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im a normal, god loving, teen, im not perfect but ive been though alot so i know stuff.
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OK, this may seem weird, but it's something that really scares me. Im really scared of being kidnapped. Now that it is summer, i really need to keep my window open, but what if someone cut the screen? If my parents are already in bed, I go around the house, checking to make sure every door is locked. I wanna stop being afraid. Am i being way too paranoid? HELP ME !!! I RATE HIGH (link)
its ok to be scared of being kidnapped, the trick is not to let it rule your life! while it is a real therate, generally most kidnappings happen while walking alone, so the therate of the cutting of screens is almost nonessitiant. just watch out for yourself, if you notice something strange tell someone.its ok to be afriad, and if your ever afriad in the night just do what i do, i call on god and just ask him to protect me and my family and to make the fear go away!

best of luck!


My girlfriend has lied to me several times... nothing EXTREMELEY serious, but about a lot of little things. I have threatened her with a break up, and she gets very emotional when i mention a break up. Recently she has lied to me again and i broke up with her... She is begging to get back with me and i want to be with her..... what should i do? (link)
you told her what would happen if she lied and she did so now she must suffer. you don't need to be with someone that lies to you!!!

best of luck!!


i cry a lot. nd i guess my x didnt kno that. but i broke up w/ him nd he used to b my BEST friend! but i broke up w/ him nd he was depressed ALL day long obviously. i couldnt bear it because I was the 1 that broke his heart nd hes my best friend! so later after school i called him so we could talk more (he told me to call him) nd i started crying. he was like "u cant brake up w/ me nd then start crying" im like "i kno i kno but. . ." nd now i feel like a complete idiot nd i dont want him to tell his friends. then i said "i kno im such a loser for crying" nd he said "no yur not a loser" so idk. i still feel like an idiot. help! (link)
ok first crying is a natural feeling, some ppl feel the need to cry more that others, its nothing you can help, you just have to let the tears flow. as for your loss of your best friend cause he is now your x, try hanging out with other friends or going out with them. you also could try talking to your x and see if you two can still be friends.

best of luck!


I like this girl so much but she is practically dedicated to this guy but he doesn't love her the way I do but I can't tell her that I love her because we are likebest friends and I really wanna date this chick but she is to tight on this other guy what do I do? (link)
if this guy really doesn't care about her, you might try to get her to see that. then all you can do is be there for her total, and maybe she will see that.

best of luck!


i just broke up with my boyfriend who was my best friend!! i just did it today nd were avoiding eachother. except he asked y i broke up w/ him nd i told him nd we started to fight nd now hes even more mad at me. i hate this so much! although i wouldnt change me mind, i still dont like him! hes my best friend though. i HATE HATE HATE HATE HATE HATE HATE HATE HATE HATE HATE it so much! it hurts so bad! i kno i have to give it time, but. . .i dont kno, thats y im here

((sorry for the lenght)) (link)
just try and get your mind off it. for now only time can heal, try taking up a really big project that might take a few days but trust me work gets your mind off your pain.

best of luck!


16.f -- i met this guy at a party i had this past weekend, hes 21, and really nice .. he seems like hes into me and invited me to his party this saturday. the only catch is that hes 21, and hes 1 of my sister's, boyfriend's best friends. Either way, i'm probably going to go to the party, but i just want to know if yall think i should "persue this"..?? thanks yall (link)
i say go but unfortuanly this can't go any where till your 18, which is a real bummer but use that time to get to know him. till your 18 no dates!!

best of luck!


I have a coworker that I am very interested in getting to know. I have heard from several people that he is interested in me too but the thing is we are both shy. We make eye contact and smile at eachother but that is as far as it goes. There has been several times where I have come close to telling him how I feel and asking him out but I am too shy when it comes to situations like this. We dont know eachother personally but we have been working together for about 2 years now and I recently began feeling this attraction toward him. I know I should just say something but I would get nervous. What should I do? (link)
just be calm and cool. if you like this guy the only thing that is gonna be really hard is the first sentence after that im just sure you both will come out of your shell. try asking him to dinner or a movie, something simple. then you can get to know each other.

best of luck!


hey I really like this guy sooooo MUCH! its like scary lol we talk on the fone A LOT and stuff, but he is not that handsom he is kinda fat and im really skinny, wen i saw him i was lke ewwww and so was every1 else. He is tall and I am short but he is really nice and sweat. I dont know if i shuld go with him or not! he is really nice! if it helps im 13/f PLEASE I WILL RATE HIGH!!! (link)
if you like this guy so much, who cares about his apperence as long as he is clean. don't care what other ppl think unless they are worried that you might get hurt.

best of luck!


