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I'm 14....
Guys laugh at me and are really mean to me and don’t treat me well at all. It’s because I talk weird, I’m too opinionated, I have a brutal sense of humor, and I only listen to musicals and Sondheim……
For example, they always snicker whenever it’s time for PE….I’m the most not-athletic person in my whole class. I can’t even run a mile. I was telling my friend about how un-athletic I am, and this guy overheard and goes, “Yeah, you sure are.”
And when we were working in groups, and this guy whispered to the other girl in my group, “do you actually expect her to do anything?”
Lots of stuff like that every day. And more,
And I’m not being paranoid. I gave it the benefit of the doubt; but when I discovered that half of the guys blocked me on AIM, it’s pretty obvious that the guys hate me.
I know I should be strong and I shouldn’t care about what those morons think of me, but it still hurts. I bet they wish they could make fun of my body as well, but fortunately, I’m not overweight, and I don’t have any really ugly features that they could laugh at.
It really, REALLY hurts my feelings. I know I shouldn’t be so sensitive, but it makes me feel awful.
What should I do? I can’t tell a teacher, that would only decrease my reputation. And my school counselor doesn’t know squat.
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ok, im 13 and the guys used to always bug me lol. But when they start saying stuff about you and its little like how good you are at athletics laugh along. I used to get bugged alot for my lack of sportyness. I dont think I can run a mile. But once I started oing along with their jokes they stopped. Guys (at least for me) love a girl whos not ultra emotional and really cares about teasing. Sometimes theyll go too far but all you have to do is paste on a smile and show them you dont care. Try doing something they never thought you could do like I made the volleyball team, now i only get lightly teased about athletics and I dont care really. Theyll start wanting to talk and be friends more if you dont give them exactly what they want.
Guys used to all hate me. But I learned to play along and I have 17 or so guys as good friends.
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I think guys are affraid of you for some reason. They might be affraid that you are going to tell them what you really think about them. that might be why they dont want to talk with you. Or maybe it is cause they are the wrong guys? There is more to life then sports. Join a group at school or church. Band, art, theatre group? find some guys that arent so full of them selves. I bet there are plenty of nice guys at school that feel the same way that you do. they just arnt on the ball field. and id stop AIMing any guy unless they AIM you first. Take a break from the rejection. If you find activities you enjoy the people who like those activities will be more friendly toward you. AND maybe save your opinions for when you become friends.
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Teen boys are awful. Really, they are. Ok, not all are, but at age 14, most are.
I was so much like you. In fact, I practically grew up in theater. Mostly musicals. My sense of humor is still rather odd, and I don't talk like most people around me. I actually value grammer and pronunciation. I would do anything to avoid PE. I was even glad when a bee stung my thigh right before PE once. Hurt like hell, but I got out of class. It didn't help that I was a white girl in Hawaii. I was in the minority. My best friend was picked on more than I was, however. The only real difference was that she would lash out at them when she was teased. I would just ignore it, or smile and walk away. It eventually just stopped being fun for them to tease me, while my best friend's reactions were endlessly amusing to them. It took me forever to realize I was an attractive girl because all the teasing had me convinced I wasn't (that, and the bad perm that gave me a very blonde fro).
So, the thing I learned is that you really have to act like it doesn't bother you. Sure it does, but don't let them know that. Eventually they will get bored and let up on it. And eventually they will grow up and stop acting so immature.
Also, someone else said that the guys probably like you. In some cases that is entirely possible. But it is hard to tell who does and who is just being an immature jerk. So, let them grow up and those who like you will let you know. The others will just avoid you and that will be a great relief.
I know it is hard, but it is normal for teens to pick on someone who is different, especially if they are attractive or smart or whatever at the same time as being different. That is how it was when I was your age (I'm 28 now), and when my mom was your age (she's 51), and it will be the same when you have kids.
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yeah school counslers arent too helpful LOL Ok what you need to do is Pull the Honey Sweet thing it works for all things Turn the things they say around!!! I'm not gonna tell you that you shouldnt care because they my dear i would be a hypocrite!!! When they say something mean say something nice back not something to nice but tricky!!! Something that sounds sweet but really isn't if you need more details then email me and ill be Happy to help!!! Guys can be jerks so us girls have to stick together!!! LOL
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well usualy when guys pick on you, they like you. ask a friend of yours thats close to the guys why they always pick on you. have her rely the information back to you. make sure you trust this girl a lot tho.
-missadvicebitch1
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The last part about your school counselor made me laugh. :)
Anyways, from what you've said, it seems like you're just getting trouble from the guys, not the girls. I've found that a lot of the time, when guys pick on you, they like you. You say you're rather attractive, so this could definitely be a possibility. Try taking what they say as compliments. They are giving you so much attention. If they hated you, they would just ignore you. Since the girls don't seem to be joining in, that indicates a general consensus that people like you. You're not rejected for your lacking athletic abilities or your choice of music. People just find it amusing.
No matter what the reasons behind the insults are, it's hurting your feelings. Since you seem to be on good terms with the female population, try to get one of your female friends to talk to the guys about it. They may not realize how much they are hurting you. Another way to get out of this is to insult them back. You say you're too opinionated. That should make it easy to come up with stuff to throw back at them. This may not make them stop, but it'll even out the playing field. They'll respect you more and it will become more of a game than a roast. Good luck. :)
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Don't even waste a single breathe on them. They're obviously not worth anything if they treat you like dirt. Ignore them and go on through your day with your friends and that's all you need in school. Friends...and well school supplies may be in need XD
Ignore them and don't let them get to you. If they don't get a reaction from you, then they'll just stop because they can't get any fun out of it. Don't even wonder what they're doing, don't look at them, don't talk to them, etc. Soon enough they'll realize what jerks they're being and better yet people around you will know how much of a pain they're being.
They're 14, they should get more mature. Seriously. There are no guys in my school that are like that and they're 14 and up. But really, don't even get stressed out over them. They're nothing
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I don't really know what to say sorry, except that why don't you try to find out why the dislike you or you can just ignore them completely and be brave then eventually they will go and bug someone else.
Sorry i couldn't be more help.
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