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okay, well me and this guy are planning to hang out. my friends tell me i should just go to his house and hang out because we might end up making out. dont get me wrong, i feel fine around him but i havent seen him in a long time. I still want to go to his house.. but either that or the mall because at the mall we can hold hands but idunno. What should I do? and if you say go to his house, can you tell me how to ask him to go to his house? (link)
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Just hang out wherever he wants to hang out. I will vote for the mall (or someplace similar) for the reason you stated, if he gives you a choice. Get to know him better since its been awhile. :)
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my girlfriend latly has been ignoring me, and she has a real short fuse with me. Whenever i try to do somthing that shows i love her, she takes everything the wrong way and is like "why are you doing that" or somthing. we thought it was PMS a while back but she's been like this a while now. then i cant ever really show any affection for her, because (well i think anyway) that she feels crowded with this girl, who might i add is completly obsessed with her...the girls name is Ally, and all is CONSTANTLY hugging on, or holding onto my girlfriend and i think thats part of the reason she is acting the way she is. i cant pull her away for a long enough time to give her our first kiss and we've been together for 4 months. she doesnt ever really want to cuddle durring any movies at my house, because if ally happens to be there then ally is on her, and she doesnt want to leave/be rude to ally...sometimes she will blow me off for no apperent reason at all or with some excuse. is there anything i can do to make my girlfriend pay a LIL more attention to me, or is it pretty much hopeless? (link)
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Don't give up completely yet. By the way, sorry it took me a while to get back to you. I'm having internet server problems.
First of all I think you have every right to expect time alone with your girlfriend. That means Miss Ally needs to find something else to do once in awhile. If the girlfriend can't accommodate your wishes then you will need to decide if you can live with things as they are.
Most girlfriends can't get enough attention from their boyfriends! That's why I find her behavior just a little strange. A lot strange as a matter of fact. I can understand a girl not being ready for sex...but kissing and cuddling and all that is just fun!
I do think you need to have a long, very serious talk with your girlfriend. You need to tell her what you expect from a girlfriend. You need to have the talk with her alone minus Ally. If she can't agree to your terms, THEN, I think it is wasting your time to put up with the nonsense. You would make any nice girl a great boyfriend, don't waste any more time on someone who doesn't want to be a good girlfriend.
I had a similar question a couple of days ago with diffrent names. IF the girl writing for her friend was yours ever considered the friend who wrote about your situation a couple of days ago? She seemed to care about you a lot. OK, I'll knock off the match making! Good luck and let me know how it works out for you. :)
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okay well me and my boyfriend were going out for 5 years and then he proposed, and well we were gonna get married but some stuff happened and we made each other really mad so we broke up. so then he got a girlfriend and they got married. so i wasnt that upset because i had a boyfriend. and we went to my xboyfriends house to see it, because we dont hate each other. and then i was mad when i saw the house because it was the one i'd been looking at for like ever. so my boyfriend and his wife were inside and i was outside getting some air and he came out and he was turning the sprinklers on, and i walked up and asked him what his problem was and he fliped out on me and was saying how my boyfriend doesnt love me and hes only with me because im hott. then i got upset and my boyfriend drove me back to where we lived at a camp. so i told everyone [family + friends that live there] and they got mad at him. and he showed up 2 days later and told everyone that he still loved me and all that. so then my boyfriend proposed to me and i didnt know what was wrong, i said no. i told him i loved him and everything but i still had feeling for my xboyfriend. so i went to walmart ((idk why)) and i saw him there. and i asked him if he still loved me why he got married. nd he said cuz he wanted me to feel the pain he put me through. so i told everyone at home that we were back together and now theyre all mad..did i really do anything that bad? (link)
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Well lets see. Messing with a married man is a pretty big no no don't you think? Doesn't matter much that hes such an imbecile that he marries another girl just to show you what pain is. Talk about your morons! Sorry but he seems a little stupid to me. Getting married is serious. It is not play time. You/he are messing with other peoples lives. Maybe when his WIFE finds out she will pull a Lorena Bobbitt act on him and spare the world of any further activity on his part.
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My oyfriend keeps pushing me in having sex, but i'm not sure if i should . i am not sure if im ready to have a really committed relationship. What should i do? please help! P.S. i'm 17 years old (link)
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If you have any doubts at all don't do it. If he loves you he will wait. If he doesn't then you don't want to have sex with him anyway. :)
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i just found out that my best friend was having an affair with my girlfriend! he admitted that he had sex with her, and that they had it more than twice! Now my girlfriend is pregnant and we don't know who's baby it is! please help! my parents are going to freak! (link)
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You can have DNA tests done after the baby's born. I don't know if they can be done beforehand or not. Anyway, not sure if i would still call her my girlfriend if I were you. Not to be mean or anything but seems you have 2 people that aren't really good friends of yours.
