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My parents fight a lot and my best friend keeps telling me that they're going to get divorced, and it really hurts my feelings. I don't think that they are going to get divorced because I know how they act around each other, but it just hurts my feelings when my friend says that. What should I do? (link)
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Are your freinds parent's divorced? If so then that may be how she see's it when your parents fight. Hers may have fought a lot before they divorced. If they aren't divorced, then maybe she watches to much TV :)
Anyway, don't let it bother you. A lot of parents have arguments without getting divorced.I'm sure she doesn't mean any harm by it.
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i have this boyfriend or basically did...but ok he broke up with me cause the feelings were there, and he nneeded time to mayb see if they would come back. and then yeah so we went to school and he seen me but didnt say anything and he told my friend that he didnt wanna get to attached cause he has college soon, and he feels really bad and really sorry and stuff and the thing i dont get is he told her"if we were met to be together then we will get back together" so what do u think?
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I think he means when he get's done with college.
If you're meant to be together you won't have met someone else by then. Basically, find a new guy. Sorry
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There's this boy I like and we're close, but I can't tell if we are just friends. We talk on the phone and on the internet alot, and hang with eachother at school but still, alot of the times, it seems like we're friends. He's really sweet to me, and not anyone else. And about twice, we were talking and he had a boner. I'm not sure if that makes any difference though. The point is, I really want to make a move but first, I want to know if it sounds like he's interested, or if we're just friends.
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It sounds like he likes you. You talk and hang out...friends do those things! Boner makes no diffrence. Breathe on a guy just right and he'll get one of those. Sounds like he likes you though. :)
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I need to know if my husband is cheating.I am 23 and he is 20. We have a 4 month old son and have been married almost a year. He is working out of state( In Florida and I'm in Texas) and living with a bunch of his single friends. We had been having problems even before he left, but since he got there we have been fighting constatntly over the phone.If he decides he's done talking he will hang up and either turn his phone off or just ignore my calls and text messages. He always seems to be busy (working, eating, showering, going to the gym,ect.) There are times when I can't get a hold of him and he tells me he left his phone in the other room. We had an argument and he truned his phone off all night. I recieved a text message to my phone the next morning that read" sorry about last night. My baby's mom was calling all night so I turned my phone off." He claims it was his friends playing a joke and that they did teh same thing to another guy too. However, He was not even angery about it. He seemed to not care at all. Of course he denied cheating. That same day I discovered pictures of naked girls dancing on a bar on his phone while online. He says his brother took them because he didn't have a camera phone. What should I think? Is he cheating? How can I catch him when he's so far away? Your advice would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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I won't convict the guy but it doesn't look really good. I'd say he needs to do some growing up. If he was mine he would be quitting the road job and finding something closer to home where he could share the everyday responsibilities of raising a son. If he didn't want to grow up and do that...he would be history, screwing around or not.
Regardless of what he's up to on the road, your relationship sounds pretty shakey.I think your instincts are right.I don't think I'd even bother trying to figure it out for sure. This isn't much help I'm afraid. sorry.
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Thank you for anwering my question before. I just have a couple of other things to say if you don't mind.
I speak to my boyfriend every day and we usually argue. Today already we've had two arguments today and its only midday. He accused me of still being asleep when I was working. Since I've been at uni this year he has only once made an effort to come down on a Friday night and be with me for the whole weekend. He told me he prefers to play rugby on Saturdays so he would get to me at 10pm on the Sat night and leave at 5pm the next day. Other times I was the one who went home all the time so I could see him.
When I do go home I want to see him alone and go out for supper together or something. He wants to go out to a bar or a club and so I just end up sitting talking with my friends and he goes and gets really drunk with his mates. He then blames me for not alking to him but its a bit difficult when he is too drunk and surrounded by his male friends.
Our sex life is non-existent-I don't find him sexually attractive anymore but whenever we are together he wants sex all the time.
I just had another argument with him because I'm making the effort to go and spend the night with him on Friday night and for us to be together. He has just emailed me asking if we want to go to this party because all his friends are going. I said no because I know what will happen and he just had a go at me.
This guy on Monday I can't get out of my head. I first met him because he was serving me in the bar across from where I live. I thought he was really nice and good-looking but thought nothing of it. Then my flatmates friend asked us over to hers for dinner and it turned out he was one of her flatmates. We got on really well and got a bit tipsy. I remember sitting with my friend looking at a photo album and him coming and sitting next to me but right up next to me so we were really close. I think it was because he'd had a bit to drink but I still wondered.
