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I really would like to look very pretty tomorrow. There is this guy That I might be hanging out with sometime this week and I really want to hit it off with him. What should I wear and how should I do my haair and makeup and that other stuff...

I want to flirt but not be to flirty and obvious
what are some things I could say

also this could help for the next fiew days also when I will be seeing him also

just be yourself.. if he's ever gonna like you, he's gonna like the COMFORTABLE & REAL you. the you that is you everyday of your life. if he likes the you that dresses up and acts like a totally different person then he really doesnt like YOU. so just be yourself, and whatever you do, act like you own the place. guys like girls with confidence. and give him attention just to show him your interested but then at the flirtiest times, pull back a little bit just to keep him interested in you. and that will keep HIM wanting to talk to YOU. just make sure you dont ONLY wanna talk to him, cuz thats just boring for him cuz then he KNOWS you want him and all boys want challenges. hope i helped hunnie.. good luck tomoro.

im 14/f
ok so i had sex with my boyfriend like last week and some days ago we were both virgins so we had sex we used a condom and we did it like for 8 fast seconds without one then we stoped for good

he said he dident cum but i been having to pee alot and im not sure why he promised me he dident cum he said it took him a while to cuase he went in the bathroom to do so

my friend told me i might have to pee alot becuase my body is dehydrated cuase i got a cold sore after i had sex and she said you can get it from lack of water drinking and you get sick she said it happened to her too she would pee every thirty minutes

and that i agree i never ever drink water it all started when my mom brought can soda\'s i went crazy
im not sure oh i havent got my period but im only one day late and sometimes my period dosent come exactly on a date
but im freakin my self out im becoming paranoid my boyfriend told me he dident cum and that hes 110% sure he dident im not sure as to wut to think we used a condom the whole time except the one 8 seconds things wut should i do?

k heres the 1% chance of something bad happening: he could have cum on him from the past thats still alive. but thats VERY unlikely.

and heres whats most likely happening: when your stressed out or have sex for the first time, your period can be late and weird things can happen to your body. i think your just stressed because coldsores, late period, and peeing a lot are all signs of stress. so dont worry, just CALM DOWN lol and eeverything will go back to normal. your period can be up to TWO WEEKS late from stress, but if its any more than that, you should talk to your doctor in private. but im almost sure your fine hunnie, dont worry.

My mom never wants me to pluck my eyebrows on my own, so she takes away the tweesers. (I don't think I do that bad of a job) But usually, I find the tweesers and fix up my eyebrows.

But I can't find them, and my eyebrows are really growing back. All I have are these big tweesers that open real wide and are really hard to use.

I should get them professionally done, but I'm embarrassed to ask my mom. help asap?

just tell your mom straight up. its not a big deal. just say "mom im insecure about my eyebrows and i think it would make me a lot happier if i got them professially done, considering you wont let me do them myself"

Is it possible to fall in love at 17? I have been with my boyfriend for only 4 months, but there is such an intense energy between us. We talk all the time and are together at every moment possible. we are similar in our core beliefs, but disagree on many topics. Disagreeing has sparked tons of interesting conversations between us. everytime i think about him or someone says his name i smile and get a warm, fuzzy, happy feeling. we trust and respect one another and have good sexual chemistry (we have not however, had sex and will not for quite some time)

I am almost positive that i love him, but ever since i was young people have always told me that you can't fall in love in high school. I want to get some outside oppinions and find out if the things i am feeling are what is generally classified as love.

thanks loves!
me*

of course you can fall in love at 17. im only 16 and many of my friends have been in love. but who really cares what other people say... only YOU know whether or not you're in love. its a feeling that only you can feel. so just listen to your heart [corny but true] and it really doesnt matter if people say you cant fall in love yet. hunnie, if you have that feeling, your in love.

ok well,im 15, there is this guy that i have a crush on, but he has a girlfriend. Me and my boyfriend just broke up. I know that i didnt like it when other girls liked my bf. So do you think it is wrong that i like someone elses boyfriend? This has been bugging me for a long time.

well, theres n0thin you can do hunnie. if you like somebody, you like somebody.. just keep it on the down low until their little fling is over then tell him how you feel. just make sure you dont interfere by telling him WHiLE hes still with his gf, becuz that might just scare him :-/ so no, your not doing anything wr0ng darlin. xOx

13/f. I'm so depressed. I feel like everything is declining. All I can do is remember "the good ol' days." My best friend just broke up with me that I had since kindergarten. Now at school, I'm completely friendless since she moved to Chile.
My choir used to be so great, but now, everyone has lost commitment, and all the best pieces have been "pulled." The younger choirs are now much more recognized, since the older choirs won't practice. This is a very prestigious choir...we performed at St. Peter's Basilica, and Carnegie Hall! But now, it has gone to dust. :( My mother is not the way she used to be, ever since she was framed at work. She has major depression. she's not fun anymore. Even the United States isn't in good shape right now, with troops in Iraq and forests being sliced apart for firewood and mountains tabletopped for coal. All I do is just remember what life was like a couple years ago, when everything was at its peak, and I just feel terrible. Can someone help me? Sorry that this is so long, but I'm lonely and need someone to talk to.