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My question: Is it rude to correct someone who uses a word incorrectly if they made the mistake while giving a compliment? I sent my boyfriend an e-mail. I concluded the e-mail with "Your Hot" signed by my name. My boyfriend responded to the e-mail. He concluded his response by italicizing "You're Hot" signed by his name. At first I thought he was emphasizing how he thought that I was the one who was truly hot in the relationship until I realized he was pointing out to me that I had misused the word "Your." (link)
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Seems a little picky to me. Some are just like that though. Maybe he will be a good English teacher one day. I don't think I'd get to bent out of shape about it unless it becomes a big habit. Maybe you could mention that you noticed it and ask him if hes a little anal about that sort of thing! Tell him you're a little leery of sending more email. Kinda joke about it and see if hes serious or just goofing around with you. :)
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well i jus broke up w/ my boifriend(michael) and hes a pot head and i got his friend(timothy) to tell him .and i like him(timothy) but i think he only wants me as a fuck buddie but now since i broke up w/ my pot head(michael) i think that his friend (timothy) likes me but i already like this other guy .but im going over to my friends house to see timothy and he wants to do something i jus dont no what yet! should i go any further than makeing out or not!
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Nope. Not until you know he likes you for yourself and isn't just looking for a fuck buddy.
Have a little self respect, any guy worth having will wait until you are ready for a serious relationship. A serious relationship needs to have plenty of thought put into it first. Know what I told my Daughter? Don't sleep with any guy you wouldn't marry if you happened to get pregnant. Makes you look at it a little differently doesn't it? :)
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Ok, so online when i'm talking to the guy i like, we get along really well and talk about aNyThInG, but in school we both like avoid eachother's eye contact and we only say "hi" once and a while in the halls. Any sudjestions? (link)
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One of you needs to make the attempt to talk in the real world! Maybe you could agree to meet and talk at school via IM. Once you do it the next time it will get easier. One of you just needs to break the ice. :)
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well now i really got myself into a mess i've been talking to a guy i use to like and im gettin feelings back for him but i have a bf and i like him so much id say love if i could but its not love yet..wut do i do..i really wanna stay with my bf and im sure i will but i like dont wanna hurt the other guy and ya..but me and my bf live 45 minutes apart so i dont see him much and the other guy lives in the same town as me ..HELP! (link)
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If you care for your boyfriend a lot then you should probably have very little contact with the guy you are also having feelings for. If you could talk to him and just stay friends, that would be okay. If you think there is danger of you getting with him though...better back away. Don't ask for trouble. :)
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Whenever I'm around boys I'm always all weird even if I don't like them. I really don't want them to think I'm crushing on them. Like one random day we were playing 7up and a boy picked me. When he told me that he picked me, I just smiled real big. Do boys think you like them when you do that because I don't like that guy!!!! (link)
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Smiling can mean you like someone. However, if you smile all the time they probably just think you are a happy smiley person. Don't worry about it. It takes more than a smile for someone to think you like them. Talking is a really good indication. :)
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i just broke up with my boyfriend who was my best friend!! i just did it today nd were avoiding eachother. except he asked y i broke up w/ him nd i told him nd we started to fight nd now hes even more mad at me. i hate this so much! although i wouldnt change me mind, i still dont like him! hes my best friend though. i HATE HATE HATE HATE HATE HATE HATE HATE HATE HATE HATE it so much! it hurts so bad! i kno i have to give it time, but. . .i dont kno, thats y im here
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You do need to give it time. You will be friends again once the hurt dies down and he cools off. I know it hurts but it will get better. Wish I had some magic words for you, there just aren't any. Hang in there. :)
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i like this boy, and me and him have a really fliry relationship. i slept with him in november while he was going out with my friend. we hang out sometimes and flirt a lot and i really think im in love. but he blows me off sometimes and hes such a jerk. he'll ditch me for a party, and he doesnt pick up his phone somtimes. lately hes been doing this more and more and i dont know what i should do because i like him so much! can somebody help me? (link)
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You need to forget about him. He got what he wanted in November. Now hes done with you. He didn't want a relationship he wanted sex. Now hes been there and done that.
Next time, make sure the guy likes you for yourself and waits until you know him well enough before you give yourself away. There are a lot of jerks in this world so you need to know a guy real well first. Don't rush things. :)
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16.f -- i met this guy at a party i had this past weekend, hes 21, and really nice .. he seems like hes into me and invited me to his party this saturday. the only catch is that hes 21, and hes 1 of my sister's, boyfriend's best friends. Either way, i'm probably going to go to the party, but i just want to know if yall think i should "persue this"..?? thanks yall (link)
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No. Sorry, age difference could get him in big trouble. I think pursuing this will only get you hurt before its over with.