OK..i have this girlfriend of about 3 weeks, though ive liked her since about february. im going away to another country for 9 weeks next week and am not sure what to do. the relationship seems to have been going pretty well, we hook up, we talk often and get together a lot. an off topic note is her parents dont allow her to date, but im trying to get around it and if they know for sure(they already suspect), ill meet with them and try to negotiate. ANYWAY, how can i discuss the subject of cheating without her thinking i think she wont be loyal. 9 weeks is a long time, but im willing to make it work and sacrifice a lot of girls for her. im a sophomore, shes a freshman. any tips on what i should do? break up for the summer, which there is no guarantee she will still be single or still like me? stay together and call often? what?
thanks (link)
i think you need to talk to her about this, see what she wants. if you two decided to stay together call often, send romantic letters, or the occational gift from where ever you are going to be. or you might if you both have camera's video type like 10 minute messages. but like i said she needs some imput on this too, so talk to her about it.

best of luck!


my guy friend is having trouble with this and if im more informed, i can help him out a bit more. well he has this gf, kelly, who is a good friendof mine and i got them together. theres this girl who is kelly's friend, bernie, who is always clinging onto kelly (almost like she likes her...) and so this guy cant pull her aside to kiss her. theyve been together for 4 months and for some reason kelly isnt being very nice to the guy...she doesnt want to hang out for dumb reasons and she thinks theyre going to fast when they barely hold hands, she never calls him or does anything sweet for him. before we thought it was pms but its been going on for a reallllly long time. (poor guy.."i didnt think it was supposed to last this long") he really loves her and i dont know what to say to either of them. any tips? (link)
you might mention this to kelly, maybe she doesn't even notice, or you could find out why and then tell your guy friend. i feel sorry for the poor guy....

best of luck!


ok my boyfriend is really shy. Like we go to the school breakfast (well i meet him there with my friend) but he doesnt sit with me. I have to go over to his table and sit with him. Also, he doesn't call me and when i call him, we don't have even a 6 minute conversation. He's really shy but i kno he likes me a lot and im not so sure we're ever going to kiss..:( how could i make it so he isnt so shy? Thanks bub byezz (link)
unfortunatly you can't do much except try asking him to try to stop being so shy. if he says he will try and then doesn't then don't call him or sit by him, if he likes you like you think he does he will come to you.

best of luck!


i was soo excited that i would be graduating i worked so hard for it. but i was rele nervous i felt as though i would puke i cried because i felt so sad that half of the faces i saw in school today i would never see again. i cried during school and for graduation i knew that i would be the frist out of the entire 8th grade to go. i didnt want to go and i didnt . i let down my family because my fears over took me and now im full of regret and i keep crying. its like i stop crying but i still can feel something empty in me and i just start up again. i missed my own graduation and i feel so stupid and so fucking powerless. i cant beleive i let my stage freight take away something i would have loved to be a part of.


has anyone ever been through this. or whats should i do? i need a little bit of support (link)
unfortunatly we can't go back in time and redo things, so right now all i can say is just reliaze that you weren't ready for it and explain that to your family, they will understand.

best of luck!


ok.........my friend Casey, wanted to bring her boyfriend, me and my boyfriend to the movies on Friday...but im soooo dissappointed with myself but i truley feel my boyfriend will be like "GEEZE! WHY IS SHE HANGING AROUND THAT UGLY THING?" And im really really really nervous about it. Like if he'll talk about her behind her back to me or one of his friends. How do i prevent this?? (link)
tell him before hand and tell him you don't wanna hear it cause you think its rude. if he really cares about you he'll shut up.

best of luck!


I am 13 and a girl who has never had a boyfriend and I think think this is my chance.There is this boy who has gone to mostly every school I have gone to(were in the same grade).But I think he likes me.Its like he has been drooping clues like he stares at me all the time with this serious look on his face,he saved me one time(if thats what you wanna call it)because I was walking and I wasn`t waching where I was going so I was about to bump into the wall then he said somthing to me then that made me look up,and his friend heeps on looking at me.So how do I figure out if he likes me without talking to him and can you give me information on how to tell if a boy likes you.
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well it seems to me that he does like you but if you really wanna be sure you could try asking his friends or having a mutual friend ask why he is acting strange around you. just from what you've said its a pretty safe bet he likes you.

best of luck!