Thanks

*Luna*

my best friend is going through this exact same thing right now. and i went through it last year. just hang on. everybody goes through it and theres nothing rong with you. theres nothing you can do but look at the good things in life. just make life seeem good even if its not. make yourself happy and you actually will be happy. it takes time, but you will eventually realize how dumb and pointless it is to be depressed. think about how your wasting your time thinking too mujch about things and being depressed when you could be happy. so put a smile on lol

well me and my boyfriend broke up 4 or 5 days ago, and I talked to him today and I mentioned that I am talking to a x bf of mine,and he didnt sound very happy, I asked him if he was ok he said yea....but he didnt sound like he wanted me to date another guy, when he broke up with me he told me from his heart that I was the hardest girl to break up with cause he really cared for me, and he barely has emotional feelings for girls but he was CRYING on the phone when he told me that he just wanted to be close friends.... can ya please give me some advice on if he still cares for me...

dont worry babe. he DEFiNiTELY still has feelings for you and cares about you a lot, he just doesnt want a relationship with you right now, for whatever his reason is. it may take him a while to actually stop liking you. as of now, i`m sure he still likes you, and no matter what, he will always care about you. of course he`s gonna be jealous of another guy because he still has to get used to not being able to hhold you and call you his own. hope i helped

I used to have many best friends. When 7th grade started some of them became part of the popular crowd, a few went totally goth on me and cut them selves constantly and some just ditched me. I have like one or two friends now that still hang out with me. I have lots of other people hang out with me, but now I'm realizing how they truly feel about me by all the rumors they are starting. I just don't know what to do anymore, I'm so alone. Please help.

well those kind of people are two-faced. and you dont need people in your life like that. just have more of an "i dont need you" attitude and more people will be attracted to your confidence. & i dont want to seem rude but it sounds like maybe people ditched you because it was time to grow up since its middle school and you were still acting immature. so just have confidence and act mature. and remember.. the only people you need in your life are the ones who need you in theirs

i started my period 14 days early,i never did anything sexually.does anybody know why this happened?

if you just started a little bit ago then you dont have a regular cycle yet. but if you have had it for a while, then dont worry too much because sometimes that just happens.

I've realized how alot of girls are asking how to loose weight and such. Everyone wants a flat, toned tummy, and it really bothers me because we think we have to be like all of these models and stars so guys will like us. Guys, honestly, do you want a stick for a girlfriend or a little cusion for the pushin? I mean back in the 70s and 80s people werent so judgmental and didn't look at someone and say, "your fat". I mean can i get an AMEN! Im sick of people saying they are fat, and saying they need to loose weight when they dont. Think about it! Leave comments and explain why you want to be a stick.

it makes me feel more comfertable about myself when i`m skinny. not just because i think guys like it. it is more comfertable. weeeeeeeeeee. -sarah, larel, ali

How do I lose weight fast. What should I watch for in my food like how many calories or you know. How do I lose weight and get a tight stomach at home without buyin things like pills. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!1
I will rate high to any one who answers my question bad or gud thanx

if you eat a healthy breakfast in the morning, it will speed up your matabalism for the whole day. and that means your food digests faster so you realize your not hungry. this keeps you from eating too much.

my best friends sit next to each other in social studies and english and they've been cheating on each other and nnow my whole class is cheating except for me and a few other people... and i don't know if i should tell some one because i want them to stop... because i don't want them to get caught and i just want them to be ok and stuff so what should i do?

dont tell anyone. its not that big of a deal. even if they get caught its just a little... please dont do that... if you tell a teacher or something you`ll be thought of as the school snitch. so dont do that.. just go along with it..

my best friend is the one i love. it is so hard for me to go near him knowing he doesn't love me. is it because my age? were 2 years younger? we go over each other's house all the time...and all we do is LAUGH! and when ever i tell my other friend's about it they tell me i should just ask him out. should i? or should i wait a little bit longer till we a bit closer? please help

friends make the best relationships, so if it feels right, go for it!! :)

im 13f n ive been going out with my boyfriend for almost three weeks now and we still havent kissed. he kisses me on the cheek all the time but thats it. is this going too slow?

definetely not too slow. i have a friend and shes 14, and shes been going out with her bf for 2 months and they`ve only pecked eachother a couple times. theres nothing rong with it. it just means that the guy respects you and he doesnt want to push you to do any thing that you`re uncomfortable with. Ox

I can't seem to get a boyfriend. I am fat but im a good friend. Im also trying to lose weight. I have only had two boyfriends in my life, one in second grade, and my last boyfriend lived in Virginia (I live in Missouri) and he didn't know what I looked like. I think im desent looking aside from my weight. I don't have really that many guy friends eaither. I was hoping someone could give me tips on how to get a guy.