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OK..i have this girlfriend of about 3 weeks, though ive liked her since about february. im going away to another country for 9 weeks next week and am not sure what to do. the relationship seems to have been going pretty well, we hook up, we talk often and get together a lot. an off topic note is her parents dont allow her to date, but im trying to get around it and if they know for sure(they already suspect), ill meet with them and try to negotiate. ANYWAY, how can i discuss the subject of cheating without her thinking i think she wont be loyal. 9 weeks is a long time, but im willing to make it work and sacrifice a lot of girls for her. im a sophomore, shes a freshman. any tips on what i should do? break up for the summer, which there is no guarantee she will still be single or still like me? stay together and call often? what?
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I think you can stay together and call, write, all kinds of things. Simply tell her that you don't plan on dating others while you are away and you hope she feels the same. That should get the cheating subject brought up for you in a nice way. Makes you look caring and it won't seem like you are worried about her cheating. I hope she tells you she plans to do the same. Then, while you are gone communicate whenever and however you can.
I think it will look good to her parents that you are keeping in touch. If she isn't allowed to date now then you probably don't have to worry about the cheating threat much.
Hopefully when you return her parents will let her date you with their blessing. Say hi to her mom when you call her and be extra polite to her on the phone. Have a great trip! :)
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my guy friend is having trouble with this and if im more informed, i can help him out a bit more. well he has this gf, kelly, who is a good friendof mine and i got them together. theres this girl who is kelly's friend, bernie, who is always clinging onto kelly (almost like she likes her...) and so this guy cant pull her aside to kiss her. theyve been together for 4 months and for some reason kelly isnt being very nice to the guy...she doesnt want to hang out for dumb reasons and she thinks theyre going to fast when they barely hold hands, she never calls him or does anything sweet for him. before we thought it was pms but its been going on for a reallllly long time. (poor guy.."i didnt think it was supposed to last this long") he really loves her and i dont know what to say to either of them. any tips? (link)
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I don't really know where Bernie fits in here but, she should take a hike now and then and leave Kelly and her guy alone.
Kelly needs to treat the guy like a boyfriend or give him up to someone who cares.
You need to advise him to dump her if she doesn't pay attention to him. Maybe she just wants a boyfriend to say she has one...If you understand what I mean.
Sounds like she just needs an attitude change. Tell her if she doesn't change it she may not have a boyfriend much longer. A guy can only put up with so much nonsense before they move on. :)
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ok.........my friend Casey, wanted to bring her boyfriend, me and my boyfriend to the movies on Friday...but im soooo dissappointed with myself but i truley feel my boyfriend will be like "GEEZE! WHY IS SHE HANGING AROUND THAT UGLY THING?" And im really really really nervous about it. Like if he'll talk about her behind her back to me or one of his friends. How do i prevent this?? (link)
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If your boyfriend is that shallow are you sure hes the one you want to spend your time with? I think there is only one way to find out, go out with your friend and her boyfriend. I hope he is polite and doesn't judge someone by their looks. Think how much more you will like him if that happens! :)
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I have a coworker that I am very interested in getting to know. I have heard from several people that he is interested in me too but the thing is we are both shy. We make eye contact and smile at eachother but that is as far as it goes. There has been several times where I have come close to telling him how I feel and asking him out but I am too shy when it comes to situations like this. We dont know eachother personally but we have been working together for about 2 years now and I recently began feeling this attraction toward him. I know I should just say something but I would get nervous. What should I do? (link)
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Start out just talking about work or something. Get to know what hes like. Then after you know him a little asking him out (if he doesn't ask you) will be easier. Is there a friend at work that could go up to him with you and sort of help you break the ice? After they get you talking they could just sort of disappear. :)
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hey I really like this guy sooooo MUCH! its like scary lol we talk on the fone A LOT and stuff, but he is not that handsom he is kinda fat and im really skinny, wen i saw him i was lke ewwww and so was every1 else. He is tall and I am short but he is really nice and sweat. I dont know if i shuld go with him or not! he is really nice! if it helps im 13/f PLEASE I WILL RATE HIGH!!! (link)
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If you enjoy being with him then why let what others might say rule your life? Go for it. :)
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Hey. My boyfriend is telling me online that he wants to run away because he thinks his parents hate him, but I know they don't. Anyway, there's not much I can do, because we live an hour apart. I'm trying to help, but nothing's working. What can I say to him? Please help, I don't want him to hurt himself.
x3 Erin (link)
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I think everyone gets that feeling about their parents at one time or another. You're right, it isn't true. I think if you get him to stick it out until tomorrow he will see its not as bad as he thinks it is right now. :)
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me and my boyfriend broke up probably two months ago. i dumped him because he changes and stuff and gets really quiet. i dumped him because he wasnt being the guy i fell in love with. im 14 and you might not think its true but i did fall in love with him and he said he loved me too but after we broke up we didnt talk or anything and it sucked. about a week ago we finally started talking again and i realized yet again what i loved about him and that i do still love him. i dont know if i should keep it to myself and try to get over it or if i should tell him (link)
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I wouldn't mess with things until neither of you are attached to others. A relationship with him will only work if you can change what made you break up last time. :)
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