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Okay, 3 of my very good friends think they're fat... and they're NOT!!! we're only 13 years old and they've been going on all these diets. They hardly eat anything at lunch! I cant convince them that they're not fat! I'm really afraid they're going to go anorexic or bulemic. I dont know what to do, or what to say to them to convince them they're not fat. I've talked to them MANY times about it, but they just dont believe me. It really bugs me that they think they're fat, cuz they're not fat AT ALL! please help me!

Tell them that you are verrry concerned about them becoming anerexic, and if they don't start eating, your getting them counseling. And be DEAD serious, if they don't cut it out, make them an appointment with your school counselor.

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How can i start publishing a book??? Does it cost any money??

Where do you live?Get back to me=)

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My ex boyfriend and I had been together for about two years, and now that we've broken up, he doesn't want to see me at all. (-there wasn't a fight, it was more of a 'this isn't working out, I don't feel that way about you' type of deal.) He's returned my things through a friend of ours, who gave them to me.

Well, I'm still kind of upset about the whole thing, and we were going to talk a little after we'd had some time apart. I still have some things of his, and was wondering if I should A. give then to our mutual friend, B. drop them off at his house/in person, or C. wait a week or two and then give them to him myself.

All of our friends are shared, so it seems that there will come a time when we'll be forced to see each other. I wouldn't cause a scene or push him to feel bad about our breakup if I did see him, but he seems to want to avoid me at all costs right now. When he'd broken up with me, we didn't talk at all, and it seems this still has to happen (not to get back together, but to clear my mind and his a little between us.)
What should I do? Should I wait it out?

You should do C. Because he obviously doesn't really wanna talk, so it would be beter if you waited=)

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ok so theres this guy, and he's on the swim team with my brothers, and he is their friend. recently i've been talking to him online, staing up really late, and of corse it doesnt matter bcuz its winter break. but one night we stayed up until 4:20 talking....and he's even giving me a nickname. my friends say that we've been flirting, and sparks a flying, but im not sure. i get a flushed, fluttery, and i start blushing sometimes when i talk to him online. i think i might like him, but does he like me? my friends also say that we would make a cute couple, but they can never give me a straight answer of why. the come up with, you are both tall and have brown hair.

please help!

oh yea, im also a year younger than him

Two Good things, 1, you would see eachother a lot, if you hooked up, and also, you seem to both have interest in eachother. I don't think you should straight up ask him if he likes you, because he would feel majorly on the spot. You should plan a day of going to the movies with a few of your friends, icluding guys, and ask him to come along. If he seems to really be enjoying himself, ask him out. It's alright since you are the girl. =)Best of luck

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Hey, I have Insomnia. Every night I'm up late trying to sleep. I've tried everything!!! Reading, singing, counting sheep(lol), and I don't drink that much soda. Please tell me what's wrong,b ecause I've been tired lately and I'm getting bags under my eys.

Try a medicine like Tylenal PM, or even take byendrel, becuase it makes you tired. If nothing else seems to work, its time to see your doctor=)

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Sorry this is long, but i rate high :)

I have liked this one guy for nearly a year. We used to date over the summer, but then some stuff got messed up and we broke up. Well he managed to get over me but i never got over him. Recently he and I have gotten really close (somewhat) and we talk all the time. He has been throwing hints he likes me. And apparently he told a friend of mine he likes me. Well, on thursday he and 2 of my other friends (one guy on girl) went to hang out at his house. They got bored and found an unfinished house. Well, the guy i like and my really good friend (who knew i was head over heals for him) went into the house and made out...Yesterday we went to a new years party and the girl told another one of my friends about it. Who in turn told me. Now my friend (the girl) likes him and asumes he likes her as well. Both of the people who made out have yet to confront me about it. Im so devistated right now and i feel like having a break down...Please tell me what to do because im so frustrated...Thanks.

(Please please please dont delete this!)

Omg thats horrible!! You NEED to talk to the guy about it, and ask him why he did it, and if he likes your friend. You also need to talk to your friend. Don't be afraid to cry either, love is always devastating at least once. If your guy has been dropping hints, and then runs off with your friend, move on, no decent guy would ever treat someone that way. Check back with me for that=)Good luck!

