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Myy Msn won't sign in! I clicked on trouble shoot and everything is fine but it won't sign in! Whats wrong with it??!?!?! All 5s 4 a decent answer!!! (link)
Oh wow. This always happens to me. I close MSN, and make sure it's gone from the little tool bar thing on the bottom of your screen. If it's not, right click on it and press exit. Try signing in again. If it doesn't work, disconnect your internet and try again. If THAT doesn't work, then restart your computer.
I hope I helped.


This kid I know from school has become really good friends with me. He's average looking...but we have enough in common. He just admitted he likes me, and I admitted I kind of felt the same way. We dont wanna go out because we know it would ruin our friendship. Im just confused...i agree about not going out...but where to from here? (link)
if you said you wanna be just friends, your just friends.


My sister is 11 and in 6th grade. She weighs like 89 pounds. She is about 4 11. She cares about her weight a lot. She thinks shes fat but I've seen her friends and they say she nots and her stomach isnt that big at all. She is also muscular. Like she is a fast runner and she is strong. So do you think she is heavy for her age?? And do you know any ways that she could lose weighgt?? (link)
shes completely fine!

im 13, 7th grade. and like 60 pounds.

now thats a little low? right? true.

peace out girl scout


ok i am 5'4" and i weigh 106.5 lbs. am i overweight? is it irrational to think that i am fat???people tell me i worry too much i dont c y though.please help!
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you are fine! you are a little underweight you should be about 115 pounds. you are fine being 9 pounds underweight.

peace out girl scout


This kid in my grade just asked me out two hours ago and I don't know what to do. He's really ugly, annoying (at least to everyone else except me), steals things, and teachers really don't trust him. He has really bad grades and is proud of it! And not trying to sound mean, but he also completely bores me to death. I dread talking to him, he's so boring. I really, sincerely don't want to be his girlfriend, but on the other hand, I feel sorry for him because he's so unpopular and friendless. And I have a huge crush on this other amazing guy. I told him that I'd answer him on Monday so I'd have time to think it over. I'm so confused on what I should say. I don't want to go out with him, but I don't want to hurt his feelings. And I don't want to "just be friends" either. Should I reject him, and if I should, what do I say?

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well if you dont like him, dont go out with him.

and if it breaks his heart, tell him you like someone else right?

peace out girl scout


I have to write half a paper, write a summary of a play, and do a review sheet. If i start at 7:00 do you think I will be able to finish around 11? (link)
if you work really incessantly and efficiently, then i bet that's plently of time to finish.

but unless you're only free until 7:00, i would start a little earlier just in case.

~~hope i helped!!~~


im a gurl, and im 13
so 2 years ago i went out with this guy, X, for 5 months, im in 8th grade now and we are finally good friends again. so i now like guy X but he has a gf. if it was JUST a gf it wouldnt be a huge problem but his GF is my BFF. she often asks me if i like X and i always say no, and then she asks if i would go out with him if he asked i always so no or maybe...... what should i do?

--DESPERATE! (link)
you should NEVER brake up someone else's relationship, no matter what.

i know this is really hard to see the one you love going out with someone, but you still can't brake up his relationship!

how would you feel if you were going out with your bff's X, and she told you she liked him and broke up your relationship with him?

if you brake up their relationship, then that might also hurt your friendship with her.

the best thing to do now is to just let them keep going out.

and when they brake up, then that's your chance to tell him that you still have feelings for him.

but just make sure you don't tell him while he's going out with someone!

if you're friend asks you again if you like him and stuff, then just say no, because she might get mad if you say yes.

ask her why she keeps asking you and see what she says.

if she says she doesn't like him that much, then tell her that you really do like him, but you just didn't want to tell her because you didn't want her to get mad at you.

then maybe since she doesn't like him and she knows that you do, she'll brake up with him.

then tell him how you feel about him. but make sure you talk to him when no one else is around.

just say it like this "i sort of have feelings for you again... and i just wanted to know if you like me too or not"

and if he says yes, then maybe he'll ask you out.

but if he says no, then don't get crushed and depressed and everything. because soon you'll find someone better then him.

and it's his loss, and he'll soon realize that he missed out on a perfect girl.

when you ask your bff why she keeps asking you this and she says she still does like him, then just leave them alone.

you'll find someone better, and he's just not worth spending all this time on.

