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Ok.yes there is a co worker that every time i see or speak to her my heart explodes.we see other a couple times a week. A d we always have connection type feeling and talk about anything .we are both married. And the other day she said that i was trouble with a smile .and that i dont bother her by coming by and talking to her. Do ask her out for coffee or ... (link)
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I agree with the others. You are asking for trouble. If your boss finds out, you could be out of a job. If you get involved & it ends, working in the same place will be difficult. Especially if your wife finds out. She will not want you anywhere near her.
I think you are playing a dangerous game. My advice would be to back off & try to have no contact with this woman. Talk to your wife & work on your marriage. If you flirt with her like you do with this woman...Your life at home just may improve.
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Hey I'm a 17 year old boy from England,and I have this issue where anytime something goes wrong with a girl I like I get seriously down in the dumps for days,maybe weeks in certain cases such as when my ex got with one of my best friends at the time. Another example would be that same guy trying to talk to a girl he knows I like last night in order to get to me. My confidence completely revolves around girls and how my love life is. It's stupid but I just can't help it,and when something goes wrong with a girl I just enter this depressed phase where I think I'll never really find a girlfriend,and I just feel lonely and can't concentrate on anything else,because I'm constantly thinking about whatever went wrong.
I'm not sure if I can explain it well,because I don't really understand why it happens myself. I don't really know what advice is out there either but if anyone has some I'd really appreciate it,thanks (link)
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Girls you like will get in bad relationships, or go out with your friends if they want to. The only way you can stop it is if you like a girl, ask her out! Don't tell friends you like her, tell her.
If you break up with a girl, let it go. What she does is no longer any of your business. What you do isn't her business either.Its a hard thing to do, but, if you turn your attention to another girl, its easier to forget the one that didn't work out.
You are going to feel bad about things & you are going to get emotional just because that is a part of being a teen. You have hormones raging & so many firsts in your life. It gets overwhelming at times.
Worry about these girls is probably an attempt to fix things that you are unable to fix. You'll have to try to concentrate on something else besides girls. Cars, sports, reading...
There really isn't much we can say that will help. As an older person, I can only tell you it will pass. Just hang in there. :)
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So I've been a cashier at a certain major chain of gas stations for about 3-4 months now, and at our particular location, there has been non-stop drama, resulting in 3 people quitting and 2 people getting fired. Needless to say, it's been a stressful few months. I had been doing a great job not being involved in all the drama for a while, until I got dragged into this particular scenario.
A couple months after I was hired in, my coworker Sam (or so we'll call him) joined us at our station. He was a hard worker, and we got along great. We joked around with our similarly sarcastic humor. But it started to all go downhill. You see, I started to take notice of his shifting moods. One moment we'd be laughing, and 20 minutes later he'd be short with me. He seemed to have a hard time leaving his personal life out of his work life. For instance, he informed us one night that his brother was missing "again", and from there he was, to put it bluntly, a dick all night.
We had a heart-to-heart one night, and discovered we had a lot of the same issues in life, and we bonded. But of course the next day, he came in scowling. When he's in a bad mood, he pulls stuff like punching out for breaks and not telling us, going off to work on the cooler for an hour and a half straight, snapping at us, just being generally rude. He got into a lot of drama with our coworkers, he kept calling managers and tattling when it wasn't necessary. It got hard for me to keep up with his mood swings, so I began distancing myself a little. Just because we're friends, doesn't mean you get to disrespect me.
One day his mood was particularly foul, and I'd had enough. So I remained professional, but short in our encounters. Then I was with a customer, when I heard him punching-out. He headed for the door, and I asked "... Are you taking your lunch?" "Yup," he responded. "You know Sam, it'd be nice to know that." He then snapped "ASHLEY. I'M TAKING MY LUNCH."
Obviously I was peeved, but I calmed down by the time he came back. He then was back to relying on me with questions about how to do our job (which he did A LOT).
