
With the boys:
Don't get too head over heels for boys or make it so obvious. If you have to, play hard to get. Just don't go drooling over one boy and scare him away.
You don't want a guy liking you for the fake you right? You'd rather have a guy that likes you for you. So don't make up an image and just be true to yourself and who you are. Just be yourself around guys and if some guys don't like that, don't worry about it. You don't need to impress them because --yeah, it's not worth it.
okay well my friend took my necklace out of my shirt and it tickled a little and im like stop it tickles and she gave me a 'weird' look and then im like ... just to cover things up to make her not feel that im gay...i made things worse by saying .. see i like pain.. lol i definately would have liked her to hurt me with her nail rather than tickle cause that was annoying.. my friend bianca, she is not huggy like i am. people put their heads on my shoulder and i do the same i tried it with bianca cause i was tired and she asked me if i was gay she was not joking cause she tried to lay it down softly. i am not gay i totally have feelings for guys and none for girls. im not emo but i like the goth style. i dont cut myself but anyways. my friends think im weird sometimes yet they hang out with me and think im cool for the next.....what the heck?! they also think im goth i just like the style but during religious education when they say something about goth like the boys have to mention it they turn around and some people say ..(my name) and smile and laugh and i think its funny but thats the only time when i think it is. well more times but thise whole thing where they think i am cutting myself.. just not right so i try to push myself out there and say i like guys.. but then bianca has to say im guy crazy and i shouldnt like guys so early but man im thirteen! things r so complicated..can someone please sort them out for me?
First of all, I'm offended by your choice of words. Gay is technically happy in the dictionary. In more loose terms, it's where guys like guys. If a girl likes a girl, she is called a lesbian--not gay.
And the whole "Emo and goth" ting. Stop with the labeling and seperating people by their interests.
Anywhos, when people try to say your goth or emo or whatever, just don't reply them. Don't let them get to you and bother you. If they say that you cut, just lift up your sleeves and show them your flawless arms. Ask them if they saw any emos or goths that wear (pink) or whatever color you're wearing. Just don't let them get to you. Just roll your eyes at them for their immaturity and nothing more. Don't try to argue with them or anything. Just saw them that your arms are clear and saw them that they're being immature. If they see that what they're doing has no effect on you, they have nothing to do to you.
You're 13. It's normal to like guys! I went out with guys when I was 13. Bianca needs a reality check and if she and that other friend can't trust you and take your words for what you say, they're not good friends or friends at all.
Just when you go to school, don't reply to any of the "goth" comments or whatever and show people that your arms are clean. And with Bianca and that other girl, say firmly that you are not bi or les and that you're straight as an arrow. And tell Bianca that it's perfectly normal to like guys at your age and that if she thinks that it's weird to like guys at that age, ask her to re-evaluate herself on HER orientation
17/f I'm really social at school and have tons of friends but i'm never interested at people in my own school. Whenever i go outside fo my school, i find a lot more people that i feel are interested in me and vice versa. But they're usually alot older. I've tried talking to poepl at school , but i just find them really vain, bland, and etc. they're not extermly hot nor have intellectual depth and are either preppy idiots who party all day or geeks who cant get over that grades are grades. at best i find someone once in awhil that i ahve alot of chemistry with, but htat gets old soon too. i don't know what to do, i knoww i have plenty of time, and honestly i havnet been looking for a relationship but whenever igo out someone always asks me for my number, and i cant bear to say no. then when they call, i just dont pick up since i feel weird with the age diff., then i'm overwhelmed with guilt not pickingup. i think i cant say no partially because of me not wanting to, and the fact that naturally i'm just a softie. so i guess my question is should i proceed with the older guys (with cuation), not at all, or just keep giving high schoolers a try?
Well, since you're not legally 18 yet, anyone who is older than 18 that goes out with you is dangerous. Also if there will be a chance of sexual activity going on, that would be a felony.
In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with going out with someone outside of your school and that are slightly older than you. I mean if he's 21 and up, I would definately say no. Up to the age of 20 is all right I guess.
But it you wish to really go out with someone older than 18, I would keep it a secret since nasty rumors can spread around the school and it will not be fun.
