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Boyfriend's parents
My boyfriend's parents just don't like me and I can't figure out why! I don't smoke, drink, or do anything like that. I'm in college with a 4.0 GPA for Journalism and Communications and I do lots of volunteer work. What's not to like?!? All my ex-boyfriend's mom's have loved me to death: I even still hang out with one of them! I also do so many things for my boyfriend, such as when he has a big test to study for, I'll organize his desk, do his laundry, or bring him dinner. I leave him sweet notes in the morning! We've been going out for 2 years, and he absolutely loves me, yet his parents have a different opinion. They tell him that he needs to date other people and that they don't think I'm right for him. This is just so strange to me! What's going on?
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I don't think it's because she's done all those things for him. I think it's because your taking her baby away from her, period. It's got to be something weird like that because it sounds like you treat him like he's special. What more could a mom want? So long as he loves you though...who cares what mom thinks. I mean, do your best and hope she changes her opinion someday, but don't let it ruin it for you and your guy. :)
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I think that his parents will always have that feeling that no girl is "perfect" for their son, regardless of her status/credentials.
My boyfriend's parents think of me the same way. Just hang in there and be patient. If his parents don't see the good you do for him, then they don't have any reason to believe you're right for him; because sometimes although you see all of the good things you do for him, they may not. But if they do, just hang in there. Although they may seem like they shrug it all off, the effort is really appreciated compared to if you quit altogether.
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They are just getting used the fact that ur boyfriend isnt a little kid anymore... and that he dosent need his parents around 24/7 they'll like you once you get to know them more and they trust you.. Dont be afraid to let yourself out! wait im only 13 sorry! haha! x0o* hope it helped?
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I don't think that _you_ are the problem. I think the problem is that your boyfriend is "twenty-three and about to graduate."
Mommy and Daddy have probably realized, for a while now, that soon their son will be venturing into the adult world. He'll be able to provide for himself, take care of himself, and won't be sharing a roof anymore. That's a big deal for any parent. Just as any family changes when a child is born, so the family changes again when the same child becomes an adult. His parents are going to act in an irrational matter every now and then. It happens. He'll deal with it, they'll deal with it, everything will be okay.
With that said...His parents probably think that the two of you are getting serious. (It sounds like it to me. Are you?) They probably also think that twenty-three is still too young to commit to one person. That he should still be looking around and feeling out different people. Well, that's just tough Mom and Dad. Their son is a man now, he can decide whether or not he wants a serious relationship or not. Whatever his decision, they are going to have to take it and like it if they don't want to push their son out of their life.
As for whether or not they think that you are "right" for him or not...I'm guessing that they don't know you very well. Please correct me if I'm wrong. I don't know you either, and you could be a child of the devil :P but I doubt it. You sound like you've got your head screwed on straight. That you aren't the "right" girl...Sounds like an excuse to me. Besides, that's not for them to decide either. It's your boyfriend's life and his decision.
So I suggest...Don't worry about it. Probably easier said than done, but try to think of it this way...A relationship all ready has enough worries when there are two people involved. Add another two people, and it can get out of hand. Besides, if your boyfriend loves you, and wants to be with you in the future, he'll tell his parents how he feels. And if they really love him, they'll accept you and learn to like the idea that their little boy is growing up :) Farewell dearie ;) Don't let Mom and Dad get ya down...:D
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You do sould like a really nice girl and there is nothing not to like about you. Have you tried to talk to them and ask them why they dont like you, That might get both points of views across to eachother. If that dosent work then just ask your boyfriend to ask them why they dont like you. Just dont change the way you are just to please some one else and if you really love your boyfriend then you wont really care what people think.
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i think that they might be jelous of you and they dont want him to grow up if hes the baby in the family that has to be why...
i hoped i helped
*Sam*
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HI!!!! well this might sound weird, but it might be true.........
Could it be that your bf's parents are jealous? think about it. For years his mom has made him dinner, did his laundry and now that your in the picture could it be she feels un wanted? If i were you, i would try to talk to her and explain how much he loves you for the things you do for him and that your sure he loves her to because she did everything for him too. And that your not trying to steal him your just being a good gf. Hope i helped!
~texas~
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you seem like a great person! some people judge on religion, past relationships, appearence (trashy, ect.) or even credit scores. theyre not very smart people if they judge that way bc its the inside and what your bf loves you for that really counts. <3
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Some people when you meet them have negative feelings for them. That is just human nature. Maybe they think you are too good to be true and a fake. They could think that you are only nice when they are around. I don't know what else to tell you talk to them or something! Good luck.
-Brianna
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