There then was a bit of a sketchy situation going on. A DRUGGED UP lady was ditched by her drug dealer boyfriend and was using our phone. Sam informed me (this time!) that he was taking his break. I asked if he could stay here, and not leave (go to his car, etc.), that I didn't feel comfortable being by myself in this situation. He shot me this overly-perplexed look and said "I'm just taking my break Ashley, I'm not going anywhere," in a harsh tone. I couldn't take it anymore. "Sam, I'm not yelling at you, I'm just asking. No need to raise your voice."
"Raise my voice? RAISE MY VOICE? YOU WANT RAISE MY VOICE?!!?" He then gets a foot away from my face and screams, so loud that my ears were vibrating and hurting, about how he's sick of my shit, how he's sick of everyone and sick of this whole station. I said please stop, and that I'd call a manager if he didn't. "GO AHEAD AND DO THAT ASHLEY. GOD I NEED A NEW JOB." He called his girlfriend, starting yelling at her about it and he punched out. Luckily it was 8:30p and another coworker was punching in, because I needed to go in the back room and sob. I felt like I was going to get decked in the face. Mind you I've never gotten in any fights or screaming matches. I'm a nice person, not to mention I'm a woman, and he's a man. I couldn't stop crying. My coworker got worried and called for a manager to come and talk to me. The guy wrote down my story, Sam's story, and left. I had to leave early because Sam refused.
I was going to quit for fear they wouldn't do anything about it (it's happened with previous drama mentioned), but I heard he'd been fired, so I came back. Last week he sent his girlfriend in to buy stuff for him (I recognized her and his car), but last night he came in. As soon as I saw him I went to the back room and asked my coworker washing dishes to handle him for me. As I left he yelled "Good bye Ashley!" and he told my coworker "Tell Ashley Sam says hi," and left.
He was obviously doing it maliciously. I'm afraid of what he'll do next. He doesn't have a job yet, so he can just come in anytime he wants a power trip. And I really don't give a shit how he gets his entertainment, I just can't put up with feeling like I'm going to get screamed at, hit, or like I can't go out to my car every time he comes in.
My question is, do I have the right to say "The other cashier will service you, otherwise please leave," or something along those lines? I feel small and unsafe when he comes in. I'm afraid he'd going to catch me when my coworker is on break so I have to confront him. I want to talk to my manager about it, but I'm afraid she'll say "Tough." I guess I just want to know what my rights are? I can't service him, I just can't. I'm prepared to quit over it.
Pleeeaase help, this whole thing is so unfair and unwarranted, it just hurts.
Thanks, and sorry for my lengthy question. (link)
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I have worked at & even managed such a place. You can refuse to serve him If there is a sign on the store or inside the store where all can see it. It should say something like, We have the right to refuse service to anyone. No going to court necessary unless you feel he might cause you harm.
The thing is that you need to go to the manager. Tell him/her the situation. The main reason being he needs to be kept out of the store on all shifts, not just yours. Nobody in the store should be helping him. Chain gas stations are everywhere & he can easily go elsewhere.
If there is not a sign in the store ask the manager why. There should be one.
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I am always gassy , a lot of you say to drink more water, i drink a gallon a day and i eat healthy and i am still extremely gassy,it is annoying. I have also tried beano and it works for a while and then it is back. There has to be something i can do. It is embarassing when i am at the gym. It all most makes me not want to go. HELP!!!!!! (link)
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I would suggest you consult your doctor on how to best handle your situation. Perhaps something isn't working the way it should is causing your gas. At the very least a doctor can help you figure it out. Maybe give you something to take for it that will help.