So my advice is:
If you want, go out with older guys but not anyone who has a 4yr or more age difference. Also be very cautious with the guys you meet. Make sure you trust them and that they're safe and not one of those perverts that seek out young girls to seduce them. If you're going to go out with someone outside of school that has graduated high school, I suggest you do group dates the first several times. You should also try to give the guys at your school some chance. You may not like them at frist but giving them a chance and if you get to know them more, that's great because you may actually begin to like them.
I'm not saying og out with every guy that asks you out. Just few that you think are okay. Also, about the giving out number, ask for thu guys' age first. Then tell them that you're 17 and that you don't want to get them in trouble in any way. Apologize and just walk away.
Have fun and stay safe =]
I haven't had my period in a while but im not pregnant what's going on? And yes my period was regular before this.
Sometimes periods can go bleh and get screwed up sometimes.
Alot of the times the main causes are:
1. You've become atheltic and attend to a lot of sports or at least some type of sport.
2. You started BC pills and those can really affect your period.
3. You've had a lot of stress relatively close to when you skipped your period.
Number 3 is the probable cause. If you've been trying to face SATs, Tests, Midterms, exams, etc or friend problems, love life problems, and such that causes a lot fo stress, that will be your problem. Also if you're getting not enough sleep, that can effect your period too.
Hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my ex best friend is being a total bitch right now.I thought I could trust her with one of my deep dark secrets that i've never told anyone not even my mom and now it's going around school and everyone is finding out that my dad molested me when I was 6 and now she's calling me a 6 year old pervert and the other day she called me a bitch,slut,and a whore.I thought i could trust her since we've been best friends since the 5th grade and we are both in the 11th grade.I've been there for her for everything that's happened to her in her life like the time she got pregnant at 14 years old i was there for her.I even asked my parents if she could move in with us for a couple of months untill she got her own place and now i can't even trust her with a secret like this that was why i didn't tell anyone i just needed somebody to talk to about it and now i don't have anybody i can trust what should I do?
Well, she has her own set of problems right there.
One thing to remember is to never ever respond to those little gossip going around with snappy replies. Try to ignore them as much as you can and try to show no emotions or effects to their stupid remarks at you. At all costs, do not try to criticize them back b/c they will hold onto that, twisted in a sick way and use it against you. If you have the strongest urge to reply back to them, try and say "If you truly feel better laughing at the suffering of another, go ahead and laugh but you haven't accomplished anything but to make a fool out of yourself" or somethinglike that in your own words.
It's really sad how people these days are very hard to trust and they can't keep a secret for their lives. It's really hard to find that one true person that you can always trust and be with (friend way) forever. We would be lucky if we even found a person like that in life.
This girl is a total bitch and you should disregard whatever she says because -- even though it may not seem like it now-- she is the one at fault. She is the person that is making a total ass out of herself. She is the person that takes joy in bringing other people down.
If you really hate her and you have no intentions of being friends with her ever again and you don't really care about being the center of the drama, then reply to anyone who bothers you with "At least I'm not the one that got pregnant"
I don't suggest it but it just came to my mind and I had the biggest urgbe to type that down ^^
And as for dealing with her, write down something that mentions
-your long friendship
-how you've kept your deal to not spread around her secrets
-how much she's hurt you
-how this is effecting you
-how you've always been there for her and never did anything like this to harm her intentionaly
-and all about her pregnancy in very very very percise details.
Basically, make her feel guilty and make sure that you write this when you're calm and re read it several times before you give it to her. You don't want to get angry or sad or anything and sound like a total bitch or a whiney ass.
Good luck with this!!! and if you really need someone to talk to , IM me at r0ck0nl0ser
ok so recentley me and my boyfriend have been great but then this other guy thought i liked him and told my friend lets call her sarah adn sarah went and told my boyfriend that i wa cheating on him and so i talked with my boyfriend and he knows i not...but its just now i cant trust my friends. and my boyfriend cant trust me
HELP
amyy
Okay, rumors are just statements made by people who have nothing better to do. Your 'friend' Sarah is just an arrogant immature person.
Ask your boyfriend if he's willing to believe some unsupported statment or you--his girlfriend. Tell him that you're the only one for you and such. Just spend a lot of time with him and try to reassure him that you're not cheating on him. Also try this:
Make him a bracelet. MAKE IT. Make one for yourself. Tie on to each other's wrists and make the knot tight so it would be hard to take off without cutting it and say that as long as you both are wearing the bracelets, you will not cheat lie or anythinglike that. just a true, trusted relationship.