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I have this friend named Heidi, and shes a really fun girl to hang out with. I know she has a rough time at home because her brother and her are really close and when he does pot and crap she gets super mad and cries really bad because he soon before stopped. Her sister also drinks and she has to babysit for her 1 year old neice (sisters baby). By the way the sister is not married. Or w/ the boyfriend w/ the baby anymore. Um, yeah, anyways, i thought that backround info might help, but, she is such an energized person at school and to hang out with. very fun to hang out with. but sometiems most of the time she can be snotty. its her personality. she will be like your a bitch! and stuff as a 'joke' and she knows ALL the swear words possible.. cock sucker pussy licker, bitch, hoe, skank, etc. yeah, so shes realy good at comebacks. anyways, yeah, im the kind of person thats sorta dumb and stuff like slow on things, they call me a total dumb blonde and the most blonde i have is highlights bcuz im a brunette. anyways, yeah, she'll be like ERIN SUCKS shout that when i bowl like the other day, and then she'll randomly hit me and stuff like punch me and then she started hitting me HARD and it hurt im like what r u doing she goes IM BORED im like ummm ok... and the whoel time she was walking around in her tightest jeans and tighest shirt and she has a big butt big boobs shes pretty kinda and idk, she was walking around like she was the king of the world, queen i mean, and she was stickingher chest out and crap. it just annoys me so bad. and she'll make fun of me as a quote joke unquote and shell laff and im like no.... not funny that hurt. but i cant confront her w/ all the stuff she does because this other girl that did she got totally ditched by her and isnt friends w/ her. im in the popular crowd and part of me doesnt want to lose being in there because u know everyone wants to be in it. im in 8th grade by the way, and im sick of her pushing me around. i mean by "ignoring" herpunching me and crap, part of it is just letting her do it and push me aroudn more. idk. my screen name is takemeaway032 on aim. ill give you more info ifyou would like. thanks os muhc, please give advice!!!!! :-\

You friend needs to see a theripist. Try Telling her this when shes in one of her good moods. As her friend, it's your job, Partially of course, to help her through tough times. If her mom and dad are around, tell her she NEEDS to talk to them about this, or else she could be put in Foster Care. As for her acting weird and stuff, thats probably just to make up for her sadness=)Best of luck!Please rate me

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Hey, can anyone tell me where you can get already made icons, like the pictures on Advicenators?? THANKS

www.iconator.com

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I always look at myself and see how not pretty I am. I hate it. Then I look around at all my friends..why do they get to be automatically pretty? No makeup for some--but still not ugly. I have kind of chubby cheeks but not huge. I have dark blonde, almost brown-ish straight hair a little past my shoulders. I'm sort of tan, but not much. My eyes are hazel, mostly green. If I go out or to school, I wear eyeliner and that's it. I also have a little bit of a belly. I really think I'm not pretty. I've never had a boyfriend, and maybe that's why? Any ideas for makeup that's not too drastic, that will make my face look better? If you have ANYTHING..please tell me.

Firstoff, starting at the cheeks. You may wanna try some soft blush, to add more emphasis on your cheekbones instead of your cheeks. I always wanted hazel eyes, but I got stuck with brown, so your lucky. For your belly, try aerobic exercsises, and crunches. try some lip gloss too,and maybe a smidge of eyeshdow.=)Please rate me=)

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Well, I shop a lot at Abercrombie. And some of my friends aren't allowed to shop there. They'd be like 'Oh cute shirt, where'd you get it?' and then I would be like 'Abercrombie' and then they'd tell me that they weren't allowed to shop there. I don't see what's wrong with the place and shopping there. Can anyone tell me what's wrong or are my friends just being too closed minded?? Thanks and I rate.

