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i'm having some issues at home, and i'm really stressed out and just stuff like that. anyway, i really hate crying or being sad around people or talking about my problems... but last night i was hanging out with some of my friends and i just couldn't stop crying! i layed on my friend and just cried... i'm almost positive he knew i was crying...but anyway, i felt bad afterwords so i texted him and told him i was sorry and he won't reply... could he be mad at me? (link)
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he might be mad or scared. But i think the point is that you are very sad and might need more help. It really isnt fair for you to put friends thru that. He felt helpless im sure. You need to ask for help from someone qualified to help you. Crying in someones lap is pointless. Specialy if neither one feels better after.
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So this guy , who is one of my good friends but isn't that good looking like at all. (Not trying to be mean) was talking about how he was getting roses for this girl for vday, and then he was like so..do you like roses? and I was like uh.. yeah..? am I just being paranoyed (sp?) Or is he getting me roses for vday?!!! I really don't want to have him give me something..but I don't want to be like oh uhh..thanks.. how do I show him that I don't like him without being mean?! he suffers from depression, so I really REALLY don't want him to get sad if I don't like him. WHAT TO DO?! (link)
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The fact that he suffers from depression really isnt the point. No matter how you let him know you are not interested will make him some what sad. When people suffer from depression it is a chemical thing and needs to be delt with by a professional. Anyway...he has a girl friend. Thats reason enough to tell him you like the roses and you love him as a friend (keep the flowers) V day is for all kinds of love. It doesnt mean you have to marry him. Then if he keeps coming on to you tell him you are not interested in someone that would do that to their girlfriend. You never even have to tell him you dont find him physically attractive. You can be honest with out being mean. The best way to tell a man you are not interested in him is to tell them how happy you are that youre friends.
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Ok my mom is in her 80s and I am in my 50s. STORY: I buy jewelry that is 99 cents (rings, bracelets, necklaces and pins) that look expensive. Every one including my mom have told me all the jewelry I buy is beautiful and they cannot believe I only spent 99 cent. Tonight my mom and I were discussing the jewelry and I told her that I cannot believe how I can get jewelry this cheap that look beautiful and how it looks as if I brought them at Lord & Taylors, Nordstrums. She turned to me and said; But you cannot get that at Tiffanys; This bothered me and I told her she does not have to be negative. She said; Well they arent real stones, I mean they look like you can get them at Lord & Taylors, Nordstrums, Bloomingdales but Tiffany only sells emeralds, diamonds, etc.; I called my friends and told them the conversation and they told me that all my mom is saying is that the jewelry is beautiful but they are not real stones. MY QUESTION: DO YOU AGREE WITH MY FRIENDS. Thanks. (link)
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Without seeing the jewlery it is hard to say. You spent 99 cents. If it looks good for 99 cents then cool. I think your mother is just saying she likes stuff from Tiffany's. Has she ever had anything from Tiffany's? does she really know what the stuff from Tiffany's looks like? Some people think the brand has everything to do with the value. If you like the 99 cent jewlery then it doesnt matter what other people think of it. Let them shop at Tiffany's
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So theres this boy. I met him almost a year ago and like him ever since then. He says he knows that i like him, but i dont think he really knows how much. The problem is that he went out with one of my good friends and i help him with everything with it. After they broke up a few months later we hooked up a few times, and i thought he liked me, but he told my best friend that he liked me for like a few days and he doesnt know now. But the problem now is that he's going out with another one of my friends, but acts like he's going out with me or something else..
i dont know what to do now.
help?
advice?
i dont know what to think anymore! (link)
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It doesnt sound to me like you have to do anything but move on. If he is interested in you he will come looking for you. It doesnt look to me like he knows what or who he wants at this point in life. You cant sit around until he figures it out. After he has been with all of your friends. Will you still want him? Often men want what/who they cant have. The men who act that that are imature. So going on with you life will solve a lot of the issues you have with him. In that time he might grown up. Or not. either way you have taken things into your own hands and are not waiting for him to do it for you.
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So i am a freshman in high school and of course there is gunna be drama!! Well there are a few guys that I like and am not sure if they feel the same way!! I can tell that they like to hang around me but the problem is i can't tell if they want to hang out outside of school as more than friends!! For example, this one guy in my english and biology class (guy1) he is athletic but he seems to flirt with me all the time and tease me! See i am on the Varsity drill team which is a big deal for a freshman to make and he always puts on my cowboy hat that we have to wear as part of our uniform for drill team. He does it just as a joke and he will always make me chase him around to get it which i think is sooo cute. But anyways he talks to me a lot in class but we never see eachother outside of class what should I do?