I lost my best friend over the summer because she fell into the life of drinking at a young age. I was forced to restart and find a whole new group of friends. Its been rough, but I've managed to be friends with a few people in several groups. How do I know which ones to trust? I already made a new very close friend, who turned out to be a big liar and backstabber.
I don't want to continue on without friends.
ah...true true. been there. still there.
the thing is...in life there are going to be people who are loyal and honest and others who just aren't...
it's very hard to tell who is a good friend and who isn't and it will be a while before any of us find that one true friend we will always be there for and return be there for you.
i say just make friends. not like bffs or closest buddy friends. just make friends--normal friends. and keep it that way for about a year. if they start to open up to you, you do the same.
it's going to be a long process to find out who you can get along with. don't jump into friendships because if you do and a year later you don't like the person, it's going to be a messy situation (like the one i'm in right now)
theres this kid and well i really like him like a wicked lot and well thing is my bfff and my sister think hes a bad kid cuz hes on house arrest but i cant just not like him and he like sme too and if he asks me out i wanna say yes but i cant have them both be madd at mee plzz helppp ive been going crazyyyyy for liike a week
well, if he's house arrested, you may not want to get involved with him. you may not realize it at first but he will have an infulence on you and you become who you hang out with. sure, you can say no way and deny it but it's very true.
if this guy really likes you, he should understand your reasoning and not get mad at you and the same applies to your friend and sister.
i say make an agreement with your friend and sister. if he does ask you out, say yes. but your sister and friend have every right to pull you out of the relationship if they think he's having an effect on you and you start to steer in the way where things will not end in good results.
So I'm like really close friends with this guy named adrian. We just met this year and I've liked him and he knows I do. We tell each otehr a lot of things and talk about almost everything. Well he flirts with me a lot.. like hes always hugging me and we fell asleep on a couch together last night. But he doesnt like me even though he flirts with me..maybe thats how he is but hes not reallly like that to everyone. We used to talk on the phone every night but now theres a girl in the picture her name is Patty. She likes him and he likes her and supposably they arent dating yet but they are close. I'm soo jealous and hes always asking to use my phone to call her and shes called my phone looking for him the other night. Ugh it pisses me off and makes me soo jealous. I like him a lot and i've tried to get over him but its just too hard. I dont know what to do.. help pleaseE?
Well, think about this:
By the way he's acting with you, if he and patty goes out, the relationship won't get too far, deep, or long.
Now, you are really good friends with him from what I can tell...and Patty will end up being one of his ex's. Now, tell me--would you rather be his ex or good friend?
You can't change who he likes and not like. You'll just have to accept his feelings. And if you really really like him, you'd rahter feel happy for him because he likes someone who likes him back.
So there's guy, and (obviously) I have a crush on him. The trick is we have no classes together and I have no excuse to talk to him, even when I really want to. And then I get really nervous if I do try to talk to him and don't know what to say. What should I do??
Well, just walk up casually and ask whats up. It's a great conversation starter and I do that will all my friends--guys or girls - friends or crushes.
And whatever is going on around you and this guy, comment on it and just start a conversation as you would with your girl friends..just don't begin the world of fashion on him or anything =P
Just say hey, get his sn or emil or #. Just don't get so nervous. I mean this guy will never know you exist if you don't talk to him ^^
15/M What am I supposed to get for my girlfriend's birthday? I know that you're not supposed to give money or gift cards because to them it says that you don't care. Any ideas?
Teddy bears =]
Flowers
Locket
Bracelet
Something meaningful and cute and not all elegant and stuff but rather cute and small stuff. It's uberly better if you hand make it =]
oh yesh, don't forget the card and a kiss ^^
I can't think of an idea for an anniversary present. I am 14 and a freshman in High School. My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost a year now, but I don't want any gifts that are too serious or lovey-dovey, but I still want something nice. Any ideas?
Just do the everyday average stuff.
