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depression
I have changed a lot ever since my dad died. I have become sad. Like not just sad, but like "depressed" I don't know if I am, but I'm afraid that I am. I don't want to get out of bed in the morning and have to push myself to even sit by my friends. When I am with my friends I try to laugh and smile to make it so that they don't have to see me this way, but I can't do it much longer. My grades are dropping and my parents don't suspect anything yet. I don't want them to know, they don't really understand. I don't feel comfortable talking to my mom because she cries every time i talk about him, and my step dad... well I just can't talk to him. I don't like my councilor, besides, he would talk to my mom and step dad. I can't talk to my grandmas or aunts, I just don't know what to say. My boyfriend would understand, but we aren't that far in the relatiopnship. So I don't know if he would be comfortable, it might scare him away. My father died 3 years ago, I don't know why it is just starting to bug me now. My whole life is confusing! Can you help with any of it? thanks for whatever you can do in advance!
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my dad died 5 years ago next sunday. its hard i know. its hard to lose your bestfriend, and your father figure. its okay to cry and hurt and its okay if you want to talk to your boyfriend then do because no matter if its the first month or 4 years from now its going to be the same way the rest of your life. if you need anyone to talk to you can email me at blueyeblondeqt@hotmail.com and my screen name is toblonde4you86...im here for you
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i am really sorry about how you feel and i understand you because i was just like that when my grandapa died. just think of him in heaven and of him living a very nice much better life, try to comunicate with him. and just pray to him and to god to lead you and help you go along with your life, try to talk to one of your very close frinds that you know she will understand, if it dosent workjust try too keep your hopes up because vene though he is gone phisiclly iknow he will always be in your heart. so just try to keep your hopes up. i hopemy advice works and again i am really sorry
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Hi There,
After someone close to you dies, you go through a process of mourning. Grief is the visible sign of that mourning and encompasses a wide range of physical and emotional symptoms that you experience after a loss. It is vital to let your feelings out as by bottling them up will only lead to emotional problems in the future.
Grieving for a loved one takes time. We all go through the process in different ways, and often experience conflicting or even overwhelming feelings, but slowly life will become more bearable.
The important thing is to get support from people you trust. Your family and friends all understand what you're dealing with, and will want to help. Exactly how is down to you. Whether you want to talk about your feelings, reflect on your loss, or simply get out to take your mind off things, just do whatever feels right and makes you feel better. And remember to keep in touch with your doctor. If you are having sleeping problems, your doctor may prescribe sleeping tablets or may refer you to a counsellor if you feel the need for more help to cope with a loss.
The grieving process takes time and should not be hurried. How long it will take depends on you and your situation. In general, though, it takes most people one to two years to fully recover from a major bereavement. It's common to feel especially vulnerable at times such as their birthday, the anniversary of their death, and during the Christmas holidays.
If someone close to you has dies, it can be especially difficult for those left behind. Don't be surprised if you feel completely shocked and numb, or even furiously angry at them. It's OK to feel this way for a while, and other people who knew them may be going through the same thing too.
Remember to keep in touch with your doctor. If you are having sleeping problems, your doctor may prescribe sleeping tablets or may refer you to a counsellor if you feel the need for more help to cope with a loss.
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I'm so sorry about your dad and how you are feeling. I think this is pretty serious what's going on. I think what is probably making matters worse is the fact that you feel that you can't talk to anyone and that is making you feel more alone.
I know that your mom gets upset each time you talk about him, but with the way you feel and what is going on at school she needs to know regardless of if you think it will upset her or not. But if you feel like you can't have a one on one discussion with her, talk to one of your favorite teachers, or counselors or even your best friend's mom first then you all maybe can talk together.
I know you may not want to hear this, but you may be suffering from depression. That is not to say there is something wrong with you or that you are crazy... that isn't the case at all. Its natural to feel like this and its also hard when it feels like its been so long and you should be 'over it' by now. But a person is going to feel how he or she is going to feel and there is no time line. But admitting to your feelings and getting help is a good first step.
Good luck and keep me posted. I do hope everything works out for you.
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