Then I went out on Monday night. I was talking to my friend about good looking guys and just as I mentioned his name he appeared and we chatted. I ended up going to this club and he was there as well ( I didn't know he was going to be there) Twice he came up and asked me to dance and twice I said no. We were both quite tipsy but in a nice controllable way! I was then dancing with my friends and he came up again and asked me to dance. My friends ran off so we danced. He kissed my neck and it was quite obvious he wanted more but obviously I wasn't going to. And he knows I've got a boyfriend. We talked and I was quite nervouse just because I was really enjoying myself and usually when I'm out with my boyfriend he gets very jealous if I chat to other guys. He suddenly took my hand and took me out the club and round the corner to get some takeway food. We ate it on top of a big bin and he said 'sorry this isn't very romantic' I wasn't sure how to take it as he knew I've got a boyfriend and I didn'r know if he was joking or not. He walked me home and we chatted. He asked for my number and we kissed goodbye on the cheek twice and he hugged me. I just feel so elated after the whole evening-I feel more confident which is something I haven't felt for ages. I have never had any attention paid to me before because I have always been with my boyfriend.
He texted me as I was in bed saying it was good to see me again and 'good luck with the hangover, shall we see who is better off?' i don't really know what that meant! But I texted him back saying it was good to see him again and see you soon.
I thought nothing of it as we were both tipsy and he could get any girl he wanted.
But the next morning I got a text from him saying how bad his hangover was and if I could relate to it somehow. I texted back saying I felt pretty rough too. He texted again going'when are you out again so we can have another dual?' I think he meant go drinking together. I texted back saying I don't know because it would probably take me ages to get over my hangover. He texted back again going 'how about friday night?' Was this asking me out? Or is he just being friendly? I don't know! I told him I was going home then and he sent me one last one saying we will have to go out next week.
I then got a text from my flatmate asking if he had walked me back home last nigh. I called her and he had told his flatmates he walked me back and they had told my flatmate. Did he tell his flatmates this because he likes me?
I know there are thinks wrong in my relationship and being 24 and knowing I don't want to marry him makes me wonder. I had such a good time on Monday and this Australian guy made me feel so special but he is leaving in a month and I don't know if he is the type of guy to do this to all the girls as his other flatmates are like that. I really really appreciate you taking time to read this (its probably taken you ages to read - sorry) but I don't really have anyone to talk to about it and you seemed more mature than the others who replied. Just one more thing-after I met him the first time I was introduced to him in a club and when we said goodbye he held my gaze for ages. I feel so guilty about thinking about him more than my boyfriend but I just really need some reassurance about if this guy did/does like me. What should I do about my boyfriend and why can't I stop thinking about the Australian? Thank you in advance for replying.
Daisy x (link)
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You know Daisy, after getting more details I'm kind of leaning toward the Aussie myself. If you've made that many attempts with the boyfriend and haven't gotten any results, you probably won't get any. It sounds like he is still pretty immature and more into thinking of whats good for himself than what might be good for the two of you. If you really see no future with him then I'd stop wasting time on him. Really, I would.
I would date the Aussie, take it slow though since it may be a temporary relationship.Is he in school too? Will he be returning in the fall?
My only concern is that he will only be here another month. You could get real attatched in a month. You never know though could be Mr Right! Funny that he just happened to show up! I think you really need to take the chance though.
I sure hope I'm not encouraging you to do the wrong thing. It's not my intention that you get into a potentially hurtful relationship. But he sounds so right, ya know? I'm just offering an opinion.
I don't mind reading long ones, anytime. I do hope that you will let me know what happens. You don't have to have a question to leave me a messege. You can leave me an email anytime too.
karenrickel50@hotmail.com
I wish you all the best, don't waste more time on a dead end relationship. I think he was asking you out for Friday, by the way. Take him up on it. See how it goes. Tell him you've had a change of plans! Looking forward to hearing you had a good time :) KAREN aka Younggrandma
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hey well he told me an answer this morning and he said no he doesnt wanna go back out with me and i said well why did you tell me you did and he goes he did wanna go back out with me but then he has something else going on welll i waited all that time and i am so pissed wouldnt you be if you had to wait all day then found out in the morning that he was gonna ask you back out and he said that and then he said no he doesnt/ well i am pissed b/c he had me waiting and had me believing that he was gonna go back out with me well he told me he dont know why he said i know he aint worth it but all these lil butches gives him hugs then i tried to and he backs off i dont get it should i just drop him and get done with it (link)
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I think I would for now. It's causing you nothing but misery. Maybe seeing you with someone else will stir up some jealousy in him and change his mind. Even if it doesn't you don't want to miss mr right while waiting on him to change his mind. I'd say he does like you somewhat or he wouldn't have had to think about it.