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Okay, so there is this guy I really like. I've liked him since like October. We never really started talking until like January, but after that we became really close friends. Let's call him Derek. Then around easter time we were talking like all day every day, we never seemed to run out of things to talk about. But then for some reason we just kind of stopped texting. Like we are in the same friend group so we still hung out and stuff but we weren't a "thing" anymore. Then this other guy (let's call him George) started talking to me and stuff so that never helped either. Then in like the end of May Derek just started to completely ignoring and treating me like I never even existed. So I confronted him and we got into this huge argument tearing each other apart for things the other person did that hurt the other. Like we used to tell each other everything. Derek knows things about me that no one else on this earth knows. Anyways, we resolved the problem between us and we started talking again and eventually it became more often and consistent and in more depth. Then around exam time we were "otg" hard core and I really liked him and wee had our first "date" all planned and it was awesome! We talked all the time and everything. But then in July we just randomly stop talking...AGAIN!!! So I didn't know what to do and I was really upset because I really liked him. The whole summer I never liked anyone else, and he didn't move on either. When we went back to school he wouldn't talk to me and he still won't. I've talked to both of our very good friends and he said that Derek was really upset that we stopped talking because he really liked me and he thought that I just did't like him and I stopped talking to him which wasn't the case at all. My friend said that he won't talk to me because he thinks it's too awkward. But the thing is I really want to talk to him again. I didn't stop liking him and I want us to become close again because there are some things that I can only talk to him about and without him in my life there are some things that I just have too keep to my life. And he is just so wonderful and I just want him to so badly see that I still have feelings for him, I have since October, that hasn't changed.
Are my feelings realistic or is he over me? Should I wait until he is ready to talk or do you think I should move one? Please help me:(:( (link)
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Start talking to him again. If he is what you want just start talking. If he starts talking with you again then you have a chance. The number one relationship killer is lack of communication. If you like each other you need to keep talking.
I think your feelings are real. If you can't get him to talk back to you then you may have a problem. But you need to make sure he really doesn't want to talk. DO NOT listen to what others tell you he is feeling. Ask him yourself. Friends may have an idea, but only he can give you the real story. So approach him & talk to him. No need for arguing about who stopped talking first etc. Just talk & see if there is anything there for both of you. If not, move on, but not until you talk to each other face to face.
Good luck!
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I would like to know what all of information can show up when you get by getting a cell phones history report from Verizon. Like if I wanted to know who my daughter is texting would that show that ? Would it show up if she uses the wifi at certain times ? I would like to know as soon as possible thank you (link)
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I used to use Verizon. If you pay your bill online you can actually go to the area that says text & see what numbers have been texted & when. How many texts overall & all that kind of thing. It doesn't show the actual texts though.
I'm sure it would show WiFi usage the same way.
Not sure if that's a help but its a quick & easy way to keep track of whats going on.
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Hey everyone i just wanna say thanks in advance to anyone who has any helpful suggestions. I am going to college soon and i really am in need of a computer. I have looked on Amazon and best buy. But there's so many out there, that i just don't know what to choose. I want a computer that packs a lot of space and has a good hard drive. That won't slow down when i have alot of things on it. I'd really prefer a laptop with: a webcam,maybe one that can turn into a tablet,and a disk tray,id really like one with a light up keyboard. But overall it doesn't have to have all of that (it'd be a bonus) but overall i want a great computer that will last. Also I'd prefer it to be cheap lol but im willing to spend $200-500 (maybe even to $600 ) thanks again (link)
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I am betting you will get so many different answers that we won't be a help at all. :)
I am going to suggest an HP. My last one lasted 11 years. Well, it is actually still a good running machine it was an XP and technology just kinda left it behind so I got a new HP. Hope this one lasts as long.
I bought my grandkids an HP laptop 3 or 4 years ago. It is still going strong. So I will suggest getting an HP.
