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my guy friend is having trouble with this and if im more informed, i can help him out a bit more. well he has this gf, kelly, who is a good friendof mine and i got them together. theres this girl who is kelly's friend, bernie, who is always clinging onto kelly (almost like she likes her...) and so this guy cant pull her aside to kiss her. theyve been together for 4 months and for some reason kelly isnt being very nice to the guy...she doesnt want to hang out for dumb reasons and she thinks theyre going to fast when they barely hold hands, she never calls him or does anything sweet for him. before we thought it was pms but its been going on for a reallllly long time. (poor guy.."i didnt think it was supposed to last this long") he really loves her and i dont know what to say to either of them. any tips?
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well i think ur "GUY" friend should go tell kelly this. also i think he should bring kelly out on a weekend and if things dont work out he should break up with her. if kelly wants to get back together with him let her because that means she likes him and she is just going through a tough time.
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Perhaps Kelly is acting like that because she really doesn't like him. Maybe keeping her friend Bernie around keeps things that Kelly doesn't want to happen, from happening.
Ask Kelly if she really likes the guy, or if she's just stringing him along. If she really doesn't like him, then the decent thing would be for her to break up with him. It's rude of her to continue to play with this guys head if she doesn't really like him. He'll just continue to think he's in love, and she'll eventually have to break his heart.
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I don't really know where Bernie fits in here but, she should take a hike now and then and leave Kelly and her guy alone.
Kelly needs to treat the guy like a boyfriend or give him up to someone who cares.
You need to advise him to dump her if she doesn't pay attention to him. Maybe she just wants a boyfriend to say she has one...If you understand what I mean.
Sounds like she just needs an attitude change. Tell her if she doesn't change it she may not have a boyfriend much longer. A guy can only put up with so much nonsense before they move on. :)
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you might mention this to kelly, maybe she doesn't even notice, or you could find out why and then tell your guy friend. i feel sorry for the poor guy....
best of luck!
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It's their business, let them handle it.
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All you really should do is be there for him unconditionally and let him know that you care. That you understand , and it would be best if you were to share your opinion on such things. Be there for him whenever he needs you, and if he wants some space, you'll have to be understanding enough to give it to him. I know that there's this strong urge for you to go up to Kelly and screech," Do you know how good this guy is and you're treating him like dirt because you'll never have another guy like him." But you have to leave that alone and let the story play out on it's own so that they, and most importantly he, can see that they aren't meant to be. It's just, although I'm sorry to say, another hard lesson that he has to learn . You can be there for him, but it's truly their relationship. He'll see later when the pain has gone down some. Hope I was some help and have a nice day.
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well if kelly is acting like that mabe the guy should dump her.By the way she is acting she shouldnt even be going out with him
*Hope the edvice helps*
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