Then There is (guy#2)he is in my frech class and he is new to the school! I figured out he lives in my neighborhood and he also teases me about drill team. He even made up this hilarious dance and song about it. He isn't very hott but i think he is really nice. so i dont know what to do about him either.
Okay now another guy which is kind of mysterious (guy #3)but he is so cute. He is also in my english class and we have actually never talked alone but still he is so much fun to look at. That is basically all about he besides he is hott and I have caught him looking at me across the room because our desks are turned into eachother. Then there is my ex-boyfriend who is kind of a jerk and I happen to just run into him in the halls all the time at school and it is so annoying. Somethimes i think i still like him but it is hard to tell because i am so mad at him. I would rather just forget about him and pertend he didn't exist but everytime i see him he gives me a high five for waves at me! ugh he is so immature too! I dont see how i ever like him! Well that is about it I would really like some advice on what I should do or what guys u think like me or what things i should do so they know that I like them too! This was long but for ever helps I really appreciate it I have been at lost for awhile for what I should do about the situation. Guys r so confusing!! Thanks! (link)
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You are not ready for a boyfriend. And that’s ok. You have a lot going on right now and it looks like the guys are into you because you are an interesting person with a lot on your plate. You don’t have to know which guy likes you the most. You don’t even have to know which guy you like the most. At this point you are having fun with all of them. And the fact that you cant pick one of them means you are not ready for a boyfriend at this time. I don’t think it is them who cant decide. It is you. One day one of them might out shine the rest and then you will know what to do next. Right now be their friend. And enjoy what is going on and don’t focus on what might happen. As for the Ex. Maybe he is friend material and you don’t even have to think of him as a boyfriend. I think you are ready to move on from that relationship.
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This has never happened before but lately I've started to have real trouble recognising people - sometimes somebody i know will come up to me and it'll take me a minute to work out who they are (obviously embarrassing!). The other thing that's happening is I keep on thinking I see someone I know (sometimes it's someone who couldn't actually be there, like they live on the other side of the country) and I really think it's them, but then I realise after looking at their face for a while, that it's not them. Any idea what's going on? Am i going mad?? (link)
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There could be many reasons why this is happening to you. Id talk to a doctor though. Just because I say talk to a doctor doesn’t mean it is medical or even psychological. It could be many things. Are you getting enough sleep? Are you eating right? When it happens are you deep in thought about something else at the time? You could have a very creative brain and your mind wanders. But if it is getting worse id get some answers.
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my best friend and I are going to get an apartment together. we don't have very good-paying jobs though.
we want to know about how much it would cost to get a really inexpensive apartment and pay all the bills (cable, internet, cell phone, water, electric, gas, car insurance, rent)? we each have our own car.
another thing. if my best friend gets a boyfriend and gets married, what would i do if i had to move out? (link)
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If you want cable, internet, and a cell phone get a second job or a better paying job. You don’t need em. That will save you a couple hundred a month right there. Talk to you friend about who would get the apartment if someone gets married seems to me the one who gets married should move out and get a new apartment with their wife. Also it would be the one who got married responsibility to sublet their 1/2 of the apartment. If you both are on the lease it is both your responsibilities to pay the rent every month for the entire lease. It doesn’t sound to me like you are ready for a place together. You will not be as comfortable as you are living at your parents house. The thing is you are not suppose to be as well off as your parents at the start. that is the price of independence.
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okay..well im a female 14 and i went overr my friends house yesterday and we invited over her bf and our guy friend jake( (link)
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You both cheated on his girlfriend. Let it go. Even though something did happen it is up to Jakee to deal with it. And know in the future to stay away from guys with girlfriends. You are just as responsible as Jakee. You knew of the girlfriend too. The fact that you two fooled around didnt just happen. Find a single guy to make out with and ask yourself how you would feel if some girl was making out with your boyfriend. Have some self respect and control.
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I met these two guys (who happen to be roommates) in one of my classes back in October and the three of us have become really good friends. But I've started to develop a little crush on one of them, and we flirt constantly. People have made remarks about how we act like we're already together (due to the constant bickering and teasing that occurs) but I also realize that people are just people, and they don't really know the situation. People tend to be wrong about those things anyway.