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Hello. I'm 22 and a male. For a long time now I've gotten this weird pain in my lower back and upper and lower back of my legs. I can mostly feel it when I'm trying to lay down and relax. Mostly I feel it at night when I'm trying to sleep. It keeps me up and I can't get comfortable or stay still. It's like a burning cramp like pain in my very lower middle back (around the sacrum joint) and down the backs of my legs all the way to my feet. It's horrible keeps me up and constantly tossing and turning trying to get relief. If I take pain meds it's fine and obiviously I don't feel it but if I don't have anything to take its like a 10 out of 10 pain wise. I had a mri that showed a disc somewhat buldged into the spinal cord. My doctor tried therapy physical and massage and a chiropractor but nothing has fixed it and he refuses pain meds. But they don't seem to be able to find what's causing this. It almost feels like the burning feeing like if you were to tie something around a finger and cut the circulation off that kind of pain. But I need help with this. So far no dr has been any help and this is a constant problem every night if I don't have anything for pain to take. I hope someone can help me figure out what this is because I need some type of direction for help with it. It's really effecting my life in a bad way. Any info will be a great help. Thanks (link)
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Wow. I can sympathize.I suffered burning legs & at times extreme pain for three years before a doctor found I was type 2 diabetic. I also have sciatica. I'm not sure any of that will do anything to help. If you haven't had blood work done I would have a doctor do that.
Did they not think the bulging disc was a problem? I do know burning is usually...not always, but usually some sort of nerve pain. That may cause your muscle to cramp some too.
I do hope you get some relief soon. If your doctor doesn't find something try another doctor. Bother them until you get an answer. Leg pain is no fun at all.
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I am a 13 year old who whacks off once every week. My record for going longest without masterbating was about a month. The question is how come every time I whack off my cum is a transparent white? U try different techniques but I always get the same orgasm and I never feel the cum rising up to my head
Am I still cumming pre cum? (link)
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That's the only color it comes in. Sounds like you are perfectly normal. If it is ever any other color, you would need to see a doctor.
Pre cum, would just be a little drop you may see before an orgasm ever occurs. You won't necessarily notice it. It is not associated with a good feeling or anything.
If you have an orgasm then you are doing things right. Intensity may feel different at times but if you have one...you are doing good.
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I asked him you ever like me?
and he said e said duh! yea.?
U never talked to me like serious i thought u werent really.? he said that too does he like me
I don't know his deal thanks guys (link)
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Sounds to me like he said he liked you.
Can't get any more real than that! :)
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My dad died recently and I do not miss him at all. He was the true definition of a narcissist. Everyone in his life worshiped him like a saint, except for me and that is why he despised me. We recently found out he was in a relationship with a woman he worked with, who adored him as much, if not more than my mom did. He had a tight-knit friend group with his work colleagues and basically lived a double life.
He and I have not gotten along since I was 5 or 6. My 10 year old diary has pages and pages of "I hate my dad." All of the screaming matches in our household have involved me and I've always been blamed for them and shamed for my psychological issues. Basically, he had the same issues as me but mine were spotlighted and I was told that my issues were ruining the family. Starting at age 11, I was manipulated with therapy by being forced to go, and throughout the years I was threatened to have it taken away if "my behavior didn't improve." When it was suggested that my dad come to the sessions he didn't want to. He came to one once and put on a big fake show, making himself seem noble and honest. In reaction to the therapist saying something he didn't agree with, he went ballistic about it as soon as we got home and my mom said, "wow I'm surprised, she usually knows what she's talking about." I guess my mom served as his voice in a lot of this because she spewed out most of the insults toward me and never dared challenge HIS behavior.
Currently, my mom is seeing a therapist and she really wants me to go therapy and quite frankly, I don't want to. I understand my emotions and why I feel the way I feel. I'M ALLOWED TO BE ANGRY and know why I have been angry my entire life. Needing therapy is an object of shame in this household and I refuse to submit to that. The other night my brother told me I'm a crazy bitch and need a therapist to help me work through my issues. Meanwhile, he's the one dating multiple girls at a time and has absolutely no shame about it. I don't think he even registers that it's wrong and he may be hurting someone. Why shouldn't a person like THAT be in therapy? When I bring this up to my mom she tells me to leave him alone and let him do what he wants. Today we fought about it and she said I'm jealous of him because I'm not dating anyone.
