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hey .. i have a good friend of mine and she wants to kill herself because her and her boyfriend broke up .. and i dont know waht to say to her to make her not kill herself .. like i've said pretty much everything possible and i just dont know waht to do .. nothing i say will make her realize that hes not the only guy and all .. i really need help like asap .. !!
-- ash (link)
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You don't have to say anything. Talk to her parents and or another adult to get her help. She probably isn't hearing you anyway. She is crying out for help though so get it for her however you can. ASAP
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Ok...my boyfriend broke up with my like.. 4months ago..so like in january.. the end of december.. and like i really really like him... and i want him to kno that i like him without like... tell him.. i mean i pretty much spelled it out for him..but hhe is like blind... well anywayz, i just need help!
DeSpErAtE! (link)
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If you have let him no and you haven't gotten any response....move on.
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Okay heres the deal...
Ive been dating this GREAT guy i mean he's perfect..But im not exactly the most loyal person..So over spring break i lost mah virginity 2 some one else..Yeah i kno its bad and n a way i regret it..But the otha guy well call him Will is soo hot, popular, cute, sweet, and hes jus a lil freak and we mesh good togetha. PLus i think (i know) i could really stop my game for Will which would be a HUGE achievement for me!! Now on 2 mah boifriend again well call him Jay. Jay is okay lookin, sweetheart, says he loves me 2 death, hes perfect ecspect..he cant make me laugh like Will and he thinks hes funni when hes not @ all..Me & Will jus have more n common PLUS he took my virginity!
Well i dont want 2 be with Jay anymore but im n fear of hurting him AND everyone says ill be making a huge mistake because hes so good 2 me.
But I would prefer 2 date Will jus for the simple fact we have more n common..
But i dont know what 2 do OR HOW 2 DO IT!!
-Caught Up- (link)
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You break up with Jay. Yes it's going to hurt him, even if you're nice about it. Date the one you want to date. It is up to you to decide not your friends, no matter how good intentioned they may be.
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I don't know anymore what to do. Yesterday I posted a question here but I'm still confused. I met this guy in school. (You won't believe this) Last Grade 2, I started to have crush on this guy and It continued until now. I have not seen him for 1 year now but I still kept thinking about him. I know where his school is but I can't go there since I have a scholarship in my school. I think he likes me but is too shy to really tell me directly. He tried to talk to me last time and often smiled at me but I didn't talk back and smiled back at him :(. I regret that fact and I really wanted to show to him that I care. He even walked with me to my classroom last time but I still didn't talk to him. It was because I was nervous. Now, I didn't see him anymore. Sometimes I cry often because of him. It's really different with him and I am also worried because he has a personality problem last time. What if he would be led the wrong way? Please help me. What should I do? Age: 16 Gender: Female (link)
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Find a way to talk to him. Write him a letter,something. He can't read your mind and youo're not smiling back or talking...guy's confused.
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Okay my boyfriend(Steve) means alot to me and i mean alot to him. I care about him so much w/ like everything i've got, i am so afraid of losing him, me and him have been thru way too much for us to break up now. We've been together for like 9 months now and he has become the love of my life, the person i wanna be with forever, he has this friend(Shana) and they've been freinds for like mad long before i ever came in the picture and i dont want them to stop talkin but at the same time its like i am VERY VERY jealous of the girl, i dont know why i am but i am. Its really weird cause theres other girls he talk to and i really dont care about them, but her i do, and he's going into the air force in 75 days and i know for a fact that i wont do nothin wrong while hes gone , and i trust him but what if something happens and he finds someone else and doesnt come back for me.. In the past i have done shit that maybe gives him a reason to not trust me like i cheated on him ONCE and never again and i lied to him about cigarettes, but after all that and we talked about it i dont think i could lie or cheat on him again, the reason why i know why i wouldnt cheat is because that was like at the beginning of the relationship and all the shit we've been thru after that happened i dont think i could do that to him, hes the reasom why i made it thru all of it(it was a big mother-daughter-moms bf thing).. i love him alot, i dont even think LOVE is the exact word but its the closest. He is the best tbig thats stepped into my life and i am afraid of losing him, we also argue alot too, and we both accuse each other of things but then we talk it out. please what do u think is the future for us?
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You guy's need to trust each other a little more.
If you don't trust him then you don't have a chance of making the relationship work.