The three of us work at the same place, go to school together and hang out pretty much every day, outside of the previous two. But Lee, the one that I'm starting to fall for, and I have hung out a few times alone, and we have the best time. We always end up resting out heads on each other's shoulders when we watch tv/movies, and recently he's taken to tickling me as his new method of winning our arguments.
At the same time, he has a girlfriend back home (we both moved away from our respective homes for college) that he's been with for 5 years, and so I'm really not sure what to make of any of this. My head tells me that I'm just setting myself up for a big fall, but there's something about the way we are when we're together that just makes me feel like it's right. he's the most genuinely nice guy I've ever met (let me tell you, I've met some real keepers...) and the fact that he can always make me laugh (and vice versa) is a plus as well. I guess I just don't know if I should trust myself when I think that this feels right.
Any advice? Anything at all? I've gotten myself into another mess here, haven't I? (link)
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It sounds to me like the two of you are getting along very well and there is nothing wrong with getting along with others. Right now you don’t have a problem. But there are many things you might think about if this develops into more. The third guy that is hanging around with the two of you probably has a crush on one of you. So I would make sure he has a hint (not the whole story but a small hint) about how you feel toward Lee. The other person I am concerned about is the girlfriend Lee has back at home. Is she the Christmas break/summer girl and you the semester girl? It is too early in the relationship to DO anything about any of this but as it develops they are real questions that need to be answered. Just keep in mind that although it is natural that relationships change as we mature and find our way through our lives. When Lee moved away from his current girlfriend his mind has wandered.....And the same thing may happen to you when you are away from Lee for any significant time. But I say see where it goes. This relationship doesn’t have to last for ever. Be up front with others involved. And have fun.
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Hey! i have been dating this guy for about 14 months now and i thowt we were perfect for each other, we have a real honest and trust worthy relationship. But the other day i had a sex dream about this guy i dont find him attractive or ne thing i dont know why i had this dream. It makes me sick to my stomach when i think bout me and another guy, so when i told my boyfriend about this he wassent upset at all he was like well i had a sex dream about Stella, the thing is is that she hangs out with all of his friends and him and it makes me so mad that he could have a dream like that bout someone who he actually hangs out with, i never ever hung out with the dude who i had the dream about, I really dont know what to tell my self and i know he wassnet saying that to make me mad he really had that dream so please tell me how i should respond to this i dont know what to do!!! (link)
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The only reason he told you he had his dream is because you told him about yours. Don’t trap him into sharing with you and then make him suffer when he does. We all have sex dreams that don’t make sense. With people we don’t want to have sex with or even people we will never have sex with in our wildest dreams. There is no way to control them. Leave him alone. He isn’t hiding anything from you. Don’t treat him like he is. He is allowed to dream anything his subconscious mind wants to.
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Dear advicenators. I'm 15/m and in highschool. Theres this girl that I've liked for about a year now. We werent really going out but i made it really obvious that I liked her. I would give her stares and friendly smiles and linger around to wait for her to get out of her classes so I could walk her to her next class. I told her how i felt one day and we were on the verge of a relationship for about 4 weeks. I held her hand when we walked and bought her roses. She was my homecoming date but I never really asked her out. This one friday after school she out of the blue came up to me and told me she didn't think this was gonna work out. I was devastated and its been about a month now and I cant get her out of my head. I keep finding myself glancing over at her direction and wanting her to just look back at me for a second but she wont. I want her attention so badly that any kind of attention from her would satisfy me. I dont know what to do.. she seems to like another guy now, and you can probabally tell i'm the jealous type of person. but ya know, if shes happy its better off that way right? and now for the question, sorry for making this so long. Is there something wrong with me? What did I do wrong? and should I try to move on?
serious answers only please, Thanks in advance. (link)
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Of course there is nothing wrong with you. You feel sad that she wasn’t willing to feel the same toward you that you were starting to feel toward her. There are going to be many people in your life that will not feel the same way toward you that your feel toward them. Even people who like you a lot and you don’t like them back the same way. It is time to move on but that doesn’t mean you don’t get sad about it. That will change in time. You cant change the way others think and feel. The only thing you can do is change the way you yourself feel and react. Give her space and give yourself time to process the rejection and move on to the next stage. It is amazing the way that the human heart has the capacity to love. It is also amazing how it can mend when it has been broken and love again. Getting your heart broken just means you have that capacity to feel deeply and there is nothing wrong with that at all.
