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i want to wait till im married
just this year i decided to loose my virginity to my boyfriend of 10 months. the first two times we had unprotected sex. it freaked me out because i thought just maybe i could be pregnant. we have been intimate a couple of times more. truthfully, i wished i waited like i intended in the first place. i love my boyfiriend and i am 100% sure that i will marry him. but i am soooooo scared of the responsibilities that comes along with sex. i really wanna wait til we get marreid, or at least until we are finanially responsible for any "accidents". He loves me , and he said he will never be upset if i decided to wait. but lately he haven't been coming over. i think its because he knows i dont want to have sex. he is very persuasive and that scares me because 80% of the time i give in to him. i love him and he loves me, but i truly believe he will be very unhappy if we discontinued being sexually active.
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well you have to choose are you ready to be a parent at this point in your life if he wants to have sex use a condom get on birth control pills or patchs there are tons of way to stay protected and if he doesnt like or understand that then its his problem
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Well he'll be even more unhappy if you get pregnant. And so will you. And you will be the one with most of the burden. The burden of telling your parents...dissapointing them! Carrying the baby, gaining weight. Your hormones will be up and down and so will your moods. Giving birth, no picnic. Then taking care of the baby. You can kiss life as you know it goodbye.
No you just think babies are a lot of work...you have NO IDEA. And no one can explain it to you. You have to find out for yourself. But it is soooooooo much better to find out when you are ready. Ready to give up sleeping, ready to give up having money, ready to give up peach and quiet, ready to give up freedom. Ready to be totally 100% responsible for another small, vulernable human being. OMG,you could do something wrong and really screw it up. That is what grown women feel when they have babies. Even married ones. Imagine what a young girl who isn't even ready to have a baby will feel when she is alone with it. And of course you'll be along, because everyone else will be at work, or at play. Living their lives, while you have to sacrife yours for the baby. Because the baby, once it is here, has to come first. Unless you want to raise screwed up kids.
Listen, it sounds like your guy loves you very much. He said he would respect your wishes. Be pragmatic about it. Tell him since you are the one who will bear most of the burden of having a child when both of you are not ready, then you have decided to wait until you are married.
For goodness sakes, you seem so responsible, can't you go see a doctor and geton some birth control? With sexual activity comes great responsibility. Being on birth control puts the control in your hands. Why you guys can finsish school, maybe go on to collge, get a good eduction, get grate jobs, get married, travel, buy all kinds of great stuff. AND PLAN FOR YOUR BABIES. Having them when you are ready to stay home. Having them when you actually have a home forthem to grow up in. And having them when you can affort it. Then you and the kids and your loving husband will have a great life. If you explain it to him this way, and if heloves you, how can he dissagree. 5,6, or 10 years from now, you will both be glad that you did. I guarantee it!
I hope this helps your resolve. Please don't take anymore chances.
Michele
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Hey. Why dont you talk to him and ask him if the reason he hasnt been comin over is b/c you told him that you wanted to wait till you got married. If your absolutly positive that you are going to marry him, let him know how nice it is goin to fel when both of you are married and become intimate for the first time. But since it has already happend tell him that you would like to wait b/c you want to be prepared for any accidents. That you know that he will be there for you but you want to know that both of you are financially stable. Hope i have helped.
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if he truely loves you he will wait and he won't try to force you into it. i think you need to sit him down and explain this to him. don't be persuased!!! if you wanna wait then you wait!!! only do it if it is right for both of you!!! and make sure you both are ready for the responsiblities if there is an accident and you have a child.
best of luck!
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honestly, if you want to wait until you get married you should wait. if your boyfriend loves you as much as you says he does he will respect your chioce and wait until you're ready. if your only concern is getting preganant you might just want to use a condom, condoms are only 97% effective. they will protect mostly against pregnancy and STD's, unless the condom breaks. there are other forms of birth control some are sold over the counter, some you will have to see your doctor for. depending on your age your doctor might have to inform your parents. if its an emotional thing then i say wait. if he gets mad, dont give in. stand your ground. like i said, if he loves you he will wait until you're ready. i know you're afraid of making him unhappy, but the sacrifice you'll make is much larger than his sacrifice. if he doesnt respect your choice, gets mad, etc. then hes not worth it. hope i helped.
~rainbow
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Okay. What was your question again? I failed to see you write one.
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tell him that if he really loves you he wont try to change your mind. stand up to him!! <3
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