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What should I do?
I have been going out with my girlfriend for about 3 monthes now, and we havent kissed yet... part of the problem is that i havent really found the time right, i would like a spot that (i know this may be kinda unlikly) but later on down the road maybe if i proposed to her, it would be the same spot... the other problem is that she never makes any "moves". The only times we talk is when i call her, (or at school) and the only times she ever calls me, is when she missed my call and is just returning it. Now a bunch of things are going on, and we are both a little buisier (sp) and really stressed out. We both have a really short fuse at the moment, and i know sometimes i can be kinda annoying. What should i do since we are both really, really competative, im affraid if i dont say it exactly right, it will turn into a fight, and i havent had one with her (or any girl) yet, but i really dont want to... so what should i say to her to kinda tell her i dont want to be doing everything in the relationship?
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call her and ask her if she wants to go somewhere or come to your house or sumthing. i think that you two need to hang out more often then you will be alone together and have a chance to kiss. or even just a kiss goodbye, after school, when you see her out of school whenever, you guys dont have to have a make out fest. even just a kiss when she leaves. also talk to her.. be like why dont you ever call me? but if she never ever calls or even tries to talk to you or hang out with you. you may want to consider breaking up with her? i know thats not the greatest choice. but i mean if you two never talk, you have no time for eachother and she doesnt seem to be interested in you.. well ya know? well do what you think is best for the both of you! hope i helped <33
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First of all i have no idea how old you are but it doesnt really matter all girls want is their boyfriends to make them feel special. They want you to make the move because all gurls are nervous and they don't want to feel like they're not doing it right because if they thought you didnt like them because they didnt know how to kiss that would make them feel really bad. It sounds like this girl is very typical and is shy when it comes to being alone with her boyfriend this is why she keeps all her friends tight around her for support. What you need to do is just the next time you feel the need to kiss her or hug her and her friends are around be a bigger person and do it right in front of them then your girl will take the hint and spend alot more time alone with you if she knows she is safe and that you dont feel like shes doing it wrong just make sure you do not take advantage of her cuz that will screw you and her up big time hope that helps
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i think you should kiss her when you take her home or before all your friends get somewhere and send anyone that is there to some other place and im sure theyll understand and take any clingy people with them. [sigh] how romantic. just dont do it at a movie cuz movies suck and everyone can see you no matter where you are. if shes not shy (lol) then it might be that she just doesnt like the phone cuz her family can listen to what shes saying so dont worry about it. <3
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Awwww that is so sweet.. Um i dont know whats wrong with this girl if i had a boy as sweet and thought like that id kiss em in a heart beat lol.. but um i would stay the same way you are for her tho cause seems like nothing is wrong with you hun.. Well most girls like when guys make the moves.. and make sure it is special like you said thats so sweet *sorry had to say it again* but yea i would think also if you made the first move on that she'll make the first move on other things.. she probably isnt completely comfortable..much luv dez x0x0
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If you want to kiss her and it to be in a special place then think of somewhere quiet you could go where you won't be disturbed. Somewhere by a river or park? Do something like make a picnic one evening or for lunch on a weekend and just send her a text telling her where to meet you and the time-nothing else. When she arrives she will see what an effort you have made and so you can be together in person and not surrounded by everyone else at school. You can just be yourselves and, if you want, apologise for annoying her etc. She won't be making any moves because girls rarely do. She's probably frustrated because you haven't tried to kiss her. Good luck!
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Alright, since you're still in school, I assume you're young. Three months is NOT that long, trust me. Your relationship is only starting out. Perhaps the reason she has not made any moves is because she is a shy one. Or maybe she wants to take the relationship slow and not go intimate yet. If you want your first kiss from her, maybe this question I answered earlier will help you some: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
Don't expect her to always call you, because she may be busy, or she doesn't like calling people on the phone, period. Personally, I don't like calling people.
If you know your girlfriend is stressed out and that you might annoy her, just keep out of the way a little. You should comfort her and let her know you'll be there for her. Sometimes a little time away from each other can do good.
If you feel you are doing everything in the relationship, you should straight up tell her. Explain to her you feel like you are making all of the efforts. That you would like her to do more. Tell her you are worried she's not crazy about you as much as you're crazy about her because she hasn't made any effort to spend more time together and talk.
Keep in mind of these three things: 1) she may be shy. 2) she's stressed and busy. 3) she wants some space from you for a while. 4) she isn't sure if she wants to continue this relationship.
If it is #1 you need to consider her feelings and not be so sensitive about "making the moves". If it is #2 just keep out of the way for a while and show her support. If it is #3 leave your relationship alone for a while. Sometimes people need breaks from each other. If it is #4 you need to be really alert. She may be trying to give you the signs. If your relationship does not work out, you just need to move on. Dating is about bonding with someone, gaining experience, and finding out what you like and don't like. So if one thing doesn't work out you move on and find something else.
If you are so concerned about her making the moves, you need to just go for them yourself. Maybe she's waiting for YOU to kiss her and she feels like you're not making any of the moves. You can't really say you're making all of the moves if you say you have not kissed her yet, lol.
If you're thinking of proposing to this girl, you really love her and you wouldn't have any doubts about your relationship. Sounds like right now you aren't too sure. So keep that in mind.
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Start kissing her and maybe she will be a little more aggressive. If you haven't kissed her she may think you aren't all that interested in her doing anything. I know times have changed but most girls are still waiting for the guy to make the first move. Then, you two need to start communicating what you want from each other. Don't worry so much about that perfect spot. It will be memorable wherever it happens. If it turns out you have to propose someday under the school bleachers...so what. It will be all that more special. Good luck :)
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