look i kissed my boi_friend lastnight and me and him have been friends for a while and i felt like i kissed my brother. i dont no what i should do i asked one of my friends and she said that i should break up w/ him what should i do! (link)
if you really are that uncomfortable about kissing him then don't just explain that he is too like a brother to be a boy friend. if im not mistaken he may feel the same way. just ask if you can go back to being friends.

best of luck!


okay well my parents own a campsite at a local campground.. i used to not like to go down there bc i had no friend.. well i found a friend and his trailor is for sale.. we need eachother bc the only reason why they are selling it is bc he doenst like to come down bc he doesn't have any friends down there either.. i have been trying to go down to the campground for a while now but we always have soemthign to do.. this weekend for some odd reason something is telling me that i have to go to the campground bc he is goign to be there.. i talked to my mom and dad and they said we can't go bc we have 2 parties to go to.. and i need to go.. they just don't get it how desprite i am.. i mean not only is he my friend down there but i really like him!! like seriously i think im in love! but enought about that... my question is.. how can i go to the campground this friday into saturday.. bc we don't have much to do friday and satuday we can come home for my game.. please help! sorry it's so long... (link)
i think you should talk to your parents and explain how important it is to you and explain it as you have to me. despite common beliefe if you present a good agument and explain it calmly and don't get emoitional you can change their minds.

best of luck


just this year i decided to loose my virginity to my boyfriend of 10 months. the first two times we had unprotected sex. it freaked me out because i thought just maybe i could be pregnant. we have been intimate a couple of times more. truthfully, i wished i waited like i intended in the first place. i love my boyfiriend and i am 100% sure that i will marry him. but i am soooooo scared of the responsibilities that comes along with sex. i really wanna wait til we get marreid, or at least until we are finanially responsible for any "accidents". He loves me , and he said he will never be upset if i decided to wait. but lately he haven't been coming over. i think its because he knows i dont want to have sex. he is very persuasive and that scares me because 80% of the time i give in to him. i love him and he loves me, but i truly believe he will be very unhappy if we discontinued being sexually active. (link)
if he truely loves you he will wait and he won't try to force you into it. i think you need to sit him down and explain this to him. don't be persuased!!! if you wanna wait then you wait!!! only do it if it is right for both of you!!! and make sure you both are ready for the responsiblities if there is an accident and you have a child.

best of luck!


There`s this boy I know.He says stuff to me like"since you`ve been bad I am going to fuck you hard tonight so where going to be making babeies"or"I am going to smak that big ass of yours".And I don`t realy like it when hedose that.One time I was alone with him and he started rubbing my body.I`ve told him to stop but he dosent listen.And if I tell an adult he might try to rape me.I need help so can you plese help me. (link)
you NEED TO TELL AN ADULT!!!!!!!!!!there is no reason he should treat you like that after you have asked him not to. you really just need to stop him in his tracks when he starts touching you, say if you don't stop im not afriad to make you and the instant that he does touch you again in a way you don't like, kick him right in the balls!!!!!you still will need to tell an adult if you don't tell and let him get a way with it then you are allowing him to think its ok and it isn't ok! just in case also ask the adult you talk to if you could possible be moved far away from this person and also ask for your name not to be used. also inform you parents so that they can also take nessary procautions so that no one will be hurt!

best of luck!


ok well.. my boyfriend [of about 1 and a half years] birthday is comin up in july. and i hve NO clue what to do for him.. like where to go/what to get him.. that sorta thing.. last year for my birthday we met at a pizza place then went to the movies and he gave me a really pretty necklace w. matching earrings.. i want it to be special u know.. even tho we hve been together for 1 and a half years we werent "together" for his birthday last year.. someone please help me! and i want all the details.. please.. thanks in advance! (link)
well you might try finding out what he loves to do and get him something that has to do with that.

best of luck!


Okay well theres this thing called the love quiz that's on my crush's profile and i took the quiz and it asks you who is ya crush and stuff like that and so i put his name. Then after the quiz, it gives you your score. Also it says that it will send the answers and score to the person's email who has it on their profile but i didnt know that and i dont want him to find out,So what should i do? LIke block him and never ever talk to him or what?!? Please help! I'll rate!! (link)
well personally if you really like this guy its good to get your feelings out there, who knows he may like you back? or you could act like you never sent it and don't know what he is talking about.... or as you said block him and never talk to him again.... or leave the country and change your name. but the main thing if you decided to stay with it is don't bring it up when you talk to him, let him bring it up and let him do all the talking.

best of luck!




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