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returning items after break-up
My ex boyfriend and I had been together for about two years, and now that we've broken up, he doesn't want to see me at all. (-there wasn't a fight, it was more of a 'this isn't working out, I don't feel that way about you' type of deal.) He's returned my things through a friend of ours, who gave them to me.
Well, I'm still kind of upset about the whole thing, and we were going to talk a little after we'd had some time apart. I still have some things of his, and was wondering if I should A. give then to our mutual friend, B. drop them off at his house/in person, or C. wait a week or two and then give them to him myself.
All of our friends are shared, so it seems that there will come a time when we'll be forced to see each other. I wouldn't cause a scene or push him to feel bad about our breakup if I did see him, but he seems to want to avoid me at all costs right now. When he'd broken up with me, we didn't talk at all, and it seems this still has to happen (not to get back together, but to clear my mind and his a little between us.)
What should I do? Should I wait it out?
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Dear Return to sender,
You seem to still be upset over the breakup. Breaking up is sometimes so hard to do and I understand where you are coming from. To me it seems to be obvious that your still not sure what happened between the two of you. You feel that you are stuck in a position where you do not know what to do and it is so hard for you to move on and I feel your pain. Relationships are so hard. Love is so hard. I am thinking that you should face this before it really starts to upset you. Having some of his things still with you holds on to the hurt and the pain that came from the past and giving his things back might kill his ghost that lingers on within you. You need to confront him about all of this. You need to tell him how you feel about what happened between the two of you and how it is affecting you now. Give him back his things as soon as possible. Who cares if he does not want to see you. This is your life and you cannot put it on hold because of how someone else feels. Give him his things and do not look back. You will be just fine, promise. Good luck.
♥Sarah and Brandon
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if you never tlak to him, and you guys suddenly end up seeing eachother becuz of mutual friends, things will be veeeery acward. in the next few days you shud rite him a note or something and in it just say " ****, please understand that even tho we arent going out ne more, i think we should be able to talk occasionally.. what do you think?" and have a friend give it to him.. if he thinks the smae way.. then all problems solved, but if not, then back off, maybe rite back and say "well im sorry u feel that way... i'll have sum1 bring yer stuff to you sumtime soon..."
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You should do C. Because he obviously doesn't really wanna talk, so it would be beter if you waited=)
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i think you should wait and return his things in person its the more adult way to go about it. but unless he wants to talk things out with you i wouldnt push it guyz can be really immature so id just wait n let him come crawling back to you
-Megan-
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i think in about a week or so...go do what he did to you but do it in person...not through a friend...if he didnt want your stuff...you shouldnt have to have his stuff right? but since your upset about it...maybe you should do it in person so maybe if you see him you can just calmly say.. "heres your stuff back" or someting...dont be like OMG I HATE YOU HERES YOUR EFFING STUFF BACK! and maybe hell want to talk then...i dont know him so i dont know how hed react?....but if i was you that is what id do..
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I'd wait a week or so and give them to him yourself. It's more personal and thoughtful, and even though you're not together anymore it shows that you still care as a friend. Hope I could help a little bit and I'm sorry about the breakup.
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