Because my parents have been so obsessed with maintaining their perfect little image, everyone thinks my dad was this fantastic, perfect human being and everyone shows so much sympathy for me and thinks that not having him around must be so hard. My mom's sisters cry in public because they "miss him so much." They'll try to talk to me about my feelings and how I'm coping and when I tell them the truth about the way I feel they change the subject and treat me like I'm 13. I think they are really weak women because they align their emotions with popular opinion for the sake of going with the crowd, even when their niece who they "love so much" is trying to reach out to them on THEIR invitation. If I dare say anything negative about them, I'm a villain, because according to my mom, "these are the people who are there for her."
But anyway, I do not miss him one drop. I do not miss the feeling of tension that would overtake my entire body and mind every time I'd hear him walk through the door home from work. This whole experience has led my family and me closer to the truth. I am not insane after all; he indeed did do evil things. Basically, I'm happy about things I should be upset about and upset about things I should be happy about. It kind of makes me feel comfort in the idea of jumping off a bridge. That's another thing: there is a history of suicide in my dad's family, including my grandma who attempted it 3 times (so all those times she was "sick in the hospital" were for that) and her mother committed suicide. I am suspicious that my dad's "unexpected heart attack" was not a heart attack indeed. I will not commit suicide but do admit that at times, I find comfort in the thought of it and found comfort in knowing the truth about my grandma. Thank god, I am now a college grad and moving far, far away from home next year. But until then, how can I deal? (link)
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I don't really think you need therapy, unless its something you want to do. Do you have feelings of guilt about not feeling bad about it? That's the only thing you might want help dealing with. You shouldn't feel that way if you do. I don't think any of us are obligated to love anyone just because we are related to them.
I think you deal with others by comforting them when needed. I know you didn't have the same feelings for your dad as other family members. Respect the fact that they did love him and now miss him a lot. You can do that for THEM because they are feeling a loss...not because you are. Do that and they will probably leave you alone.
Regarding your brother and his dating ways, not much you can do about that. It sounds like he isn't off to a very good start. He will learn one of these days if he's lucky. So will the girls he is dating. They will talk & word will get around that he is bad news. Payback won't be fun for him.
Congats on graduating college. Hope your moving leads you to a good place.
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So me and ny boyfriend had unprotected sex 3 days before i was supposed to start. I was supposed to start may 2nd but i havent started and he didnt cum inside me but were not sure if he was precumming..could i be pregnant ? Because i had been on medication the week before and ive been super stressed for about 2 weeks already (link)
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Give it a few more days and then take a pregnancy test. ANY TIME you have unprotected sex there is a chance for pregnancy. Yes, stress can make your period late but the best way to prevent both pregnancy & stress is to use protection. If the guy doesn't use a condom, no sex. They do tend to remember or find the money for one if you stick to your word.
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Im dating a man now weve been dating fir two months. He got married when he was 23 and got one daughter. Last 2013 he got another son with different women but they got separted now the custody if the child is with him. his open to me with regards to his family and child . Though our dating still remain secret ..the two of us only know were dating . im still single his older than me about 10 years older shoul i continue to date him? (link)
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No. He is married and he evidently makes a habit of cheating. Any man who wants to keep your relationship a secret...weather they admit to being married or not is bad news. Red flags should go up and you should run the other way & not look back.
Find a nice guy who wants you and only you.
Don't let this one sweet talk you into staying in a dead end relationship.
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okay. this is kinda long. So i am a 15 going on 16 sophmmore in high school. I have had this crush on my guy friend (lets call him AM) since september of last year. Him and i are very close friends. He helped me through my breakups, i helped him through his, we text nearly everyday and him and i can be open to each other about family problems and depression and he is the only one who knows i cut. Him and i dated for a day back in november but broke up because he felt like he rushed and i understood. Him and i talk romantically on and off ever since then. We say "i love you" to each other, we hug each other. Lately though, he has been doing some things with me that are kind of not normal. Like on my birthday (april
14th) he gave me a hug from the back and then he looked me in the eyes and said "i love you" and i said it back. Then after that, he sat me down on thee pavillion table and he put his arms around my waist and he put his head on my shoulder and we did that until the bell rang (people were around when we sid this). Him and i never kissed before but that all changed when on wednesday he told me to come kiss him in the morning behind the buses by his car. So i went and him and i met up and he didn't kiss me on the lips once but twice. I couldnt even believe it. After that he said "i bet that made your day didn't it" and i said "yeah" then he said he liked M and i said i liked a different guy but deep down i like A. Does he like me and i just do not know? what do i do? (link)
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You mentioned that you two talk to each other about everything. I think its time for more talk. Tell him how you feel because he might have feelings for you but be afraid to just say so.
