|
this is really hard
out of the blue 2 guys like me at the same time. i chose the one that i knew the most. we have been going out for a day and hes saying he loves me and i just feel confused and i want to tell him that. but then this other guy is so sweet and says he would never cheat on me and stuff because the guy im going with is what you would call a rebel. i really dont know what to do please help me
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
I'd say choose the other guy. Because if this guy is telling you he loves you already it doesnt sound right. Plus he seems nicer and more non-rebellish. But thats my opinion based on the little paragraph you gave and my taste in guys added in (I dont like rebels too much) so...do what feels best. Obviously you're second guessing yourself. Go out with both! Ok lol that would prob. never work out. But blah, sorry for the crappish advice.
]
just because the guy you're going with right now is a rebel doesn't mean he'll cheat on you and stuff like that. sometimes the rebels are the more trustworthy ones. i say stay with the one you're with now unless his past is cheating on people. you chose him for a reason, right? hope i helped
]
first, you should ask your self this: do you really love this guy that you're going out with? and do you also like the other guy that's saying things about your boyfriend?
if you love your boyfriend, and don't like the other guy, then you should trust your boyfriend, and not trust the other guy.
the other guy's probably just saying those things about him because he loves you too, and he's jealous of him.
tell your boyfriend how you feel, and about being really confused about everything. see what he sais about it, and no matter what your boyfriend says, say that you trust him and believe him, and you don't believe the other guy.
but if you do like your boyfriend a lot, but you don't exactly believe him, and you sort of like the other guy also, then you should brake up with him.
this situation is just going to get you in trouble.
if your boyfriend found out that you like the other guy, then he'll brake up with you anyway.
just tell him that you're really confused right now, and you sort of have feelings for both of the guys, and so you don't think that right now is the best time to go out with him.
if you don't like the other guy that's saying the stuff about your boyfriend, but you really really love your boyfriend but just don't trust him, then it just might not work out.
because you should always be able to trust the one you love no matter what.
or maybe it might just be because you love him, but you're scared that the other guy might be right, so you just don't trust him.
**good luck!!**
]
It won't be fair to guy #1 if you're constantly thinking about guy #2, and vice versa, so if you think you're gonna do that then pick neither for the time being. But, if you're fully willing to commit yourself, then try sticking with #1 for now since you *did* pick him, and you know, rebels can be sweet and loyal too :). Maybe you're just glorifying #2 because you're not with him at the moment.
But really,
Who makes you happier?
Who do you have the most in common with?
Who's personality (and looks!) are you more attracted to?
Who do you feel most comfortable around?
Who do you "click" with more?
If you dont know the answers to these, you need to spend more time with both of them!
And remember, two guys are always better than none :P
]
You definitely should stay with the kid you're dating right now. Even though you might be second guessing yourself, you made a decision, and you made it because you knew him longer. Maybe that'll help in the long run? I think you should seriously wait a few more days before you start regretting choosing this guy over the other, because it might be a big mistake. I'd be confused if I were you, too! That's weird that he says that he loves you, but that's how most people are. Maybe he's liked you for a really long time, but he was just afraid to tell you for some unknown reason. Maybe he does have strong enough feelings to love you? But anyways, if I were you I'd definitely wait it out atleast a week before you break up with the kid you're currently dating, just to see if you think you do like the other one more!
]
More Questions: |