~good luck!!~


there is this girl that i've liked since 2nd grade and i like her even more.i am now in 9th grade and i think she is the one but i am afraid to ask her out because i am afraid she will say no. so what should i do?i am a male. (link)
if you've liked her for that long, then you should definently ask her out!

just go for it!

it means more if you ask her out in person when you two are alone, but if you can't in person, then ask her out by phone. if you can't do that either, then find out if she has a screen name, and if she does, then ask her out there.

you can do any of those things, but just make sure you DON'T get someone to ask her out for you!

that means that you're just a coward that can't even ask someone out yourself, and if you really loved her alot, then you should be able to ask her out YOURSELF!

but first, you have to make sure that you guys talk a lot, and that you two know each other enough.

if she doesn't know you at all, then she's probably gona say no.

also, if you two arent' really comfortable around each other, then there's NO WAY it'll work out.

if you two aren't comfortable around each other, then that probably means that you two just don't know each other enough.

because i went out with this guy that i've known for like 8 years now, and so it worked out perfect, and we didn't feel uncomfortable around each other at all.

but when i went out with a guy that i only knew for a year that i barely even talked to, we just felt so uncomfortable around each other.

you first, if you two dont know each other well enough, then just talk to her a lot, and get to know her more.

then ask her out. tell her that you'll liked her since 2nd grade, and you think that she's really the one, and you think that it would work out really well.

if she says no, then that's her loss. maybe you two were just not meant to be. but don't worry because one day you'll find the one.

if you ask her out and she says no, then at least you'll know that she doesnt have feelings for her.

but if you don't ask her out, then you'll always be wondering what she would've said, and you'll regret that you didn't ask her out.

and maybe she will say yes, just show her how sweet you are!!

*good luck!*



out of the blue 2 guys like me at the same time. i chose the one that i knew the most. we have been going out for a day and hes saying he loves me and i just feel confused and i want to tell him that. but then this other guy is so sweet and says he would never cheat on me and stuff because the guy im going with is what you would call a rebel. i really dont know what to do please help me (link)
first, you should ask your self this: do you really love this guy that you're going out with? and do you also like the other guy that's saying things about your boyfriend?

if you love your boyfriend, and don't like the other guy, then you should trust your boyfriend, and not trust the other guy.

the other guy's probably just saying those things about him because he loves you too, and he's jealous of him.

tell your boyfriend how you feel, and about being really confused about everything. see what he sais about it, and no matter what your boyfriend says, say that you trust him and believe him, and you don't believe the other guy.

but if you do like your boyfriend a lot, but you don't exactly believe him, and you sort of like the other guy also, then you should brake up with him.

this situation is just going to get you in trouble.

if your boyfriend found out that you like the other guy, then he'll brake up with you anyway.

just tell him that you're really confused right now, and you sort of have feelings for both of the guys, and so you don't think that right now is the best time to go out with him.

if you don't like the other guy that's saying the stuff about your boyfriend, but you really really love your boyfriend but just don't trust him, then it just might not work out.

because you should always be able to trust the one you love no matter what.

or maybe it might just be because you love him, but you're scared that the other guy might be right, so you just don't trust him.

**good luck!!**


okay, well just recently i entered highschool. i love it every way. but the only problem is that my friends, my old ones from middle school. they bareally talk to me. we all used to hangout every single weekend. and now they are all interested about being popular and hanging out with the right croud. and it gets me really upset because they all hangout together and im home alone and they dont even ask me to hangout when they know im sitting home all alone. my best friend still even hangs out with them and i ask her to hangout and shes like i cant im sorry and this is an every weekend thing. (link)
you definently DON'T deserve friends like that.

now that you're in high school w/ new friends, and a new school, this is your time to start over. so if you want to make a difference, then now's the time.

find another friend that would never do that. best friends stay with you no matter what and don't ditch you over someone else.

i know they're your friends and everything, and it's ok to still be friends with them, but find an even better friend first.

then, you can just hang out with her first, and if you other friends want to hang out with you or something, then you can.

so this way you can be friends with them and everything, but if they don't invite you to something, then you can just hang out with your other friend.

but if they wana be excluding you like that, then that's their choice, so you should go find better friends.

and being popular isn't everything. sometimes it's just better not to even be popular, cuz high school is different from middle school, and some of the popular kids at high school are mean and slutty.

if you don't want to be part of that group but all of your friends are, then you shouldn't just become part of that group because your friends are, so you should find a friend from the right group that you like

~good luck!!~


OK well im a 13/f and when I was little and still now if like i do somthing "bad"..or i get my dad mad...he'll like hit me...and like i dont know if thats really considered abuse..well see this all came up because my friend jessica was tellin us how she stayed out late and her dad got really mad and she called her mom and was like i think dads gunna hit me cuz hes really mad but if he lays a hand on me ill call the cops...so that just got me thinkin to myself...is what my dad does considered abuse or just a way of him "punishing" me.
plz answer
thanks

.... (link)
sounds like abuse to me...

its especially abuse if you get bruses and cuts from him and he never apologizes. or feeds you.