Be sure you tell him that his wanting to kiss you is sending mixed feelings. Does he want a relationship with you or not? If not...no kissing!
Hope it goes the way you want it to. Talk.
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I will try to keep this as together as I can, but I might go off a bit on ordering, and no, this is not by any means short. One of my lovely features is explaining as much as I can for clarification, in some places a bit just to fine point one small topic... sorry ahead of time. I talk a lot ...
Alright, I will point this out now ... we live far apart from another. Specifically I am in America, and she is in Romania. As you can tell, we've never been in proximity to each other. Now that being said, we have talked nearly every day. How much and the depth of it varies each day. I however start the conversation everyday, which begins to lead to my what I'm .. concerned about.
She has said ( wrote ) many times , that she does care, for me. She does like me, she does like to talk to me. She likes many things. We have speculated the idea of a ( distance of the long-ness ) relationship ( laugh if you wish ) and whether it'd be plausible. The answer to that is to be determined still...
Anyway, the thing is, after all she has said, she shows so little of it. You would think if you care for someone enough as you say, you would be on the gun for talking with them, actively sharing your day or thoughts without being asked, or something you can commonly hear two people do, but she does not do anything like that.
If I don't say anything one day, we won't talk.. most the time ( albeit I never give it more than a day or two because at that point I miss her. Clingy, right? ) Or, it seems almost any little thing she is occupied with, makes her completely indisposed. I know how that sounds.. but I am being fairly serious. I am on a ride or walking somewhere, I think of her, and am fully abled to talk, but it seems almost impossible in her eyes. However that is not always the case, there have been exceptions where she would still talk, like sending a voice message while almost running somewhere, so I guess it sorta makes that point invalid.
Also, she doesn't like to share a lot of anything that is... I don't want to say "intimate", but anything that just isn't publicly known.. now I can imagine " Well that is her decision you creep ", and yes I agree, but I have shared so much with her, and I didn't think it'd be unreasonable to expect similar from her. She's never told me to stop, or that's enough, she'll read it, or listen, however, if there is ever a point where her input is desired, she doesn't always give it. Sometimes she gives a totally acceptable response, other times though, she kind of just overlooks giving it on stuff. She knows I hate that, and I will ask her what was up with it, but that is when sometimes things will get tense and communicating is scarce, because I can't just sit her down with me and talk, you get upset with another this kind of scenario, you simply don't answer them because you made the person unhappy. Not in all cases where she just goes entirely, she may leave that moment but come back and then I will try to fix it, but sometimes... sort of like now, she avoids communication. In this special case however she has gone to the capital on a trip, so I don't expect a lot of talking from her, I myself would still try to give as much as I could.
To be perfectly honest, I am fairly certain it was my fault this time, for something petty. What is it you should ask? She said she was going to a club during the nights maybe on her trip ( which contradictory to something else, i will say later), and that bugged me, and my default response ..... made it obvious it rubbed me wrong. After a short spiel on why it did after she asked what, she simply said she was going for her run and that sorta started the communication cut. I've talked to her since then, said sorry, and tried to be cute and say like " take some pictures for me dear, please. " Can I be blamed though for it bugging me, even a little? The girl I care for ( who happens to be very attractive ) is going to a club, with the possibility of being full of horny, hounding guys.. or girls ( ?? ) that may want to hit on her, or more. We aren't in a relationship, so there are no ties from being a couple, but it just doesn't sit right with me. ( guy likes girl, girl likes guy, but still goes to places like that. I don't know what kind of club, but I am going to assume it's not some paradise place that keeps significant others at a peace of mind. ) Now simultaneously, I want her to be happy, have fun, and do what she wants. So, mentally I am at a crossroads, but in the end she is going to do whatever she pleases. I have a fair feeling she actually went the night this was done.
