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Older guys?
17/f I'm really social at school and have tons of friends but i'm never interested at people in my own school. Whenever i go outside fo my school, i find a lot more people that i feel are interested in me and vice versa. But they're usually alot older. I've tried talking to poepl at school , but i just find them really vain, bland, and etc. they're not extermly hot nor have intellectual depth and are either preppy idiots who party all day or geeks who cant get over that grades are grades. at best i find someone once in awhil that i ahve alot of chemistry with, but htat gets old soon too. i don't know what to do, i knoww i have plenty of time, and honestly i havnet been looking for a relationship but whenever igo out someone always asks me for my number, and i cant bear to say no. then when they call, i just dont pick up since i feel weird with the age diff., then i'm overwhelmed with guilt not pickingup. i think i cant say no partially because of me not wanting to, and the fact that naturally i'm just a softie. so i guess my question is should i proceed with the older guys (with cuation), not at all, or just keep giving high schoolers a try?
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Well, since you're not legally 18 yet, anyone who is older than 18 that goes out with you is dangerous. Also if there will be a chance of sexual activity going on, that would be a felony.
In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with going out with someone outside of your school and that are slightly older than you. I mean if he's 21 and up, I would definately say no. Up to the age of 20 is all right I guess.
But it you wish to really go out with someone older than 18, I would keep it a secret since nasty rumors can spread around the school and it will not be fun.
So my advice is:
If you want, go out with older guys but not anyone who has a 4yr or more age difference. Also be very cautious with the guys you meet. Make sure you trust them and that they're safe and not one of those perverts that seek out young girls to seduce them. If you're going to go out with someone outside of school that has graduated high school, I suggest you do group dates the first several times. You should also try to give the guys at your school some chance. You may not like them at frist but giving them a chance and if you get to know them more, that's great because you may actually begin to like them.
I'm not saying og out with every guy that asks you out. Just few that you think are okay. Also, about the giving out number, ask for thu guys' age first. Then tell them that you're 17 and that you don't want to get them in trouble in any way. Apologize and just walk away.
Have fun and stay safe =]
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