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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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In my opion I think I sing good. But sometiems my voice gets like raspy and I can't sing very good. Whata re some good voice excersises. Or foods or drinks I can eat so my voice can get better. I have a vocie audition next week so I need help please help!
For the voice, just sing some scales everyday with a friend or someone on the piano or something to help you stay in tune
Also, not drinking enough fluids effect the sound of your voice so drink some tea or warm water before auditioning..along with a banana or 2
Banans help you stay relaxed because it's a good beta blocker...
oh yeah, me being a grammar nerd...it's sing well, not sing good.
Haha good luck!
whats a ? NuvaRing
It's a different type of a birth control.
You know how you have to take a pill everydeay or whatever if you're on birthcontrol? Well with Nuvaring, you just put it in your vagina and it releases low dosages of birth control stuff and you take it out every 3weeks, let your period take its course, put in a new one..etc. It's all explained on Nuvaring.com
i am 15 and for the past 3 weeks i've been straightening my hair and i've got mixed responses
to it and i just wanted to know should i keep straightening my hair?
Personally, I think that's awesome and cute. I know that Brandon straightened his hair once and so did Stephen and they're straight...well Brandon isn't. Charles had his hair straightened for a day and he isn't gay.
It's fine to straighten your hair. It's your own hair...Just tell people that you're straight and that you prefer to have straight hair over curly/wavy?
i wear an Avenged sevenfold hoodie and i've put a coulpe buttons on the pockets i have a Grr and Gaz buttons,some geeky World of warcraft buttons, some Halo buttons and some Suburban legend buttons is that ok or should i take the buttons off?
Dude, it's perfectly fine..why shouldn't you? You're allowed to put whatever you want on your hoodie..so don't worry about it. MY guy friend has several buttons on his jacket collar and my other guy friend has 209348 buttons on his backpack..and no they're not gay
haha, have fun =]
Hi!
I am trying to proove that the baritone is an instument besides the baritone saxaphone or a singing thing. It is an instrtument isn't it? I play it in band and no one besides my friend who has seen it. Please help me proove them wrong!!!!!!!!!
Thanks a million :)
-YOLIV :)
I haven't heard of a baritone...haha sorry.
But why don't you look it up in google or wikepedia and print out some information about it and give it to people or jsut bring that instrument to school and flaunt it around XD
ok well where do i start. when i was 12 my dad was my gero andi loved him more than anything, then he told me that he had been an alcoholic for many years and all the nights i spent with him he was drunk. my worl came crashing down and i still dont know how to get over it. On last year on thanksgiving week he went to a rehab to get better, and he did. Now i am 13 and still love my ad very much buti t seems like all of a sudden he just doesnt care about how many months he has been sober and just recently i evesdropp on my parents convos (puh lesse who doesnt) andi heard parts were he would say "i dont want her to smell it on my breath." usualy i would talk to my mom about it but she has been lying about thiss sitchuation. i cant trust them. and now today i heard my dad downstairs and i thought he was drinking something so i told my mom and she started talking to him and of corse, i evesdropped again b/c i dont want to not know things that are going on with my dad b/c i love and care about him. well i heard her go "we cant keep lying, they know, our kids know this" I really dont know what to do rite now and please dont say talk to them about it b/c for some reason i cant, and i dont know why i usually tell them everything it is just this sbject that i cant say anything about. PLEASE HELP!
Being sober is a hard thing. Your dad relies on alcohol and to break away from something he relies on is a hard thing and you should understand that but your dad should also understand that what he's doing and lying is a bad affect and influence on you.
This might get you in trouble but it also might help you. Take a beer can or something, empty it and save the can in your room. Everyday, take one beer, empty it and save it. Make sure your parents can't find them too easily. Then one day, just throw a beer can into your trashcan or into the bathroom trash can that you use--just make sure they can find it. One day they'll find it and remember that beer was going missing then they'll connect it and talk to you.
When they do, say "Why are you punishing me? Dad's doing it but I don't see him punished. I'm just following his example to be an alcoholic why not start right now."
