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Should I be upset with him?
My boyfriend and I and his best friend went to Vegas for his birthday. I thought it would be awesome if he could experience since he just turned 21. I'm 22. So on our way back his friend said that a "girl should never make a guy go to the strip flub because it can cause problems.And I'm not saying that to cause problems for you guys but a girl should never do that". We've been together for almost a year in about a month and I trust him and am pretty confident in what we have and that's why I was comfortable with it. is that wrong of me to be okay with him going to the strip club? So the same friend of my boyfriends has a sister. They've all known each other for years since they were in junior high. When we get back home the next day my boyfriend gets a call from the best friend's sister. She was calling about some drama that is currently happening with my boyfriend. We are in the car parked and When he finds out who it is he asks if he should stay in the car or go out??? I'm confused? Then a few minutes later her tells her he'll call her back. Then after he hangs up he says "why does she even care about my drama/business?" And then he blushes. Idk. Am I overreacting? She and I are sorta friends mostly talking on snap and texting randomly. I don't want to be the jealous crazy girlfriend but idk what to think. Thank you for responding!
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I have no idea what you are actually talking about here.
Did he go to a strip club? Did he not? Do you care? Are you worried he's going to cheat on you with his friend's sister? Seriously. What is the problem?
Do you even know what the problem is? Can't you just ask him what the hell is going on? What is this "drama" he's talking about? If you don't know, you are perfectly entitled to just asking him what the fuck is going on! That's not about being a jealous girlfriend, that's about asking your partner what the hell is going on their life!
I don't much like strip clubs, they are strange and the rather aggressive sexuality of them leaves me pretty cold personally. However, I really couldn't care less if my boyfriend went to one or not. I don't consider it cheating and let's be totally honest, on average people are way more likely to cheat with a friend or co-worker then with a stripper. A person who doesn't want to cheat, just wont, not even with a stripper.
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It would seem the mutual male friend was so shocked and bothered by you taking bf to strip club that he felt he had to tell someone and told his sister who then calls and also makes it her business to give her two cents worth. I can't think of any other reason although there could be others. Clearly he was ticked about her butting her nose in by his comment. But apparently you have a nice guy with manners so he didn't tell her to mind her own business and likely plans to ignore what she and her brother have said. What are you jealous over? The moment you have a jealous feeling its time to ask direct questions and get answers to kick those jealous feelings outta there. I'll bet you didn't ask what she said or why he blushed. If its over the topic of a strip club and he blushes, he may be embarrassed that so many know he was in one as he wouldn't usually go. I can't say. But you can certainly find out. You were caring and thoughtful with what you did for him. But what if it made him very uncomfortable even though he appreciated the gesture? He may not want to hurt your feelings and tell the truth. How then can you know whats really going on in his head? You can ask/ yep obvious conclusion. I'll bet you haven't a clue what to say so you ask nothing.
First tho, if you want the truth, you need to have a tough enough hide to be able to take the truth without feeling offended and not taking anything personally. If you can do that, then ask: When you got that call in the car, what did sis say. Was she giving her two cents worth on the fact I took you to a strip club? He'd have to answer yes or two so you can know what the lecture was about. THen you could offer, you know I only had in mind to please you with something special by taking you. But it doesnt do any good if you didn't like it or it just wasnt your cup of tea or makes you too embarrassed. So I want you to be honest, it won't hurt my feelings. I am just trying to learn more about you so I know if surprises like this in the future are okay or not. Then listen to him and what he thinks of it. If you are a hair-pin trigger emotionally reactive girl normally, he still may not say anything and just say everything's fine as he fears upsetting you. The amount of heart baring truth you will get can be compared with the answers your heart can take hearing. If you've proven yourself to him so far to be stable emotionally, not overly reactive, then theres a good chance he'll open up and share if you ask. but asking has to be part of the equation.
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I'm a little confused but let me see if I can help.
I don't know what your guys friends problem is, but you did nothing wrong. Lets face it, everyone has internet & naked woman aren't hard to find if ones boyfriend wants to see nekkid women. Unless your boyfriend starts spending a lot of time in clubs you have nothing to worry about.Ignore that guys remarks.
I think because of the friends remarks you might have been a little sensitive about his sister. It does seem your boyfriend expressed his concern to you about the girls curiosity about what was none of her business.
Just to ease your mind sit down with the boyfriend and talk all this out with him. It won't make you look jealous. You just want to make sure they aren't trying to stir something up between the two of you.
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