~*~Britt~*~

just act confident. confidence is what guys fall for the most. if there is a hot guy, walk up to him sometime and be a little flirty... and act like you could have im if you want. Ox

I hate my life and I have a lot of problems. My dad left me when I was 3 years old and he lives in Tenneessee with his girlfriend and my half brother. I only get to see them once a year on Christmas. My half sister lives about 45 mins away from me and I only get to see her about every other weekend and on some holidays. My mom lives about 30 mins away from where I live with her boyfriend. They are getting on my nerves because she wants me to move in with them and I don't want to be away from my friends or switch schools again. I live with my grandparents. I have gone through a lot these past 2 or 3 years. I moved away from all my friends in the 3rd grade (Im in 7th grade now), but my best friend changed to the same school as me. Then She moved About 2 and 1/2 hours away in the 4th grade and I didn't even know untill about 2 or 3 days after she left and I hardly ever get to see her. Also school is really stressing me out. A few days ago I cut myself and im thinking about doing it angain. I snap rubberbands on my rist and I get bruses and scars from it. I am thinking about going goth but im probably not. I just have a really bad life. I was wondering if anyone could give my any advice on how I can try to make it better. It's ok if you can't i know it's probably hard to give advice like this. Please and thanks.

~*~Britt~*~

think about it. this will proble be hard to understand for you, but it rele DOES NOT help to cut yourself. if you keep doing it, you will lose friends, get talked about [people will say its because you want attention], and no guys will want to date a depressed girl. so please get out of this before it starts. i have a friend that started cutting in the 7th grade and now we`re in 9th grade and she still does it. its like a habbit once you start. so please end it before it starts. i dont know if my friend will ever stop cutting herself. its really sad, but her life could be a lot more happy and cheerful, if she just stopped cutting, but after that long of doing it... its not that easy. so please dont start to cut. i did it once and im glad i stopped. its not fun. hope i helped. Ox

i have windows xp and im using the regular Word processor that it comes with (not microsoft works word processor) just REGULAR WORD and i NEED to double space my paper but i cant find any possible way to do it, but i know there's a way. how do i do it? (dont say press enter cause that'll get screwed up when i print) thanks SO much!

go to format, then paragraph, then go to line spacing and pick -double-

ok so i want to break up with my boyfriend and i dont know how to do it. I want ot break up bcuz we dont talk that much and its just awkward. I am a girl and 14 yrs old...plz some one help, i wanna do it tomorrow
thanks sooooo much

tell him the truth. just pull him away from everyone, (be sure not to use the "we need to talk".. its waaay over used)just pull him away by using "wait, can you come here a sec?" and tell him and tell him you look at him as more of a friend... Hope i helped

Okay, two of my best friendsare really good friends between themselves too, but they fight ALOT!! i try to just sit them down and talk to them, and sometimes i'm the go-between, but right now im caught in the middle. Like, at lunch today, they were in the middle of a fight, and not even sitting at the same table, and both wanted me to sit with them, but i didn't wanna choose a side, so i sat with some of my other friends, and they both got mad at me for that!! What can i do? they wont even listen to me!!

try to tell them that you like both of them as friends... and you dont want to lose either. Good job not choosing a table.. that was the best thing to do. any time that they are mad at eachother, you should do that. if they wont even give you a chance to say that, then you could try writing it in a note. if they still wont even try to understand.. maybe neither of them are good friend material, and you should hang out with some other people until they stop fighting.. and then join the friendship again. hope i helped

ok friday night there was a basketball game and i went and i hung out with one of my bestfriends k but at the game i thought she was being mean right ok well after the game was a dance and i didnt go but i called my friend k and she was there and she hung up in face which made me really mad k and yesterday sunday i was talking to her on aim and shes all are u mad at me and i was like yea and shes all y and im like well you hung up on me when i called and lately you just start yelling at me for no reason... so she like got mad and blocked me... she came to me at school last week and just starts yelling at me telling me that i could have gotten her phone taken away and im just like ok well you gotta tell me that instead of yelling at me and yea shes done it more then once and like i was trying to explain to her that I hate when she yells at me cuz were supposed to be friends but she wont let me... and this pisses me off cause sometimes it feels like she doesnt treat me like a friend but something else... today i went up to her and tried to work things out cause shes my best friend so i went up to her and smiled and then shes like thats such a stupid reason for you to be mad and im like no you arent supposed to hang up in my face and this other girl standing next to me is like yea you should have just been like i cant talk right now gotta go bye but she didnt and then she starts yelling infront of some of friends that i shouldn't call her cell phone after nine and a bunch of crap so i just turn around and leave cause i serioulsy dont need her yelling at me... but still im so mad cause its like i cant tell her how i feel and if i do she will get mad isnt that dumb arent we supposed to be bestfriends and tell each other when were mad and stuff i even told her that it hurts my feelings in stuff but she wouldnt listen to me...
What should i do PLEASE HELP!!!
~!~Live Strong~!~

i used to have a best friend like this... it wasnt all that fun. i bet your friend is a fun person to hang out with... but she gets really moody, right? well i dont think you should depend on this friend so much. my friend never stopped acting like that... i just decided that the title of -best friends- wasnt the best for us... we still hang out, but i dont depend on her to always have my back, cause she proble won`t. hope i helped.. xOx

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