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More on my bf of 4 years and the australian....
Thank you for anwering my question before. I just have a couple of other things to say if you don't mind.
I speak to my boyfriend every day and we usually argue. Today already we've had two arguments today and its only midday. He accused me of still being asleep when I was working. Since I've been at uni this year he has only once made an effort to come down on a Friday night and be with me for the whole weekend. He told me he prefers to play rugby on Saturdays so he would get to me at 10pm on the Sat night and leave at 5pm the next day. Other times I was the one who went home all the time so I could see him.
When I do go home I want to see him alone and go out for supper together or something. He wants to go out to a bar or a club and so I just end up sitting talking with my friends and he goes and gets really drunk with his mates. He then blames me for not alking to him but its a bit difficult when he is too drunk and surrounded by his male friends.
Our sex life is non-existent-I don't find him sexually attractive anymore but whenever we are together he wants sex all the time.
I just had another argument with him because I'm making the effort to go and spend the night with him on Friday night and for us to be together. He has just emailed me asking if we want to go to this party because all his friends are going. I said no because I know what will happen and he just had a go at me.
This guy on Monday I can't get out of my head. I first met him because he was serving me in the bar across from where I live. I thought he was really nice and good-looking but thought nothing of it. Then my flatmates friend asked us over to hers for dinner and it turned out he was one of her flatmates. We got on really well and got a bit tipsy. I remember sitting with my friend looking at a photo album and him coming and sitting next to me but right up next to me so we were really close. I think it was because he'd had a bit to drink but I still wondered.
Then I went out on Monday night. I was talking to my friend about good looking guys and just as I mentioned his name he appeared and we chatted. I ended up going to this club and he was there as well ( I didn't know he was going to be there) Twice he came up and asked me to dance and twice I said no. We were both quite tipsy but in a nice controllable way! I was then dancing with my friends and he came up again and asked me to dance. My friends ran off so we danced. He kissed my neck and it was quite obvious he wanted more but obviously I wasn't going to. And he knows I've got a boyfriend. We talked and I was quite nervouse just because I was really enjoying myself and usually when I'm out with my boyfriend he gets very jealous if I chat to other guys. He suddenly took my hand and took me out the club and round the corner to get some takeway food. We ate it on top of a big bin and he said 'sorry this isn't very romantic' I wasn't sure how to take it as he knew I've got a boyfriend and I didn'r know if he was joking or not. He walked me home and we chatted. He asked for my number and we kissed goodbye on the cheek twice and he hugged me. I just feel so elated after the whole evening-I feel more confident which is something I haven't felt for ages. I have never had any attention paid to me before because I have always been with my boyfriend.
He texted me as I was in bed saying it was good to see me again and 'good luck with the hangover, shall we see who is better off?' i don't really know what that meant! But I texted him back saying it was good to see him again and see you soon.
I thought nothing of it as we were both tipsy and he could get any girl he wanted.
But the next morning I got a text from him saying how bad his hangover was and if I could relate to it somehow. I texted back saying I felt pretty rough too. He texted again going'when are you out again so we can have another dual?' I think he meant go drinking together. I texted back saying I don't know because it would probably take me ages to get over my hangover. He texted back again going 'how about friday night?' Was this asking me out? Or is he just being friendly? I don't know! I told him I was going home then and he sent me one last one saying we will have to go out next week.
I then got a text from my flatmate asking if he had walked me back home last nigh. I called her and he had told his flatmates he walked me back and they had told my flatmate. Did he tell his flatmates this because he likes me?
I know there are thinks wrong in my relationship and being 24 and knowing I don't want to marry him makes me wonder. I had such a good time on Monday and this Australian guy made me feel so special but he is leaving in a month and I don't know if he is the type of guy to do this to all the girls as his other flatmates are like that. I really really appreciate you taking time to read this (its probably taken you ages to read - sorry) but I don't really have anyone to talk to about it and you seemed more mature than the others who replied. Just one more thing-after I met him the first time I was introduced to him in a club and when we said goodbye he held my gaze for ages. I feel so guilty about thinking about him more than my boyfriend but I just really need some reassurance about if this guy did/does like me. What should I do about my boyfriend and why can't I stop thinking about the Australian? Thank you in advance for replying.
Daisy x
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You know Daisy, after getting more details I'm kind of leaning toward the Aussie myself. If you've made that many attempts with the boyfriend and haven't gotten any results, you probably won't get any. It sounds like he is still pretty immature and more into thinking of whats good for himself than what might be good for the two of you. If you really see no future with him then I'd stop wasting time on him. Really, I would.
I would date the Aussie, take it slow though since it may be a temporary relationship.Is he in school too? Will he be returning in the fall?
My only concern is that he will only be here another month. You could get real attatched in a month. You never know though could be Mr Right! Funny that he just happened to show up! I think you really need to take the chance though.
I sure hope I'm not encouraging you to do the wrong thing. It's not my intention that you get into a potentially hurtful relationship. But he sounds so right, ya know? I'm just offering an opinion.
I don't mind reading long ones, anytime. I do hope that you will let me know what happens. You don't have to have a question to leave me a messege. You can leave me an email anytime too.
karenrickel50@hotmail.com
I wish you all the best, don't waste more time on a dead end relationship. I think he was asking you out for Friday, by the way. Take him up on it. See how it goes. Tell him you've had a change of plans! Looking forward to hearing you had a good time :) KAREN aka Younggrandma
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