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cheating
OK, so I've started "seeing" this guy that I ADORE and this weekend he was away. Anyway i went out with friends to this bar everyone goes to, and this drunk guy basically grabbed me and starts making out with me! I told him no, but he wouldnt listen, and i kinda reciprocated for a few seconds before realising it was a mistake.
I feel really guilty, and its poss he could find out as its a bar where lots of people know each other.
I dont wanna tell him what happened, what should i do? thanks
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I would tell him so he won't worry too much. Don't let it bug you, you had NOTHING to do with the guy that was in the bar, drunk. Although, those are some of the consequences of stepping foot into a bar. Hope I helped!
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well i think you should tell him the TRUTH. after all you did stop eventually didn't you?
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well, your screwed! the only option you really have is to tell him, apologize and hope for the best! he'll have even sore feelings towards you if he finds out from someone else!
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even tho you don't want to tell him he rather hear it from you than from someone else. tell wat happend i am sure he will be on your side
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I think you're first mistake is deciding not to tell your beau about what happened at the bar. If you truly adore him as much as you say you do, then you should be willing to be completely upfront and honest with him. The only way to relief that guilty, drunken chip off of your shoulder is to tell your guy what happened, and if really is as great as you think he is then he should be able to understand and forgive.
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let me just say that if you hold it in you will feel guilty forever. my freind cheated on her fiance (and by cheated i dont mean just made out with some one else either...) and she was so consumed by guilt for the first week that she gave in and told him. and they are getting married this fall. it is best to be honest. i am sure he will understand. but keeping it in is not a good thing. but telling him, he may not trust you for a while...but i think it is better than having that guilty pang in your stomach everytime your with him. good luck to you!
the future mrs steven mark jones
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first, you should tell him what happened. he might not find out about it even if you don't tell him, but there's a chance that he will.
he'd be even more mad about it if he finds out about it and you never told him, than if you just tell him.
just tell him that when you went to a bar with some friends, a drunk guy came up to you and started making out with you. tel him that you told him no and tried to pull away but he just kept kissing you, until you finaly got away from him.
even if you're boyfriend gets a little mad, i'm sure he'll forgive you, and he'll be glad that you were honest with him.
**good luck!!***
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Well if he finds out, just tell him there was nothing you could do about it. Tell him that it wasn't your fault the guy started kissing you, because you told him to stop, and he WAS drunk so even he didn't know really what he was doing. If he doesn't find out, you should still tell him because once he hears from one of your friends he wont trust you much. Just be honest and everything will be fine. If he gets upset with you, then he doesn't trust you, and if he doesn't trust you, then he shouldn't be able to go out with you. Good luck and tell me what happens <3
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Well, if the guy you are "seeing" really cared about you, he would believe what you said happened. Just say to him, "When you were gone, I was at this bar...And some dude just started making out with me! I kept telling him no but he wouldn't stop." Or something in that matter.
I hope this helped =]
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I don't see how you did anything wrong because HE grabbed YOU. but if you really want to get this off your chest because you feel bad about it, then you need to tell your guy before anyone else does (he would rather hear it from you, trust me). Just explain it perfectly that way he won't get different stories from different people.
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Hi There,
Some people say that just thinking sexy thoughts about someone other than your partner is enough to describe you as unfaithful. But the most common definition is someone who is publicly committed to one partner, but who has a sexual relationship with another person. In a marriage or other long-term relationship, it's often described as an affair if it goes on for longer than one night.
Almost as many females are unfaithful too, although sometimes their motivation for straying may be different.
These are some of the reasons, but beware of anyone who just uses them as excuses or justification for their behaviour:
Fear of commitment: The most common reason for this is plain old immaturity, but occasionally it points to deeper psychological problems.
Getting back at someone: This is often done to punish the other partner for being unfaithful.
Wanting to break up: Some people see being unfaithful as a way to get out of an old relationship, but they often don't stay with their new lover afterwards.
Boredom or unhappiness: Often, the relationship is not working well, things are too routine and predictable, or there are sex or communication problems. Some people are seeking affection or attention, while others go looking for sex.
Power trips: The unfaithful partner seems to think that they are entitled to have whatever they want, whenever they want it. They don't seem to care much about the consequences of their actions, or who gets hurt.
Insecurity: Someone who has low self-esteem and needs lots of approval to feel attractive can be flattered easily.
Think about this and see if this is you and how you are feeling. You may want be honest with him as its not fair on him
Goodluck
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