I said this is contradictory earlier, and that is because one time asking about her, she went on a short spiel on how she says shes a weirdo, and that she doesn't open up to anyone and just surrounds herself with books and no one else. She doesn't like being around others, but goes to a club... there are holes in her logic to me, that makes me question her honesty to me some. Or maybe I just over think it too much. I take this much more serious than what most people probably do.
I think I can finally start to wrap this up. If only I knew how to write like this in high school... ( bad time for humor? )
In the end, I care for this girl, I really do, more than I can realize probably, I just want to understand. About her, her thoughts, you know,things you would normally pick up in person I don't have the luxury to find out without asking. And to have the peace of mind knowing when she means something, knowing it's true. knowing they mean it when they say something. I've try to set that standard for myself.
For about 2 seconds, I pondered the thought that if she saw this, she'd maybe get why I say so much, or ask.. maybe it'd change things.. for the better in a perfect world. But then I remembered how bad of an idea that would be... But she is someone I trust telling anything to, which is a seldom thing, so hiding stuff isn't something I really do with her, you know?
One last point and I am done, I have this very small worry, that the only reason she said love, is because of her overjoy shortly before that I sent her roses. Yea, I had flowers sent to her, sue me. Apparently they brought tears to her eyes( of joy ), and she was pretty much glowing the rest of that day, overjoyed... and maybe a few days following where she felt overly affectionate, but now it wore off and she doesn't really care as much as she lead on... I hope this part is just wild speculation on my part, but I won't rule it out.
So, what do you all think, do you think she doesn't care, I'm just there for boredom sake, maybe she really does care, and I just don't have the proper way to always talk to her? Is every issue my fault for over thinking? Is her level of engagement appropriate? Do you think she could step it up, should I lower it? Something else entirely? Did the borg invade? ( Only some will get that... ) I'd like *nice* input on this. Helpful, uplifting, but fair. I think that'd be reasonable. But if the need to be absolutely rude and insulting is for you, then do so I suppose. If there is clear input on maybe how I could bring this up in a fair manner too, that'd be perfect. I want to talk to her about this, but in a way where she will sit and listen, and respond, not leave for few days making me spazz the hell out. Having other's insight on how to do it would be great. I may even try to convince her to a skype call again ( we've only done it twice, but once it has started they have gone well, smiles, laughter, goofyness, things I wish we could do more often. ) and maybe we can talk about it in real time. Sort of putting her on the spot, but it'd work.. That sounds mean I know. And no, I don't intend to actually show her this. Probably. Maybe. We'll see.
Thanks in advance for taking the time to read and have input. I will say, if your advice is " forget her ", that won't happen.... before this got more serious, I ... actually tried to put a bit of space, and it did not work. Plus, I don't want to honestly. I want a fix, not a quit.
Grazie! (link)
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Wow! Thanks for all the detail. It does help when get useful information.
I am an older adviser, I will let you know that up front so you know. The younger crowd may have a different type of answer for you.
I really, really think you need to see this girl as a friend and not as a love interest. I am NOT saying that can't change someday if circumstances were to change. I feel from what you have said that she isn't even close to wanting anything more than friendship right now. If you push it, she may just stop communicating with you altogether. I don't think that is what you want.
When you meet people on the internet you can become fast friends. But you really do not know each other. When you don't see someone on a daily basis & see how they react to other people, and other things, you just don't know them. You know only the good and only what they want you to see.
Maybe she has had a bad experience with this in the past, or maybe she is just being cautious as she should be. You should be too. She does not want to talk about personal things because you just do not so that with strangers on the internet.