Then they'll get the point that his drinking is influencing you in a bad direction and that he needs to change..unless they're really obtuse..
IF you can't talk to them, find facts about how harmful alcohol is online, print out a fact and a picture to correspond to that, print it out and put it on your dads car or whereever he'll see it...one fact each day. Or write to him asking what he'd do if you were to follow his example and start drinking.
alright well its really late and i been up thinking about one of my ex`s and i really loved him! like not even kidding!!! me and him have always had a thing and i don`t think anyone can change that!!! but now that hes all up on some girl that is not to be mean but, not to pretty. and theres a HUGE rumor going around saying that shes going to be having a baby!!! and its kinda gross. but anyways i have a boyfriend and i really like him and all but its like i always have defferent guys on my mind.... i love to flirt! haha well i don`t know what to do... i`m thinking to hang out with my ex and see how it goes. and just tell my boyfriend that i just wanna clear things up this him, and tell him to turst me. idk is that a good plan?
Okay, if you're having doubts about a guy while going out with another, you really should save all the heartbreak and just break up with your boyfriend now.
You still have feelings for your ex and I don't know why you guys broke up, but you guys did for a reason and it's just syaing that you guys can go through a thing without breaking up.
If you like to flirt, I'm guessing that you don't want to be tied down to a relationship but just go out there and flirt..so go out there and flirt with other guys.
Tell your boyfriend that you think you're not ready to have a relationship right now and that you're having big doubts about something.
Alright, well.
Me and this girl recently met and we became like, instant best friends. She calls me whenever she needs me, I call her whenever i need her, so on and so forth. And we have a cool time together whenever we hang out and she lets me know I'm her best friend.
But whenever we're hanging out with 1+ people, I know it sounds sort of selfish, but I feel ignored. I'm not an attention whore or anything, but I'd still want SOME acknowledgement from my best friend that I'm alive, you know? I don't know if it's cause me and her hang out so much it's like a breath of fresh air or what, but I've tried limiting space for a week or so now and we finally hung out tonight, and it still happened. I had to tell her three times I was leaving cause her and our friend were talkign to eachother. I just feel unimportant and unacknowledge whenever we all hang out together, so I just wonder, why bother inviting me to hang out with the two of you at all, you know?
What would you do if you were in my shoes?
Like I know I could try talking to her, but is there anything else?
You should join the conversation that's taking place or suggest a fun game to play or switch the topic of the conversation that everyone would be interested in.
Just participate in what they're talking about and I'm sure they will appriciate it.
hi guys! okay theres this guy at my school and i like him. how i found out i liked was throuh numerous chorus rehersals flirting. now that my feeling have devloped into more than a crush, im in trouble. i want to ask him out. ive never been the type of girl to wait for the guy for reasons that are too long for now. anyway the only catch is i havent had to ask someone out since january when i asked a privious bf out and i really like this guy! i need some advice as to asking him out without scerwing up the liffle friendship we have.
thanks in advance!
Don't suddenly go and ask "Wanna go out?"
Invite him to hang out with your friends and his friends can come to. Move as a group for a while. Go to the movies, someones house, mall, go bowling with several other people.
After you think that it's time, ask him to go to a movie with you or something---together..without friends...
Or if you don't want to mess up your friendship, then when homecoming/dance whatever is coming up, ask him if he wants to go with you and if he says no, just say, "Oh, well I need to ask more people" and just act normal as if you've asked that question to other guys a million times already
Well my newly ex-boyfriend now was dating for 11 months, and just broke up officially two days ago. We had broken up two times before this because we were arguing alot. This time we weren't really arguing, and he ended because he thinks I do too much for him, that we argue alot, and that he was to be single.... we he came to my house today to get his stuff, I was in the closet crying and in his clothes I packed the promise ring he gave me and the dogtag with our names and the day we hooked up..... my sister in law told me she asked him in the hallway what happened and he said he we were fighting too much and that he looked sad too, like he didn't want to do this.... I remember the last time he was breaking up with me, he was crying too... and this time i think he was too... so what should I do... give him time and space, or is he gone for good? I should I talk to him.... I miss him and we're eachothers first true love....