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OK, so there is this guy that I like. We are friends and we sit next to each other in almost every class because our last names are 1 letter apart. We are always partners on assignments and constantly talk and flirt. However, I cant tell if it is just playful flirting or if he wants something more. Can someone give me tips on how to make him like me/date me or signs on how to tell that he likes me? (link)
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Play it cool. Since you spend so much time together i would be careful not to make the situation uncomfortable. If you tell him everything you feel at this point and he doesnt feel the same way. You will still have to see him everyday. Id start small. Ask him if he would like to come over to your house and hang out. Do friend stuff with him away from the structure of a class room and see where it goes. If you ask him over and he never is able to come for a visit. Atleast you havent told him how you feel and you can save face later.
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My boyfriend and I went to breakfast today and he kissed the waitress on the lips and she had a nickname for her. He insists she is is like a sis to him. They have known each other before I even met him. Am I too jealous, how should I react? (link)
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Ask your self this....Does he kiss everyone he knows on the lips when he says hello? Does he kiss a lot of people on the lips when he says hello? Does he kiss some people on the lips when he says hello? It seems odd to me. If he doesnt kiss anyone but her on the lips when he says hello then id say something to him. Ask him to stop. or ask him to kiss her on the cheek and tell him to save the lip action for you!
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I am in love..I think. In my ROTC @ my college, there is this woman (lets call her Rita). We see eachother during ROTC classes, but not much otherwise because of our schedules. I have a complicated work/school schedule, and she has the same schedule problems plus she has a one year old son. We have fun when we do get to hang out, we talk on the phone for no less than an hour almost everynight. Where's the problem you ask? Its what I just told you. We are both in a position where we aren't looking for a relationship for various reasons. For me, I don't have the time or money to have a quality relationship. For her, she just wants to make good friends because she lost so many from high school when she got pregnant with her son (in addition to not having the time, etc...). I know that I cannot afford a relationship right now, and I also respect and understand Rita's situation, but I'm finding that the more I get to know her the more I fall for her. I love her laugh, the way she looks at me gives me such a good feeling... I don't even know how to describe it. We have talked about how I feel about her, vaguely, but I didn't tell her to whole truth. I am falling for her fast, and I want to be more than her friend, but not at the cost of our friendship. The worst part about this is I dont truely know how she feels about me. A fellow cadet told me he over heard Rita and another female cadet speaking of a guy whom Rita was developing "feelings" for, and since he had already figured out that I liked Rita he felt I should know that she might be returning my feelings. However, when I asked Rita to be my date to our ROTC Military Ball, she imformed me that she was "kinda already going with someone who wasn't in the ROTC". The apologetic way she said it made me think two things; either I wasn't the guy she is having feelings for, or she felt bad because she wasn't sure if I was going to ask her to the ball (or if I was even allowed to ask her as a fellow cadet) and asked a friend to be her guest/date. I'm not jealous, I'm a little hurt. My question, now that you (my advisors) have almost all the background info you need to know;
What can I do to show her how I truely feel without ruining our friendship while also telling her that I'm willing to wait until she is ready to have a relationship? And in addition to that, What can I do to find out how she feels about me without making her think I'm completly ignoring what she said about 'not looking for anything right now'(she can feel about me that same way I feel for her but NOT tell me because she doesnt want to be in a relationship right now, you know what I mean?)? (link)
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Unfortunatly relationships come at good times as well as bad times in our life. my gut feeling is she likes you. if she tells you all the time how she isnt ready for a relationship right now then it seems to me she is feeling like thats where you are headed. She can tell you like her. give it time. become her friend. The best love relationships start as friendships. dont pressure her. If you waited to the last min to ask her to the ball it may be she didnt think you would...hang tough. give it time. but be there for her. show her the type of guy you are. and ask her earlier next time.
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I did something a couple of months ago that at the time I thought I did the right thing but now I'm regretting it. Well basically what happened is the man I was in love with who I thought loved me back dumped me very cruelly. I told him that I wouldn't have an affair; or get invovled sexually with him as long as he was married. Instead of respecting my decision he told me he wanted nothing to do with me. The reason I thought he did want to be with me is because he kept asking me if I wanted children and that I'd be a great mom and he had never had kids. I also knew he was really unhappy with his wife. I thought he loved me and he obviously was leading me on and just telling me what I wanted to hear so eventually I would sleep with him. I guess I just need someone to tell me that I did the right thing because I've been feeling so down about this. (link)
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well you did the wrong thing entertaining the thought of a relationship with a married man. Then you wised up. How he broke up with you doesnt matter. it is good that he did. find a single guy. Regret that you dated a married man not that you got dumped by one. He was leading his wife on.....not you.
