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Is it possible to fall in love at 17? I have been with my boyfriend for only 4 months, but there is such an intense energy between us. We talk all the time and are together at every moment possible. we are similar in our core beliefs, but disagree on many topics. Disagreeing has sparked tons of interesting conversations between us. everytime i think about him or someone says his name i smile and get a warm, fuzzy, happy feeling. we trust and respect one another and have good sexual chemistry (we have not however, had sex and will not for quite some time)
I am almost positive that i love him, but ever since i was young people have always told me that you can't fall in love in high school. I want to get some outside oppinions and find out if the things i am feeling are what is generally classified as love.
thanks loves!
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You can fall in love at any time. There is no rule saying you can't fall in love and you can't tell yourself not to love someone because its what your heart leads you too. im 16 and i have been in love once. Yea tons of people say you can't be in love highschool but tons of people fall in love with someone in highschool. No one can really tell you if your in love with someone. If you feel that you feel that you are in love with this guy then onlyyou can really tell yourself that. People will have doubts that you are because its only been a four month relationship but that doesnt mean anything. I hope i helped a little atleast any other questions you can IM me aim - doesntmatterx8 or you can leave one in my inbox.
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To me love is more than smiling and feeling warm inside when you hear their name.
I believe that you can fall in love young, but not in as short as 4 months.
Everyone will always feel these huge butterflies and sparks around someone they like a lot in the first few months. It's definetly more than that to me, it's about still feeling those butterflies even though it's been a matter of years in a relationship. And those butterflies will get smaller, but I believe that true love is when you can still feel the exciting presence.
Love is also when you both consider each other's feelings on situations and you care deeply about what you're feeling about it. It's also when you get into fights or disagreements, you don't put down that other person for what they think of it. And when you are in fights, you never call names and if you do, you owe a big apology.
Mostly what I've learned, it's easy to have a good sexual chemistry with someone. Very easy. But, what I've mostly learned is that when teenagers fall in love, they have sex way too soon because they truly believe that they are in love when that's likely not the case. You'd be really surprised how much of a difference it can make if you spend at least two years talking about your feelings and sex before actually having sex.
But there is much more to true love then just the butterflies, the sweet talk and the cheesy stuff. And it's realy hard to identify whether you are feeling love because there is no exact explaination.
-TheTeenGirl
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There is no rule book to when people fall in love or get married or anything else in life. Of course you can fall in love when you are in high school. The person who told you youcan't didn't want it to happen to you. it sounds like you found a keeper (for now). I fell in love with my boyfriend when I was 18 and we are still together 5 years later. I can only tell you that had I believed I was too young to fall in love I would be missing out on a great thing because for me it keeps getting better and better. Listen to your heart and your own feeling they are your best guide.
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of course you can fall in love at 17. im only 16 and many of my friends have been in love. but who really cares what other people say... only YOU know whether or not you're in love. its a feeling that only you can feel. so just listen to your heart [corny but true] and it really doesnt matter if people say you cant fall in love yet. hunnie, if you have that feeling, your in love.
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i have no reason not to believe that love can be found in highschool, for me love is just a word but rather a connection two people share. i have no clue what love is or rather how feelings are felt but im glad they exist....
if you are willing to do anything for this person not feel an ounce of pain, or do anything for them... and if you cant go a second with out hearing that persons voice or even seeing that person makes you melt and you have no other care in the world... than i do believe that u guys share a strong connection between each other. and yes would classify this under love....
enjoy the time you guys share with each other and dont be in a rush to have sexual feelings for him cuz it will complicate things
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Back in ye olde days people 'fell in love' and 'got married' at 13.
If beauty is in the eye of the beholder, than so is love. I certainly know several friends at my school who are in amazing relationships, and if someone said they weren't in love I would laugh at them for being so ignorant.
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I think that love in high school is a rare event but what you're describing sounds like it could be the real thing. It's just when really young kids start saying I love you 3 days after they strat going out when people say love doesn't exist in high school.
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I think your on the process of falling in love not really there yet. I can tell your very infatuated with him that can sometimes be mistaken for love. Wait another year then you'll know for sure!
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Many people define love in different ways. If you're positive that you are in love, then I guess you are according to your standards.
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no 1 can tell you what love is, thats is up to you and you only, from what you say... it seems like it, except for the fact that you have only been with him for 4 months, i had these 2 firends who were the exact same way, it kinda sucked cuz my guy friend didnt hang out with all the guys as much, but he was happy, anyways... it lasted 6 months before they broke up, and then she was with another guy 2 days afterwards, basically im sayin, it sounds like you love him, just make sure he feels the same for you before you put everything you have into him, because if you do and he dosnt feel the same, your setting urself up for a major crash and burn. just give it some time, and keep things going the way they are, and you will be sittin pretty with a boy who loves u.
good luck
honestly im happy for ya
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hey! of course you can fall in love at 17! i'm sure you do love him! older people just think that high schoolers are so immature and are always thinking their in love... but thats totally not the case! theres no rule that says.. you can't be in love if your under 18! or whatever! haha! i think i've been in love before... sounds like you too are really happy togther are DO lOVe eachother! awww! sooO jeALoUs! haha!
xOxO, aL
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i dont agree with people who say you cant fall in love unless your a certain age. how can they deny YOUR feelings? you know? everyone has the ability to love..you dont have to be out of high school or whatever to feel the connection. dont let anyone tell you your not in love..if your feeling this way and its love in your eyes, then congradulations..your in love :)
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Of course it's possible. Everybody has the capibility to love, even the littlest tiniest babies. It's true that there are different types of love and that these often change with maturity. But you are 17, very nearly an adult, and I'm sure you're mature enough to make your own decisions about things like this. You're not about to buy a house and get married and have five kids, and that's fine. Getting married, having sex, etc. are ways that people express love for each other, but they are not the definition of love. Many people have sex and do not love each other. Even many marriages are loveless. But you seem to know that you love this guy, therefore it IS love. There are no shades of gray when it comes to love; only different shapes (in other words, different forms of expression). Nobody else can tell you what you can or cannot feel. They can't possibly know because they aren't you. You most certainly can fall in love in high school. Many high school relationships do not last, that is a known fact. And your current relationship may not last for the rest of your life. But that's only in a possible future--right now, you are no less in love than a couple that has been married for sixty years.
EDIT: I forgot to say this: my parents pretty much decided to get married the first time they went out and a few months later they did. They've been together for almost twenty years now. So it's also possible to love someone after a short amount of time.
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