It's probably the nude cover thing they did awhile back=)Please rate me

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o0ok.. my best friend well she claims we are best friends and i love her to death. but she is aloud to have more friends but if i go hang out with anyother friend she like gets upset with me n im like o0ok how n the heck is this fair. so if you could help me that would be wonderful ik so confused n have no idea what to do.

thanks
Megan

Talk to her face-to-face, and tell her, You always hang out with other friends, and I don't mind, but whenever I hang out with another friend of mine, you seem to get mad. She might have a jealousy issue, and check back with me to sort that out=)Best of luck

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My mom was an alcoholic, everyday she would drink. DUring christmas even more, just because she hated using all of her money and was afraid we'd be moneyless after christmas. On 12/23 I came home from school, all happy because it was the last day and now I have a 2 week vacation, and I came home to my mom being drunker then hell! I was sick of it and I went upstairs because I didn't want to talk to her. About 2 hours later my dad got home and yelled me from upstairs ( I was sleeping ) .. he said that we had to go to the hospital because my mother had passed out.. she had overdosed on anti-depression pills and was drinking ALOT of alcohol at the same time. when we got to the hospital we waited about 30 minutes and they came out and told me my mom was dead. I can't stop thinking that this is all my fault, like if I would've stayed downstairs maybe I would've stopped her from OD. I've been to a psychiatrist about this, but nothing seems to be working. What should I do?? Thanks for any help in advance! (sorry its so long)

It truly isn't your fault, because yuor mom obviously wasn't happy with her life, and shes in a better place now, happier, but missing her family. She did this to herself for a reason, and I don't blame you for not wanting to talk to a drunken person. It will be hard moving on, but now that you've experienced this kinda thing in your life, join the millions who are out there to prevent it=)Best Wishes

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ok i have pretty skinny legs... like i eat well n stuff im not anorexic or anything like that but ive always had really skinny legs... i want to give them some shape... does anyone know some good excersises to do that? thanx a bunch! i rate high

Try some flexibility exercises, and areobic, cuse nothings better for your lower body than that=)

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okay i know this is nasty- but you know how when you work out, etc, sweating makes you loose calories or w/e? Well just say you work out for a long long time, and sweat alot, and you don't get home for awhile and so you cant take a shower and wash the sweat off of your body, so the sweat like sinks back into you kinda or it dries up or w/e.. ew i know gross, but does that mean you dont loose any weight cause the sweat just went back into ur body?? [gross i know]

Actually, no, sweat doesn't make you loose calories, it cools you down, and heat makes you loose calories. And sweat doesn't go back into your body, it just kinda falls off. But if you really want to loose weight, this isn't the best way to do it=)Get back to me if you really wanna know how to loose weight

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Ok I have been suicidal for a while, and haven't had an episode for about a month... I have scars on my stomach and arms.. but I can't stop thinking I need more cuts... I have had alot of stuff going on lately... what should I do, should I tell someone! I just don't wanna go to a mental hospital! thanks I'll rate high

If you don't want to go to a mental hospital, then yes, you need to tell somone! Tell someone you trust more than the world, and I would recomend not your friends. Tell an adult who will be able to help you get past this.=)Hope I helped and best of luck!!

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there are 2 realllllllyyyyyy weird guyzs in my math class. Lets say there names are jake and matt . one is a blonde and one is a brunette. they r realllllyyyy stupid and i wanna help them but the don't get anything so it's impossible how can i tell them they r stupid without saying they r stupid??:) thanx
Snoopy

You don't have to tell them their stupid, cause thats horribly mean. It's also not your job to help them, but if your really desperate, you can tell your teacher that they really need some extra help.=)

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How can I rate someone? Please help me.

go to their answer, and click on a number, now that you know how, u can rate me=)

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you know how on your column you have pop ups, cursors, and all that good stuff, how do you do that? like i know theres codes but where do u pet them and what are the codes?

Buddy4u:

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i have little acne break outs from time to time, and i was wondering if any one knew anything over the counter to use to get rid of it and some of the scars from it? i will rate 5's~!

For the breakouts, you really don't need anything over the counter, you just NEED this stuff I use, called Neatrogena Acne Spot Treatment, and for the scars, subtle ones can actually be closed up with lemon juice and cucumber juice, but otherwise, go to a dermatologist=)Hope I helped. Please rate me!

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I need a way to dump this guy im going out with but like not, its not you, its me thing cuz thats soooo old, anyway..just plz ill rate high if you give me a way to dump him and i just wanna it to be the way it was were we were good friends..but i odnt want it to change when i dump him and i dont want him to hate me!
Thanx in advance
xoxo
-confused

All you have to say is, hey i was wondering, could we just be friends? He should accept that, and to keep kim from actually being your good friend, you need to socialize regularly, so he'll know you truly want to be friends. Hope I helped=) Please rate me

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