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Alright so there is this boy a really like. Hes my sisters best frend so i really didnt think i had a chance with him. But i always wondered what he though of me. So the other night when imy friend was here she asked him for me. She told him all about how i like him and everything, but now im regeting it. I feel like it was stupid to have my friend do it and i should have done it myself. So i am just wondering what you think? SHould i have done it myself. I know i cant take back time and change it but do you think it was stupid to have my friend do it? Do you thikn ghe will think im more childish now and to afraid to confront him myself? (link)
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If this happens again and you cant tell the guy yourself, have your friend ask him out for you instead of telling him that you like him. Or of course ask him out yourself. No reason to put all your cards on the table. that way if he says no you get your answer. and he doesnt know everything you feel.
Now that he knows it is totaly up to him if he wants to follow thru. all the balls are in his court. if he doesnt do something soon id some how show him you are going out with another guy so things dont get to uncomfortable when he comes around. let him and yourself off the hook.
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well, a couple nights ago i was at my best friends house, and her brother was there and we both really like eachother! well when my friend fell asleep so he came into his sisters room where i was and he started making out with me. So we were just making out for a while and then he fingered me and i gave him a hand job! well then he had to go cause his mom didnt know that we were making out and everything so he left and then on monday he had a g/f. so i do not know what to do cause i really love him and i thought he loved me to! so do i talk to him about it or do i just let it go??? please help! (link)
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he is a jerk. He doesnt love you and you dont love him. and he is a jerk to his gf. Is that the guy you want? I truly think it is not possible to love someone unless they love you back. Love is a equal thing. it goes both ways. find an equal. he isnt it. Do you cheat on your bf's? then why would you want one that is going to cheat on you?
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Okay well I got these new jeans yesterday and they cost me 50$ and today at school I accidentaly rubbed an ink pen on my jeans. They`re brand new & I need some help on how to take the stain off. Any products or techniques will do. Thank you. (link)
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Oxie clean worked for me...i had to soak if for a while....but it worked.
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i need help.
badly.
i was a new student this year, i came from a coed school and i transfered to an exclusive school. i'm 14 but i'm in the 10th grade. we've started out third semester.
today, me and three other classmates were playing truth or dare and it pointed to one of my close friends. she insisted on truth and told us that she would tell us who her crush was...
except me.
i didnt know why but she wouldve told me because she knows i'm trustworthy. she even told a girl whom she wasnt close with!
after she told her, the girl said "Ashley! Its you!" I wasnt sure whether to believe her or not because she wasnt a close friend of mine.and i couldnt really tell.
but then...why didnt she tell me who it was? unless she WAS referring to ME...
i tried to ask my other classmates who her crush was to know the truth. but they just said "Its a secret...I dont want to tell you."
But i'm a bit scared. what if it was true? the whole day, i felt awkward around her. but if it wasnt true, whats to be awkward about?
i dont wanna affect our friendship but if it was true, i'd wanna avoid her. but then she'd probably think that someone told me or something.
what should i do? i dont feel the same for her anyway. i dont support girl pairing at all.
please help.
sincerely,
aSHLey
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sorry to tell you this but it sounds like it is you she likes. If you dont support "girl pairing" then tell her. If a boy you liked as a friend liked you more you could deal with it couldnt you? and even stay friends? it is the same thing. she isnt going to force you to be gay. Id tell her how you feel so she can find a better person to be her friend.
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I know its really weird, but I've liked my teacher since being in his class last year. I don't know what to do and it is getting awkward just to be around him. Hes twice my age!! What should I do? I graduate this year and I'm afraid I will still like him then. (link)
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I assume you are not 18yo and you are graduating high school and not college. You will have many relationships in your life time. wait till you are of age and reconnect with him when he wont lose his job. you will have much more to offer the relationship. and he wont be a sick man for showing you interest. And i think you should ask yourself some hard honest questions about the relationship you have with your own father. Did he miss treat you? was he not there? If there are issues there deal with them first...
A crush is fine but not when it crosses a line. wait till there is no line to cross.... and see if you still like him.
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