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I attend an adult ed. program at night. I'm 19, female, and I really (really) like one of my (older,he's 31)teachers. It drives me insane to bottle all of it up inside. My friends say I'm crazy but he does little things to make me wonder, certain things he'll say or the way he'll look at me. Basically I pass his class no matter what, he never expects me to do the work, and I've had people that had no idea say that he was seriously checking me out. Should I try to talk to him, or wait until he's not my teacher anymore. Would it be so morally wrong of me to approach him about it seeing as he's my teacher? I don't know for sure what he feels but I know what I do, and I can't keep a secret anymore.
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You'd be smart to wait until he is no longer your teacher. You could get him in some big trouble. I don't think you want it to get around that you're not expected to do the work either.That isn't fair to other students and could cause someone higher up to flunk you.
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OK, you won't like this answer but you will remember my advice, hopefully, not when it is too late. He is too old for you, you have very little in common, except a physical attraction which is NORMAL, but if he has any morals or values, he should stay away, and believe me he knows that he should stay away. I don't know if he is married, God, I hope not, that would just make it worse, but you didn't mention it. If you start a relationship, now or when school is over, believe me, he will be embarassed to be seen with you in public. His friends will tease him about your age, he family will ask him "what are you thinking!?!?!?!?!".
Here is the other thing, when the two of you are not in bed, what will do you, what do you have in common, it is not likely that you even like the same music. He can go out to bars with his friends, you are not old enough to go. Like I said, it is normal to be attracted, I am sure that he is handsome and smart and his interest in you makes you feel older and special. But when he was your age, he was a jerk too, just like the boys your age are now. They will get better with time. Men mature later than women. You will be sorry if you persue this. I don't want to spoil your fun, I just want to protect you from heart ache. He can never have more than a brief phyisical relationship with you. His family and friends would never let him live it down. If you go to bed with him, he will soon dump you, and then where will you be....like Monica Lewinski.
HOpe this helps. I know my advice is corny, but I have been there
Michele
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I'd say tell him how you feel but wait to start a relationship until he isn't your teacher any more. I wouldnt go on a date or anything just yet. You shouldn't get involved with your teacher because if it doesnt work out then you might be screwed. Play it safe and good luck!
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I don't think you should approach him while still taking his class. But keeping all of your feelings inside will probably make it worse, maybe if you write him an annoymous note or letter explaining how you feel in a short and simple quick limmerick or rhyme?
You both could get into serious trouble if you do approach him while he's still your teacher, considering the law, but the descion is yours.
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ask for help on some of your work PRIVATLY and see how he reacts look into his eyes and show him you like him too , make sure your concentrating on the work though!! remember make it obvious!! GO 4 IT GURL
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I would wait until I am out of his class to approach him. Because if this little romance goes bad, so does your grades. You need to focus on doing the work whether he is just going to pass you or not because you need to learn this for your future.
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