I think you should continue your friendship (You can love your friends without being "in love" with them). In addition, you should date & socialize with girls that you know at home. It may be an incorrect picture, but I see you sitting at home waiting to talk to her on the internet, while she is out living her life. You need to get out & do that too.
I hope you meet someday & everything falls into place. Until that day, stay friends and find a girl close to home. If you push wanting a relationship with this girl, you are going to scare her off.
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i started using the triphasil pill on the 16 jan 2015 and since then iv been taking it everyday at the same time but today my alarm never went off and i took it 20mins later as soon as i remembered coz i take it at 5 in the morning so instead i had to take it at 5.20 ths morning bt then a few hours later my boyfriend and i had unprotected sex..is there a chance that i may get pregnant (link)
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You should take the pill about the same time everyday. Mostly so you remember to take it. Even if you are several hours late taking it....take it. You should be fine. N0 form of birth control is 100% guaranteed but being exact on your timing will not make a difference. I don't think you are pregnant.
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I like a boy he is goring out with my friend how do I tell him how I feel or if I like him its really really hard (link)
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If they seem to be getting along, its probably best if you don't say anything to either one of them.
If you tell him, he will probably go to your friend, ask her whats up with you telling him that & then they are both mad at you.
If you tell her she will probably also get mad at you. You can tell if they get along or not. It will be hard to do but I think you will be happier in the end if you just wait & see how things work out with them. If they break up, wait a while and then talk to him or her about your feelings.
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I am 13 years old and I weigh about 155 pounds, and I have really bad stretch marks all over my lower belly. I try to lose weight by exercising every day, and not eating that much, but nothing works! I am thinking about starving myself, because nothing else works! I can't take it anymore! I just want to be skinny, and get rid of my stretch marks. Please help me!
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Try putting a cocoa butter lotion on your stretch marks a couple times a day. That will be cheapest & easiest thing to try first.
Stretch marks are damaged skin so you won't be able to make them go away completely. You can make them fade & not be so noticeable.
Here is a website that has options if you would like to try more.
http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Rid-of-Stretch-Marks
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you know like when you are doing "things" with yourself and there is nobody with you? sorry for being stupid. :( (link)
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No, you can't. In order to get pregnant, a males sperm has to come into contact with the females eggs. So, no sperm, no pregnancy.
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My boyfriend and I and his best friend went to Vegas for his birthday. I thought it would be awesome if he could experience since he just turned 21. I'm 22. So on our way back his friend said that a "girl should never make a guy go to the strip flub because it can cause problems.And I'm not saying that to cause problems for you guys but a girl should never do that". We've been together for almost a year in about a month and I trust him and am pretty confident in what we have and that's why I was comfortable with it. is that wrong of me to be okay with him going to the strip club? So the same friend of my boyfriends has a sister. They've all known each other for years since they were in junior high. When we get back home the next day my boyfriend gets a call from the best friend's sister. She was calling about some drama that is currently happening with my boyfriend. We are in the car parked and When he finds out who it is he asks if he should stay in the car or go out??? I'm confused? Then a few minutes later her tells her he'll call her back. Then after he hangs up he says "why does she even care about my drama/business?" And then he blushes. Idk. Am I overreacting? She and I are sorta friends mostly talking on snap and texting randomly. I don't want to be the jealous crazy girlfriend but idk what to think. Thank you for responding! (link)
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I'm a little confused but let me see if I can help.
I don't know what your guys friends problem is, but you did nothing wrong. Lets face it, everyone has internet & naked woman aren't hard to find if ones boyfriend wants to see nekkid women. Unless your boyfriend starts spending a lot of time in clubs you have nothing to worry about.Ignore that guys remarks.
I think because of the friends remarks you might have been a little sensitive about his sister. It does seem your boyfriend expressed his concern to you about the girls curiosity about what was none of her business.
Just to ease your mind sit down with the boyfriend and talk all this out with him. It won't make you look jealous. You just want to make sure they aren't trying to stir something up between the two of you.
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