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My parents fight a lot and my best friend keeps telling me that they're going to get divorced, and it really hurts my feelings. I don't think that they are going to get divorced because I know how they act around each other, but it just hurts my feelings when my friend says that. What should I do?
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If your friend asks you this again just tell your friend to not do that because it's hurting your feelings. Also, maybe ask someone else for comfort instead of this friend. Hope i helped!
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Explain to your friend that it hurts you a lot when she says stuff like this. The last thing you'd want is for them to get a divorce. It's really inconsiderate of her to say those things. Tell her you need comforting when you're upset over stuff like this and you don't need more upsetting news. And you're right, you know your parents better than she does, so who's she to judge their fighting? Everybody fights... I'm sure you're right and your parents aren't getting a divorce. For now though talk to your friend, she shouldn't say those things...
Hope I helped!
~Lana
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I kinda agree with mylinhthan. What kind of friend...now BEST friend does that?! What kinda friend says that to you? From my point I would have told her off, she has no right to say that...if she is over your house 24/7 then maybe yeah...but if she isn't she shouldn't be saying that. My parents almost got a divorce and I told my BFF who is like family and I have been BFF's with her for 7 year and she was almost as upset and pissed off then I was. Confront to her on what she should say and what she shouldn't, BFF's are suppose to support each other on problems not make the problem worst!!
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i sometimes have that. my parents used to argue a lot until i told my parents first how i felt then i would either call up my friend or confront her the next day and just say that this hurts me a lot and i want you to stop; if she stops then you know that she understands what you're thoughts and feelings are; but if she does not stop telling you these possible lies then just try to "forget" about her or at least try to not listen to what she is saying. i know it's hard to try and not listen to them when they say it to your face but if she continues then just try to delete her from your life only for a temporary length of time or until she gets the hint that shes wrong and that you wanted her to stop. this is what i did and so far it's working. hope i helped!
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anonymous -
you: my parents were fighting again last night.
her: oh, i'm telling you, they're going to get a divorce.
you: let me ask you something.
her: what?
you: do you know my parents or live in my house?
her: well...no...
you: then what right is it of yours to speak out about something you have no knowledge of?
her: ...
you: ok, then shut up.
her: *stares at you dumbfounded*
:) good luck.
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Are your freinds parent's divorced? If so then that may be how she see's it when your parents fight. Hers may have fought a lot before they divorced. If they aren't divorced, then maybe she watches to much TV :)
Anyway, don't let it bother you. A lot of parents have arguments without getting divorced.I'm sure she doesn't mean any harm by it.
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Simply ignore her when she says that and say "i kno my parents" in a kind but not 2 kind or rude way.
Hope I Helped!
Beautious_Skyscraper
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I hate to sound rude towards your friend, but it's really none of her business. All couples fight, even the ones who seem to be perfect, it's completely normal. Next time she says that, I'd tell her that I don't like it when she says stuff like that because she really doesn't know the true story or reason, and quite frankly, it's not her concern. If you need anything, just message me. Hope I've Helped ♥
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The next time she says that, say, "Please don't say that, I want my parents to stay together, and I don't really like to hear negativity from people about it, it really hurts me, so could you not say that around me please?" But your friend should be understanding and say that she will stop, but if she starts to say, "just because you don't want to hear it, it doesn't mean it won't happen" or starts to defend herself, shes not a good friend. I'm surprised your friend would have the nerve to say that, its very rude, so make sure that you stop her by asking her nicely to stop. You don't owe her any explaination why you think they won't get a divorce. It hurts when parents split up, so you don't need to add her negativity to your problems.
-TheTeenGirl
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Dont let any1 ever say that 2 u! tell her its not her bussiness and if she is mad about it just say well it really upsets me when you say that!
~XOpinkbellaXO2
aka Lisa
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What I would do is not exactly the best thing to do. But what I would do is just get really annoyed with it and just start going off with a bunch of "you dont live with me how would you know...blah blah blah." Just tell her, listen Im scared enough about them getting divorced and when you say that it makes me feel even worse; you should be a friend for me and say comforting things.
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