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stupid friends?
okay, well just recently i entered highschool. i love it every way. but the only problem is that my friends, my old ones from middle school. they bareally talk to me. we all used to hangout every single weekend. and now they are all interested about being popular and hanging out with the right croud. and it gets me really upset because they all hangout together and im home alone and they dont even ask me to hangout when they know im sitting home all alone. my best friend still even hangs out with them and i ask her to hangout and shes like i cant im sorry and this is an every weekend thing.
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I'm sorry to say this sweetie, but they've moved on. People change so much when they enter highschool. Some may move onto new groups. But that doesn't mean that they hate you! You shouldn't worry about it, just find a new group that loves you for who you are. As for those other girls, just forget about them.
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Well if your "friends" don't want to hangout with you anymore f*ck them!They just don't know what they're missing out on. Just make new friends who you share hobbies with and who will spend weekends with you!
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Ok first of all i think its GREAT that your not changing yourself to be popular or in the in corwd like your friends are but i think that you should talk to your middle school friends tell them your feeling left out and want to be included and if they still dont include you then you should jion clubs and make friends .If they don want to hang out with you dont wait around for them.Hope i helped!
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One thing you need to learn about highschool, and I learned this the HARD way. Highschool changes things.
Your best friends WILL turn into bitches. It's happened.
If they are making such an effort to exclude you from their plans, why not make the effort to make new friends? Lose a friend, gain a better one.
Highschool is going to have so many new experiences for you, there are so many new people there. Try to get to know someone from one of the other schools and start trying to find a new group of friends. That's what I had to do.
Even the most popular girls from my middle school are not friends anymore, they are friends with other 'popular' girls.
Just leave them alone, forget about them and move on. I know it's hard to just drop them as friends, but really think about it.. They pretty much did it to you.
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you definently DON'T deserve friends like that.
now that you're in high school w/ new friends, and a new school, this is your time to start over. so if you want to make a difference, then now's the time.
find another friend that would never do that. best friends stay with you no matter what and don't ditch you over someone else.
i know they're your friends and everything, and it's ok to still be friends with them, but find an even better friend first.
then, you can just hang out with her first, and if you other friends want to hang out with you or something, then you can.
so this way you can be friends with them and everything, but if they don't invite you to something, then you can just hang out with your other friend.
but if they wana be excluding you like that, then that's their choice, so you should go find better friends.
and being popular isn't everything. sometimes it's just better not to even be popular, cuz high school is different from middle school, and some of the popular kids at high school are mean and slutty.
if you don't want to be part of that group but all of your friends are, then you shouldn't just become part of that group because your friends are, so you should find a friend from the right group that you like
~good luck!!~
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friends come and go ..especially when making the middle school to high school transition. if they were true friends, they wouldnt neglect you liek this..my suggestion is to make new friends. if my friends couldnt make time for me..neglected me..and that kind of stuff..i would get the impression my friendship wasnt important to me, therefore i would move on to friends who do find my friendship important. luckily, i have awesome friends who i love very much..and i know you will find your group of friends as well. :)
-melissa-
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If your friends are that shallow, you don't want them to be your friends anyway.
I suggest finding out what you're good at (a sport, band, theater, whatever), joining an activity, and making friends with the other people there that will have something in common with you. It sounds like you just want a sense of belonging along with some decent friends, and I think this would be a good way of helping you with that.
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Okay these ppl dont seem like real friends, instead of waiting for them to let you in their crowd - you should go out and make some new friends of your own. But dont act desperate and be friends with the first person you see, make sure it's some1 you really want to be friends with
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Get new friends! If they dont even bother to hang with you they arent very good friends. Find a new group of friends. Some of the best people you meet are in highschool
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I'm sorry, that is such a terrible to have happen to you, but its not uncommon. People when they enter high school get caught up in being popular and try to have new images. There is no reason why you have to sit around alone all weekend waiting for these so-called friends to call you. The best thing about high school is that there are a lot more people and there are a lot more activities to join. I would say try and do that and try and make some new friends in the process, ones that value you and want to spend time with you...
As for your best friend, I would call her and tell her your feelings and tell her that you miss seeing her. Hopefully you two can get together and talk it out.
This may not be the easiest time for you, I've been through it. Its lonely and full of self-doubt, but you are only hurting yourself the more you stay home and not try to branch out and meet new people. I bet you'd be surprised how many people in your grade are in similar positions and would love to hang out with you.
Good luck and keep me posted.
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