also especially if he sees you crying cut && bruised from him and he just walks away

next time he slaps you call the cops

peace out girl scout



okay well my bday (sweet 16) is in less than 2 monthes and i need ideas for a party. its going to be at my house and i need ideas for an easy theme. nothing cheesy. its going to be mostly girls and some guys. prob between 10-20 people. i was thinking of a snow out side thing but there is a chance there may be no snow yet.

also any ideas for a place i can go where we can stay the whole time (my parents cant ride back and forth) that is indoors and inexpensive


i live in pittsburgh pa (link)
do the snow theme

if theres no snow.... use like little things thats fake snow that you see on TV and stuff!!

peace out girl scout



I'm 13/f and don't have any ideas for a Halloween costume. I want a HOMEMADE costume. I wanna be something cute and maybe get my crushes attention but still be let out of the house wearing it. I dont wanna cut holes in pants and ruin clothes or anything but I'm open for ideas. THANKS SO MUCH in advance! (link)
OH MY GOD! im being a modle for school halloween party of o5. like wear your best clothes! and have your mom or sister or friend give you a cute look to it!! pewace out girl scout



I have been going out with is cute guy 4 about 2 weeks. But when we were friendz I liked him better than now. He is so serious now. He never talks to me, calls me, & sometimes ignores me! It makes me feel ugly! :( I am getting very mad at him. I don't know why he is like this. I mean I want the old guy that I used to know that would cut up and laugh and everything! Not a guy who completely ignores me!! Please Help! (PLEASE No smarts!) 13/F (link)
you should definently talk to him about it, because you don't want to just go on in this situation do you?

maybe he's thinking the same thing that you are. maybe he also thinks that it was just easier when you two were friends.

you should first just talk to him, and then wait for about 1 or 2 weeks to see how it goes, and if doesn't change then you should brake up with him.

if it just doesn't go well and you want to brake up with him, then do it really nicely and explain to him why you want to brake up. just say that it was easier when you two were just friends.

if you do brake up with him, then it'll probably be awkward for a while, but it'll get back to normal sooner or later, so don't worry.

when you talk to him, you should talk to him really nicely in person, so that you can see his facial expressions, to kind of get the idea of how he feels about everything.

just say that you feel like he's mad at you or something, because he never calls you or talks to you, it he acts sort of serious now. tell him that he seemed more happier and nicer to you when you two were just friends.

just see what his reaction is about that, and if he says he'll try to do better or say something positive like that, then give him another chance.

but if he says that it's just different now or something negetive like that, then you should probably brake up with him.

and by the way, this has nothing to do with you being ugly, so you shouldn't feel ugly because of this!

~hope i helped!~


I have been going out with is cute guy 4 about 2 weeks. But when we were friendz I liked him better than now. He is so serious now. He never talks to me, calls me, & sometimes ignores me! It makes me feel ugly! :( I am getting very mad at him. I don't know why he is like this. I mean I want the old guy that I used to know that would cut up and laugh and everything! Not a guy who completely ignores me!! Please Help! (PLEASE No smarts!) 13/F (link)
you should definently talk to him about it, because you don't want to just go on in this situation do you?

maybe he's thinking the same thing that you are. maybe he also thinks that it was just easier when you two were friends.

you should first just talk to him, and then wait for about 1 or 2 weeks to see how it goes, and if doesn't change then you should brake up with him.

if it just doesn't go well and you want to brake up with him, then do it really nicely and explain to him why you want to brake up. just say that it was easier when you two were just friends.

if you do brake up with him, then it'll probably be awkward for a while, but it'll get back to normal sooner or later, so don't worry.

when you talk to him, you should talk to him really nicely in person, so that you can see his facial expressions, to kind of get the idea of how he feels about everything.

just say that you feel like he's mad at you or something, because he never calls you or talks to you, it he acts sort of serious now. tell him that he seemed more happier and nicer to you when you two were just friends.

just see what his reaction is about that, and if he says he'll try to do better or say something positive like that, then give him another chance.

but if he says that it's just different now or something negetive like that, then you should probably brake up with him.

and by the way, this has nothing to do with you being ugly, so you shouldn't feel ugly because of this!

~hope i helped!~


Well I had a 50 dollar bill and well my cousin watched me put it in my purse and then I walked away for a second and well I know for a fact that she steals stuff from my family cause my family geos on vaction every year and she and her mom and brother stay at our house and one time she told me that she stole my sisters cds and bra and underwaer and I think that she took my money cause I cant find it anywhere! How can I ask her without getting her mom mad at me?? easy fives thankss...and I will report bullsh*t answers (link)
this girl needs to be stopped but at the same time you don't know if it's her for sure so, I say look around for it, tell your mom it's gone then tell her if she doesn't confess and you STILL think it's her tell your mom see what she says... if worst comes to worst you'll have to tell her mom

p.s try asking her did she buy anything new lately?