Of course you're jealous of his best friend. They are close and he's probably known her longer. It's natural. If he wanted to be with her though he would be. He's with you, so trust that you are the one he wants.
You will have to trust him when he goes to the air force too. Same as he has to trust you. Good luck :)
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im a guy who is shy and i like this girl who is like my best friend and i want to have a bigger relationship with her, what should i do to get her attention? please help!! thanks (link)
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If she's your best friend you already have her attention. Just ask her out. Make a deal that you will go out for a month and then see if either of you are uncomfortable with the dating thing. If so, remain friends. You can make whatever time limit you want to, a month was just an example. :)
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I attend an adult ed. program at night. I'm 19, female, and I really (really) like one of my (older,he's 31)teachers. It drives me insane to bottle all of it up inside. My friends say I'm crazy but he does little things to make me wonder, certain things he'll say or the way he'll look at me. Basically I pass his class no matter what, he never expects me to do the work, and I've had people that had no idea say that he was seriously checking me out. Should I try to talk to him, or wait until he's not my teacher anymore. Would it be so morally wrong of me to approach him about it seeing as he's my teacher? I don't know for sure what he feels but I know what I do, and I can't keep a secret anymore. (link)
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You'd be smart to wait until he is no longer your teacher. You could get him in some big trouble. I don't think you want it to get around that you're not expected to do the work either.That isn't fair to other students and could cause someone higher up to flunk you.
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okay so i like this guy but hes really really shy... how can i make him open up?? (link)
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Shy people will usually open up if you talk to them about something they are really interested in.
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ya ok at the begining of the year i went out wit this kid, he was really nice and everything but i dumped him for another guy after a couple months of going out. well im single now and i like the kid again, alot but i kno he doesnt really wanna go out with me again cuz i hurt him and now he's a lot more popular with the girls then wen i was wit him. should i still go for him and try to convince him im not gunna hurt him again or should i just let it go? (link)
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You can be nice to him and see where it takes you. If he just plain doesn't respond to you though, move on.
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how can i convince a girl to like me?what can i say to make her like me as a boyfriend (link)
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Just be yourself. Talk to them. Don't be rude. A lot of the girls are shy so they may not approach you. Don't just assume they don't like you. Go talk and ask one out. Good luck!
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alright, i asked you about my boyfriend of a year and a half and you gave awesome advice...but i've already done that. we went skiing together with a bunch of friends a few weeks back (i didn't give you ages last time, we're only 15) and i had a long talk with him then. he honestly seemed to feel horrible about the whole situation...but things didn't change. i had another (link)
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Try your best to trust. Wait it out a little longer. If thing's don't change soon then you'll have to make some tough descisons.
15 is a rough age. You both will be going through many changes. There's gonna be rough patches....most of which you'll be able to overcome. I wish you luck...you know where to find me if you wanna talk. My email address is also on my column, feel free to use it if you want privacy from being printed on column. Hope all goes the way you want it to.
I do hope you get some time alone together soon. It is nice though that you both seem to have parents that care! Even if they are a little over protective. Let me know how it works out with you. :)
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alright, i read your advice for someone with a problem similar to mine, and you've given excellent help in the past, so, with that, here's my problem. My boyfriend has been known to say mean things about me on occasion, and lately he gets mad at me over absolutely everything, making me feel like i'm this horrible person, and its completely wearing me down. The things he said about me were just a few times about 6 months ago...and the constant anger has been for the last month or so...we've been together for a year and a half so its not as though he's a bad person...i'm just not sure what changed, or why he's being the way he is. i really do love him and can't imagine being without him...but i can't continue to be treated this way because it tears me apart. i don't really have a specific question, i'd just appreciate advice on my situation. thanks so much! (link)
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Can you sit down and talk to him? Do you think he feels guilt about something that happened about the time the changes started? Something changed for him about 6 months ago, you need to investigate and see what you can find out.
You don't give me any ages...could be something happened at work or school. A death of family member or friend, a divorce of parents? Anything could have set him off. Doesn't have to be guilty feelings either that is just a question to look into.
You need to have a long heart to heart. When he is in a good mood! Just tell him that you can't go on the way you are and that you would like things to be the way they used to be. Tell him you want to help. Maybe he goes through depressions or something.
