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When did you know you' were lesbian/bisexual or gay?
my relationship:
im 15/f and i have a boyfriend. he's kind of like my first boyfriend but not really i had 2 other ones but we werent serious and didnt kiss or anything and the longest we went out was for a week. im not really happy with my boyfrined i realize hes not my type but it has only been 2 days of our relationship. we kind of went into things a little too quick cuz i've only known him for less then a month. well anywayz thats whats goin on in my life right now..
okay so sometimes i feel like im lesbian or it could be bisexual. i don't know. would i know if i am? i think that 2 girls in a relationship isn't right(no offense but its just not for me)but then again i look at girls that are attractive sometimes i compare myself to them or i look at them and say they're pretty in my head or had a fat ass or big tits. like i dont noe?? how did you know you were lesbian or gay or bisexual? and how is it being in a realtionship with a girl when you're a girl?
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well i knew i was a lesbian when i was maybe my first year of middle school 6th grade i guess, and i knew because i fell in love with a girl though it wasn't cuz she was a girl it was cause she was beautiful on the inside (personality) and the outside (looks) being in a relationship with a girl is like any other normal boyfriend girlfriend relationship except you both are good kissers and you both have the same body parts now at first the first girl/girl relation ship might feel a little strange but ever thing that's new at first feels a little strange. and the way that you say yoiu compare your self to girls doesn't really sound lesbian to me i mean all meyfriemds that are straight girls do that too so yeah unless when you say compare you mean check out and not so much compare then you might be les/bi
-jess
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Lots of people look at other people and pass judgements on their looks. That's normal, no matter what gender the people are. If you are looking at other girls and feeling attracted to them, that is something slightly different.
It sounds as if you don't have a lot of experience in relationships, and that's okay. It also seems you aren't happy with your current boyfriend - it's good that you've realized. Tell him and move on.
You could be mainly attracted to guys and just happened to not particularly like the guys you've been with. Or you could be a different sexuality. Either way, spend your time thinking about what qualities a person you would want to date has. Openness? Brains? A good sense of humour?
Find someone who you really like; going out with someone for the sake of going out probably isn't the greatest idea. If this means you stay single for awhile while you wait for a good person, so be it!
I wish you the best.
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Seeing a beautiful piece of art, a sunset, or a person is just admiring...sometimes envying their beauty. It does not make you anything, but normal. Even if you had a gay fantasy or experience, it does not make you gay. People are curious about everything, sexuality not excluded. If you discover that you consistently prefer romantic/sexual relationship with the same sex or both sexes, you can make a clearer judgement. Two girls in a relationship may not be right for you, but we do not have the right to judge what is right for others on that personal level.
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Just because you think that some girls have nice body parts doesn't neccessarily ring a bell that says "I'm les/bi" This is a time in our lives where we are uncertain of our orientation and wonder about those who are our own gender. Also, you may be having these thoughts because nowadays everyone claims their bi becuase certain people think it's hot and what not.
And about your short term going out thing, don't worry about it. It may just be a signal that says that you're not really ready to be commited to one boy and that you just wanna flirt like crazy out there.
If you think 2 girls together is weird, than you're leaning more on the straight side. There is no quiz or anything that states your orientaition. Only time can unreveal these things and when the time is right, you'll know. Well, think about this: would you rather hug a girl or kiss a girl? I know, the least accurate question that can be asked.
As for the girl on girl relationship? If the girl is taller, it's like having a tall bf and if the girl is shorter its like having a short bf. lol. That's all I can say.
Also, if you're really uncertain--and I think you aren't leaving the straight orientation mark that much--don't be going around asking people. Keep this thought to yourself because if people hear about your doubts and curiosity, all hell might breka lose at your school.
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