Okay, if you guys argue a lot, then that means that you guys can settle on one thing without arguing. You guys gave each other all the chance you guys should give and I think you should just break it off.
If you want to go through arguing again and again feel free to go back to him but he did say he wants to be free......
You should give some time and space and let the relationship cool down a little bit. You in the meantime should go out and have some fun =]
I can't seem to "get off" with my partner... i'm 17 and I can jack off by myself and not take awhile but when i'm with my partner it's harder for me to get an erection AND have an orgasm... I really don't know why... it's not just him, EVERYONE i've been with i've never been able to get off.... what's wrong with me? I mean I've known this guy for 1.5 monthes we're so comfortable together and yet I just can't seem to get anything done! I obviously don't have ED otherwise i wouldn't be able to get it up on my own... i'm really serious with this topic... is there anyone that can help me out and give me advice?
If you masterbat too much, that can affect it. Maybe you're not feeling the connection with this guy with the way you guys have sex..does that make sense? Try switching a little or set the mood differently and don't be so stressed out about it. I mean if he really likes you, then he won't mind too much..right?
does anyone know a good website for learning how to french braid? like how to do the pigtail french braid (one of each side of the head) thankss.
http://www.ehow.com/how_17115_french-braid-hair.html
so lately i was hospitalized for o.d.ing on seroquel and now my friends dont trust me and are total assholes about the situation and i just want to move on with my life but they keep bringing it up. what should i do? i feel like im losing the ppl who are my everything
They're just really worried. It's possible for anyone to lose someone's trust in a minute yet it takes even up to several years just to build that trust up again. You o.d.ed and that's life threatening and your friends are probably really worried that you might do that again.
I know that if my best friend o.d.ed and had to be hospitalized, I wouldn't trust him for a while until he's been drug free for at least a year and a half.
I suggest that you stop with the drugs, hang out with your friends more and if they bring it up, tell them that what's done is the past and that you want to move on instead of have everyone linger on it for centuries.
Ok, last year I think I went through one of the most horrible things a 14 year old girl could go through, my bsf(best sister friend) got really jealous of me, and mad at me when I saw how bad me and her (and other friends) acted. So, she did stuff to make me gain weight, and then at one point, she just stopped hanging out with me, and got my other 2 bff's to leave me. So I speant 3 months by myself and being my own best friend. Now, today, I hate myself, I'm super shy(i used to be outgoing) and I never talk to much! And I want to make new friends but it seems like I'm to shy too! I need advice on how to love myself and tips on how to gain a friendship.(I'm sorry that I'm asking for advice on two things, I couldn't find a place that looked right for hating yourself and stuff..)
I don't really get how your friend can make you gain weight but whatever. Your friend got jealous and she basically tried to lower your self confidence. If you want to let her have it her way, just continue with your life but you need to prove this girl wrong. Go out there and be a new spontaneous person. Say hi to people in your class. Talk with random people about different subjects. Get people's screen names and such.
Don't be afraid of who you are. People like people who are confident so go out there and have fun =]
what are some good excercises i can do while watching tv that will burn fat? thanks!!
Push ups, crunches, curl ups, squats, jogging in place. There are many excersise you can do. You can basically do anything that you want.
If you want to work on legs, lay on one side with your elbow bent propping your head up...then lift your top leg up and down slowly and repeat on the other side..squats are good. also stand with one leg slightly in front of the other and kneel down. get up and repeat 10 times and switch legs.
to tone your stomahc, do crunches, curl ups, push ups, or jsut stay up in a full body push up position.
15/f. i'm in 9th grade at middle school and i always have this problem where whenever i start becoming friends with a guy or talk to them a lot, i always start to get a crush on them and never just stay friends. why does this happen? it is like i can't have any guy friends...just crushes. also once i start talking to a guy a lot people automatically think i like them it is very annoying. and when i do like a guy most people can tell. and i don't think that i'm being that obvious...what can i do?
thanks!