I think a long talk is the answer. You shouldn't have to put up with his nonsense BUT you do have a lot of time invested in your relationship already. May just need a little maintenence. Hope this helped some. Let me know if I can be of more help. Let me know how it goes too if you can. Best of luck, you'll work it out.
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Alright.. my boyfriend was talking to my best guy friend today.. and my boyfriend I guess called me a dirty whore... someone else told me to call them b-cuz they heard my boyfriend say some mean shit about me!! I'm getting really tired of him talking shit.. but the thing is he doesnt always treat me this way.. when he is nice to me he is a total sweetheart... I am so stressed I love this boy and I really need some help.. (link)
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Well, abusers that beat up their girlfriends do the same thing. Verbal abuse is just as bad. I wouldn't go out with anyone who had so little respect for me. I'd do some serious thinking about this relationship, okay?
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ok there's this guy at my skool whos been there since the begining of skool, but he started out as one of "the big guys on campus" like kinda cocky and stuff. but like now that its gettin close to summer, it seems like when i see him or hear about him, he's changed. Like from really preppy to skater guy and cocky to nice and he stands up for christ and i respect that alot from a guy! but me, im just like, people know me, im kinda popular, but not like a mean girl u know wat i mean? im not the one all the guys go crazy for. the guy im talkin bout doesnt really pay much attention to me, but i think he's really sweet. wat shood i do? (i rate 5s!) :-) thanks yall (link)
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Put yourself where he will notice you. Start talking to him. :)
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how do i keep my vagina clean?...not smelly (link)
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Soap and water.
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ok,i have a friend,call her terry.well,this may be confusing,but anyways... My friend terry,a girl,is friends with a boy.We'll call him bob.Bob likes me,and terry is telling me to go out with him.Shes saying how hot he is,but i've never seen him.[[only in a picture,and hes seen me only in a picture]]. Well,im not the pretty girl type,im fine with that, but...danm this dude must be desprate!! His whole pro on aim is all about me...were not even together.Hes 16 and im 13 1/2.I dont know what to do in this situation.Can anyone please help me?
**rate to 5's...sorry this was so long** (link)
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Go out with him if you want but use caution. I think it's alittle weird because of his age. He honestly should be looking at girls a little closer to his age don't you think? Gotta wonder why not. Use caution.
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i really like this guy a lot and hes a total flirt and he alwasy touches my butt and you n no stiff like that and i usally dont care and hes always by me and stuff. does he only like being by me because i like him touch my butt or do u think he likes to hang out with me. i mean im not the cutest person out there and hes really hott i just have acne and it makes me look really bad and if i didnt have it i would look cute. but i do so i was just hoping that he didnt only like me because i let him touch my butt. (link)
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Don't let him touch your butt anymore and you'll have your answer!
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Okay so ive got this problem. theres this guyi think i like now. hes a freshman and im a sophmore. i met him like a month ago but we never really talked til just recently. but its not like talking on the phone or anything, its thruogh text messages. he came and sat with me at lunch otday but didnt really say anthing bc hes really shy. he supposidly drinks a lot and has done a lot with girls, except i find it kinda hard to belive, bc hes so shy! i think im really stratin to like him, but idk if its the person through the texts i like, or him, i mena theyre the same person, but he just acts different. well i think im really startng to fall for him. like i like him a lot, do you think i shuld tell him i like him and hope for the best or should i sit it out until he strats talking to me in person? thanks... i rate! (link)
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First find out if he really drinks a lot or not. It is easy to believe because shy people sometimes aren't shy when they are drunk. You don't want a drunk though. Way to many problems to deal with. So stay friends until you have a little more info on this guy.
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i have had the urge to write songs lately but all of them are about love and my lovelife and i seem to copy from alot of other songs? to help come up with my own ideas and NOT about my love life what could i do??? any advice is helpful here i dont care! (link)
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Copying from other songs is called plagiarism and it is against the law. You can write about anything so long as it is your own words. If we tell you it won't be your own words. Happy writing! :)
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ok i live with my dad but my sisters live with my mom and well my mom is in wastion and she was soppost to be back today and well she is staying till thursday. and my sister called my dad crying and he said if she puts of going back to the house he will drive up their and get them ok my question is is what my mom is doing right? (link)
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Sorry, really need more info. With what you've given I don't know why mom is staying until Thursday. So far as I know changing plans isn't against the law yet.
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