Make a card --and I mean MAKE it yourself-- and give it to him along with couple's rings (you know, those adorable rings that look simliar made for like bff's or couples)
Give him a teddy bear
Picture of you two together in a photo frame that you made
Basically, make it and not buy it if possible.
ive been having the same screen name for atleast these past 3 or 4 years. someone has been signing onto my sn lately, and it signs me off! ive been trying to change my password. but when the security question "your pets name" comes up, i get the wrong answer. because i dont have a pet! and ive never had a pet! and plus i must've made up that answer like 4 years ago! i dont know what to do. but i do think its my boyfriend signing on.. me and him are like almost on break up mode! and he got mad cause i accused him! does anyone know how i can change my pw!
Well, don't make accusations my dear.
Anywhos, about the password, make a complaint to AIM saying that someone keeps on siging on with your sn and you can't figure out the psw..
Question thouhg, how do you sign on when you don't know your psw? As the person said below me:
Get a new sn.Transfer all your friend's sn to the new list, make a new profile and all that junk
If you can, get on your old on, delete all the sn on your buddy list (after you transferred them to the new sn) and on the profile type:
THIS IS NOT (your name)'s SN--
or something like that. Talk to all your close friends and whoever was on that list to not IM or reply if your sn sends them a msg or something
i need help with my vocabulary. i asked my sister and she wont help me. i need to come up with 5 sentences based on edgar allen poe using the words servitude, reprimand, stagnant,latent,and militant. i did all the other ones but i cant make any for these. im not trying to cheat. i just really need help. i have been on these 5 cards for almost and hour. please help. i also need to get to my other homework.
I'm not sure if this is useful but..
Sevitude- Edgar Allen Poe is likely to make servitude seem horrible and be good at it.
Reprimand-Edgar Allen Poe's stories often contain a plot in which a character reprimands another character for the smallest mistakes or wrongs he or she has done.
Stagnant-EAP's storys can be stagnant at times for a reader who is only interested in fantasies or comics.
Latent-In the story "The Tell Tale Heart" by EAP, the speakers guilt is latent to everyone but the speaker himself.
Militant-Most of Poe's stories are militant because there is always a fighting going on whether it includes two characters or just a character versus himself.
Hope I helped =]
What is the best shampoo for frizzy hair? Anything that ACTUALLY works and eliminates the frizz?
Head and Shoulder--you know the new rectangular small bottles? Look for the one that's pink. Also, Frutice is radd
14/F My cousin and I are thee same age but she is a grade higher well I start to like a guy then she says she will call them and talk to them for me. Well after i give her the number, she calls them but she ends up hooking up with them! Wat should I do?
Simple/ Don't give her their number anymore. Keep your crush list a little more secretive and tell her that you don't respect her stealing every one of your crushes.
my relationship:
im 15/f and i have a boyfriend. he's kind of like my first boyfriend but not really i had 2 other ones but we werent serious and didnt kiss or anything and the longest we went out was for a week. im not really happy with my boyfrined i realize hes not my type but it has only been 2 days of our relationship. we kind of went into things a little too quick cuz i've only known him for less then a month. well anywayz thats whats goin on in my life right now..
okay so sometimes i feel like im lesbian or it could be bisexual. i don't know. would i know if i am? i think that 2 girls in a relationship isn't right(no offense but its just not for me)but then again i look at girls that are attractive sometimes i compare myself to them or i look at them and say they're pretty in my head or had a fat ass or big tits. like i dont noe?? how did you know you were lesbian or gay or bisexual? and how is it being in a realtionship with a girl when you're a girl?
Just because you think that some girls have nice body parts doesn't neccessarily ring a bell that says "I'm les/bi" This is a time in our lives where we are uncertain of our orientation and wonder about those who are our own gender. Also, you may be having these thoughts because nowadays everyone claims their bi becuase certain people think it's hot and what not.
And about your short term going out thing, don't worry about it. It may just be a signal that says that you're not really ready to be commited to one boy and that you just wanna flirt like crazy out there.
If you think 2 girls together is weird, than you're leaning more on the straight side. There is no quiz or anything that states your orientaition. Only time can unreveal these things and when the time is right, you'll know. Well, think about this: would you rather hug a girl or kiss a girl? I know, the least accurate question that can be asked.
As for the girl on girl relationship? If the girl is taller, it's like having a tall bf and if the girl is shorter its like having a short bf. lol. That's all I can say.
Also, if you're really uncertain--and I think you aren't leaving the straight orientation mark that much--don't be going around asking people. Keep this thought to yourself because if people hear about your doubts and curiosity, all hell might breka lose at your school.