Yea, I'd be pissed. I was pissed for you last night. I hate being put on hold...just say it and get it over with, you know? I sure wish it had turned out diffrently for you. I know you have some tough day's ahead but you'll make it through okay. Hope you meet up with someone really great soon! :)
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My boyfriend's parents just don't like me and I can't figure out why! I don't smoke, drink, or do anything like that. I'm in college with a 4.0 GPA for Journalism and Communications and I do lots of volunteer work. What's not to like?!? All my ex-boyfriend's mom's have loved me to death: I even still hang out with one of them! I also do so many things for my boyfriend, such as when he has a big test to study for, I'll organize his desk, do his laundry, or bring him dinner. I leave him sweet notes in the morning! We've been going out for 2 years, and he absolutely loves me, yet his parents have a different opinion. They tell him that he needs to date other people and that they don't think I'm right for him. This is just so strange to me! What's going on? (link)
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I don't think it's because she's done all those things for him. I think it's because your taking her baby away from her, period. It's got to be something weird like that because it sounds like you treat him like he's special. What more could a mom want? So long as he loves you though...who cares what mom thinks. I mean, do your best and hope she changes her opinion someday, but don't let it ruin it for you and your guy. :)
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I just got a boyfriend 2 days ago, but i havent had a b.f. in a while and i dont noe how to like act like his girlfriend and not just his friend. I only see him a few times a day, cus were not in many classes together, but i dont noe whut to do! Id appreciate anything! =] .. i rate high! (link)
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A girlfriend is basically just a friend. Don't act any diffrent or he may not like you anymore! Just be yourself. Now you get to hold hands and kiss and stuff...everything else should remain the same. :)
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i wrote before about "carl" and what had happended well i stil realli want him and i want to tell him but i dont know how i mean you wont just go up to him and tell him you like him when hes taken right or is that what i should do? i dont know but anyways, we started talking more now well more than before and we joke around and stuff and i just wish hed like me like i like him but i dont think he does. and i was talking to my best friend about it and she told me she was getting made cuz all i ever talk about is "carl" and i told that i do cuz i love him so much and i want to be with hi and nothing would make me happy until we are together and she looked at me like i was on drugs. so what im asking is should i tell him and if so when and where and HOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!plz help im so cunfused. (link)
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No, don't go ask him if he is involved with someone else. Don't say anything unless he is free to date you. Just remain friends for now and get to know him, then if he ever gets available you and him are friends already. :)
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ok ther is aguy at skool and we r friends.. he is always tells me thing that he doesnt tell other people ... and same thing i can tell him stuff like that to.. and we always talk on the fone 24/7..... and we always flirt .. i dont kno if he likes me .. i really do and how can i find out??
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Ask. If he didn't like you he wouldn't be such a good friend. Whether he wants a serious relationship remains to be seen, but he does like you. Ask. :)
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I'm involoved with a married man and have been for two years now. We started out as just friends and the relatonship evolved.He's scared to leave his wife because they share two children together. I'm very much in love with him and want to be with him. Lately I've been feeling he's been wasting my time because he hasn't left her yet and I feel he never will. When I ask when will he leave or make a decision on leaving, he tells me he cant leave his kids with her and wants to know he could get full custody before he leaves. What should I do in this situatuion? HEEEELLLLLPPPPPPP!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Run. Fast. In the opposite direction.
Your feelings are on the money, he will not leave her. They have a history together. You are just a diversion. You have been used. Move on before you get hurt even worse by this jerk.
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I have acrush on this boy and he doesn't know it! My friend is supposed to tell him tommorow... but i dunno if he will!!! Im worried cause i dont really wanna know his reaction... i really dont think he likes me and i dunno wat to do!!!!!!! (link)
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You can either grab your friend and tell him to forget about saying anything, or you let him go ahead and get it over with. May as well get it over with. If he doesn't like you at least you know and can crush somebody new! :)
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I have been going out with my girlfriend for about 3 monthes now, and we havent kissed yet... part of the problem is that i havent really found the time right, i would like a spot that (i know this may be kinda unlikly) but later on down the road maybe if i proposed to her, it would be the same spot... the other problem is that she never makes any "moves". The only times we talk is when i call her, (or at school) and the only times she ever calls me, is when she missed my call and is just returning it. Now a bunch of things are going on, and we are both a little buisier (sp) and really stressed out. We both have a really short fuse at the moment, and i know sometimes i can be kinda annoying. What should i do since we are both really, really competative, im affraid if i dont say it exactly right, it will turn into a fight, and i havent had one with her (or any girl) yet, but i really dont want to... so what should i say to her to kinda tell her i dont want to be doing everything in the relationship? (link)
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Start kissing her and maybe she will be a little more aggressive. If you haven't kissed her she may think you aren't all that interested in her doing anything. I know times have changed but most girls are still waiting for the guy to make the first move. Then, you two need to start communicating what you want from each other. Don't worry so much about that perfect spot. It will be memorable wherever it happens. If it turns out you have to propose someday under the school bleachers...so what. It will be all that more special. Good luck :)
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I love a guy, Who loves a Girl, but the Girl, doesn't love him. But the guy who loves the girl, doesn't love me, so it goes around in circles...i want to get this guys attention...How should I without totaly letting him know that i REALLY love him????