It's probably your hormones acting up. Just chill, don't look at a guy as a possiblity of your bf. Just enjoy the time where you can be guys friends without THEM wanting more. Seriously. Just be friends with them. If you really like a guy, don't be too good of a friend with him because then people will say "OH MY GOD! SHE LIKES HIM THE MOST"
or something like that. tune it down a little and hang out with your girl friends more often.
okay so i got my songs from limewire onto itunes. how do i get the songs from the folder of my ipod to a playlist? when i right click the song the "add to playlist" button doesnt come up. i tried updating my ipod and the limewire songs didnt show up. what do i do?
have both programs opened. highlight the sing[s] you want to move to your itunes. left click it and drag it to the itunes button on the task bar and hold the mouse over it until i tunes comes up. now just drop it in the place you want it to be at
I try to eat healthy, not like extremely low-cal or anything, cause I'm not trying to make myself skinny, but I just want to look like a normal, healthy person. Lately I have been eating a LOT at dinner time. I can't help it, I never feel full. I try to take my time when I eat, since it takes awhile for you to realize you are full, but I still am hungry. I eat a large breakfast ( about 500-600 cal) and about the same at lunch. I eat a snack when I come home from school, and I drink enough water. I have not gained any weight yet, but it's possible I could, the way I've been eating. I eat like two dinners every night now, sometimes like 1000 cal. What could be my problem, why am I getting so hungry now? How can I turn it around, or should I?
Well, in teenage years, it's normal to feel hungry a lot of the times..like me =D haha. It's because your body needs energy and fuel to grow and if you're studying a lot, that take a lot of energy. School alone can use up a lot of energy. Stress also makes you eat more and more.
If you don't gained much weight after you eat this way for a while, it could just mean you have a fast metabolism (or you play sports?)
Eating this way is could be harmful to your body later on so when you feel like you have to eat or want to eat something just wait it out for 10min and see if you still want to.If you do, grab an apple or veggie or something like that and just munch on it =]
hey yeah srroy mine was the question about what i should do abouttelling the guy sorryabout doing all thouse peanks on him and stuff...well i'm going to do a complely different question. okay my question is what would you do if u and a frined made up a myspace that wasn't real so you could invite him to see his profile but he starts talkin to you and now you are so involved you are scared he'll get made if you tell him who youare (i get myseld in some screwed up situations) lol
Oh my. The infamous myspace. That got me in a lot of trouble once...
Telling him that the account you made was fake would seem to him like it's yet another one of your pranks and he may not want to talk to you ever again.
I say make a real account for yourself and add him onto your friend list. And the fake one, well I say to just stop it right now before it advances into a tighter situation. I've done this before and the way I did it was to say that you're moving and you won't get internet connection for a while and decrease your amount of time/writing you talk to him and then just stop completely then send him a quick msg saying that you have to delete the account thanks to your parents and delete it and NEVER mention to it anyone.
I know, tough but way better for you in the long run. When I suggested to make a new sn, I meant for you to use it to find out who he likes or just say that you know (your name) and that she's really sorry about the pranks and she can't control her urges and that she just wants to be friends with you
or something like that. you make it up...
haha good luck =] and if you want faster replies, just IM me at r0ck0nl0ser on AIM
Help! My BFF already has a BF but she's flirting w/my crush! She knows i hate that but she wont stop. And I think he likes it! what do i do?
-Broken Heart
Is it noticable things that she's doing?
Obviously she's not much of a friend if she's going to ignore you and hurt you to just get what she wants.
Tell her that she's making you really mad and angry and sad over this and that you really want her to focus on her bf and not flirt with other people.
I mean that's just as bad as saying "Look I have a bf but I don't care about him. I'm just gonna steal my BFFs crush!"
If she doesn't stop, tell her BF that she's flirting with another guy...hey, you warned her.