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Roses
So this guy , who is one of my good friends but isn't that good looking like at all. (Not trying to be mean) was talking about how he was getting roses for this girl for vday, and then he was like so..do you like roses? and I was like uh.. yeah..? am I just being paranoyed (sp?) Or is he getting me roses for vday?!!! I really don't want to have him give me something..but I don't want to be like oh uhh..thanks.. how do I show him that I don't like him without being mean?! he suffers from depression, so I really REALLY don't want him to get sad if I don't like him. WHAT TO DO?!
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The fact that he suffers from depression really isnt the point. No matter how you let him know you are not interested will make him some what sad. When people suffer from depression it is a chemical thing and needs to be delt with by a professional. Anyway...he has a girl friend. Thats reason enough to tell him you like the roses and you love him as a friend (keep the flowers) V day is for all kinds of love. It doesnt mean you have to marry him. Then if he keeps coming on to you tell him you are not interested in someone that would do that to their girlfriend. You never even have to tell him you dont find him physically attractive. You can be honest with out being mean. The best way to tell a man you are not interested in him is to tell them how happy you are that youre friends.
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his depression isnt your responsibility...if the roses are for you...you can take them...its not like they are handcuffs that bond you to him....you dont pwe him anything...
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He totally likes you. OR he is just a really good guy friend like ME! (j/p) ANYWAY, if he does get you roses just accept them and respond, "Wow! You got me roses!? Thank you so much!"
Unfortunately for you, he probably might ask you to be his girl friend. He will probably be VERY nervous, but you just have to say is, "I don't want to be in a relationship right now. Please don't take it the wrong way or anything because you are an awesome person, but I am just not ready for a boyfriend right now."
Be sincere and respectful. He will accept it, and move on...hopefully. But you never know.
BUT!!!! This only falls into place if you are the girl he is going to give those roses too!
-AJ
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It might be you. If its not, then thats good. If it is, be like.. "thanks, none of my friends have done this for me before" and try to get the point clear that you guys are just friends. You might feel bad, but if you try and hint that you only like him as a friend then you won't have to be like "hey, were only friends blablabla". I hope this helped
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