my dad and my mom are brokin up, and my dad and step mom fight all the time and i can't take it i hate her (step mom) she is so mean if my sister says something to me like "SHUT UP" and i say it back she gose tells her mom and the my stepmom tells my mom and i get in trouble and i want to spend more time at my moms now because of her but i love my dad and i want to be with him but not her! please help me! (link)
it must be hard to have someone new come into your family like that. just give it some time. maybe she'll lightend up, you just need to show her how nice and smart you are.

just act really nice to her and welcome her into the family.

i bet it's really hard for her too to come into a new family with a step daughter.

the best thing that you can do is talk to your mom(not step mom)and dad about it.

just try to get them together so that you can talk to them at the same time, but if they don't want to be together, then talk to them seperately.

tell your dad that you're glad to see him happy and everything, but you just think that you're stepmom is sort of mean to you.

say that you really love your dad A LOT, but you just can't live with him because of your stepmom, and so you want to live with your mom instead. also, just say some examples of how you're mom's been mean to you.

tell him that you've tried to get along with your stepmom, but you just can't stand it.

ask you mom if you can go live with her, and if she says yes but your dad sais no, then get your mom to persuade your dad into letting you stay with her.

i'm sure that if your mom really loves you, then she'll say that you can stay with her.

***good luck!!***


OK, so I've started "seeing" this guy that I ADORE and this weekend he was away. Anyway i went out with friends to this bar everyone goes to, and this drunk guy basically grabbed me and starts making out with me! I told him no, but he wouldnt listen, and i kinda reciprocated for a few seconds before realising it was a mistake.

I feel really guilty, and its poss he could find out as its a bar where lots of people know each other.

I dont wanna tell him what happened, what should i do? thanks (link)
first, you should tell him what happened. he might not find out about it even if you don't tell him, but there's a chance that he will.

he'd be even more mad about it if he finds out about it and you never told him, than if you just tell him.

just tell him that when you went to a bar with some friends, a drunk guy came up to you and started making out with you. tel him that you told him no and tried to pull away but he just kept kissing you, until you finaly got away from him.

even if you're boyfriend gets a little mad, i'm sure he'll forgive you, and he'll be glad that you were honest with him.

**good luck!!***


well there is 2 guys i like and they both like me but the problem is i dont know who to pick cuz i like them both and they are both really sweet and nice..i dont kno what to do??? (link)
you don't have to decide now. just stay really good friends with both of them now. soon, the answer will come to you, and you'll be able to decide who you like better really easily. but for now, just stay cool with everything.

you wouldn't want to just go out with one of them and then also like the other one, because it's not fair to the person you're going out with, or to the other person that you like, and it's really not fair to you either!

don't decide too soon, because you might find out later that you like the other guy better.

try making a list of pro's and con's(things you like about them and things you don't like about them), and see which one has more pro's and which one has more con's.

also, if one of them asks you out, then you can just say yes to them if you want. but i would suggest not saying yes until AFTER you decide who you like better.... but it's your choice!

you could also just let fate decide. just forget about it for now, and just wait until the answer just comes up and you know who you really like best.


it all really depends on your "type" of guy. but if it were me, i'd pick whoever was the more mature one. all guys are immature and they never really grow out of it, but just pick the guy that's the sweetest and the more mature one.

what kind of guy do you like best? manly, sensitive, sweet, mature, smart, hottttt...etc... but don't just pick the guy that's hott, because it's as much on the inside that counts as much as it is on the outside.

**good luck**


Okay, I'm like SO sad because my best friend in the entire world moved! It's not just something I can get over, because she has been my bff since 1st grade, and we're in 9th now!=

She moved about an hour away. I know it's not THAT far, but it seems like it. I used to go to her house EVER night, and now we only see each other about 3 times a month. Not only that, I don't want us to grow apart from this. I couldn't stand to lose my bff to another person. Any advice? I rate 5's. (link)
it's always really really hard to have your bff move away like that.

i know how it feels because i had a bff too that moved 7 hours away (by plane), and i just couldn't stand it. i thought that maybe our friendship would grow apart, and then we would just forget about each other. but it didn't happen, because we were such good friends that we always kept in touch with each other, even though we could never see each other.

don't worry, i bet she's thinking the same thing as you, and just can't stand that she's moving away and not going to be able to see you as much now.

it just takes a while of getting used to. and if you 2 r really close, then your friendship won't grow apart.

because remember, you can always call each other whenever you want, and you can see each other on weekends. talk to each other on IM and stuff, and i'm sure that it'll work out fine and you two won't drift apart.

if you two really value the friendship that you have, then you'll stay bff. it might take a while of getting used to, but as time goes by, you'll get uesd to it.

just cherish every moment you're with her!!

*good luck!*




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