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You will really have a hard time getting his attention if he's in love with someone else. If he did go out with you, it may be just to get over her...which is bad for you too. If knowing all that you still want to persue him (I don't recommend). Then you could tell him that you know how he feels because you feel the same about him as he does about her. Take it from there. I honestly think you will get hurt if you persue him though. :) Sorry.
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ok so I have been going out w/ my boyfriend since january 16, 05. and we have only kissed 4 times!...and this sucks for me...everytime we have kissed it was me kissing him!...i mean like he kisses back but he doesnt make the first move!...how in the world do i get him to kiss me first???....plz help me...i rate high* (link)
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Tell him you really like kissing him, wish he'd do it more often. Ask him if he likes kissing you. Maybe he thinks he has bad breath or something. Guy's can be weird. :)
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I am going out with this guy who is in 9th grade and i am in 7th. I only get to see him on sundays, wednesdays, and sumtimes on friday and saturdays. I call him everyday but he never calls me. He thinks i might be prude but i never know when the right time to kiss him is. i am not prude and i dont know how to get this through his head! HELP!! i rate high if you dont have an answer that says just talk to him about it! (link)
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The right time to kiss him is when he kisses you. If he isn't kissing you, perhaps he is a prude! Tell him to call you once in awhile and maybe you'd feel more like kissing him. :)
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If u are trying to hint to your bf that u want him to kiss u, what are some good types of flirting to use to get the message across. I've tried things but they don't seem to work. Once I was heart broken becuz he pulled away when I was flirty. I'm so lost.
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oh, just forget all the flirty stuff. Grab him by the ears and give him a big smooch. That will get his attention. I'm serious. :)
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Okay, a really close guy friend of mine just told me last night that he just realized that he has feelings for me. we were VERY close last year, but we don't have any classes this year and we rarely talk. He even has a girlfriend now that he is supposedly crazy about. I was telling him how I have feelings for this other very close friend of mine, and right as I was explaining he was like.."I feel jealous..:-/" then that's how he got into it. He said this, "I don't know how to explain it, but I guess when someone likes someone else that's when you really realize your feelings for them.." blahblah.. then he said that he's really confused. [this was online, I know..stupid] He said that he would call me and explain it to me. I keep saying, "no I don't think that would be a good idea, you have a gf" then he would be like, "that doesn't mean you cant have feelings for someone else.." I see him every once in a while and it's kind of akward.. I think I'm starting to have feelings for him, and I don't know what to do. Any tips would be great thanks! (link)
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If he's serious he will break up with his girlfriend and ask you out. Then YOU will know he's serious too. Make sure it's over with the gf then go for it if thats what you want. Sometimes it's easier for people to write what they are thinking. He was probably telling you the truth. Now you'll have to wait and see if he was serious. :)
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ok im 15/f and i really like this guy! so that guy already knows cause 1 of my friends blabbed and he said i was pretty and all, but he hasn't asked me out! i talk to him whenever i can in class and stuff, but it doesn't seem to be working! oh ya, he's never had a gf before! how i do i get him to ask me out? pleaz help! (link)
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Sounds like you're doing about all you can on your end. Maybe you could bring up a movie that's playing in your area while your talking to him...say how you'd REALLY like to see that! Maybe he just needs a little prodding. Especially since he hasn't had a girlfriend before. Guy's have the same anxietys as you do, he may be afraid of being turned down. A little opening may be all he needs. Good luck. :)
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hey well i was on here with a problem about my ex bioyfriend and how i cheated on him well he wants me back and he told me he forgave me and stuff. well last night on the phone he told me that he wanted to get back with me and i have done waited one time for his answer then he changed it. anyways he told me that he would ask me out today well i waited and he still didnt ask me he told me to wait till the end of the day then he would ask me b/c he had something to do before well come to find out it was sanother girl well i waited and he told me to wait untill tomorrow and then my friend told me that he said that he wasnt gonna go back w=ith me that he wish he didnt have to tell me he still likes me well i think he os playing games what do you think should i wait untill 2-morrow but what if he denies he said that i mean do you think i should wait i am so confused plz help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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I think you need to corner the little weasel and get an answer out of him once and for all. Even if it isn't the one you want, you need some closure. making you wait all day long and then nothing... Want me to smack him for you? If he can't give you an answer tomorrow morning...forget him. :)
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