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To give a bit of background information, my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and are madly in love with eachother. I gave him my heart.. as well as my virginity and he did the same. But the past few weeks, I've been doubting our relationship. I'll be having dreams of being with ex boyfriends or just other guys, particularly this one guy named Luis. He's a very good friend of mine and a total flirt around me. For a second I thought I had feelings for him and I actually concidered breaking off my over one year relationship with the love of my life for this guy, Luis.I realized it was stupid to end something that is SO good for something that is only going to last a few months IF that much. I called my boyfriend and I was barely crying and, I should've known he would be able to tell I was because as soon as I said hi he said "What's wrong why were you crying?" (He knows the sound of my voice when I'm happy or sad and everything in between like the back of his hand). I told him what happened and I kept saying "Baby, I'm so sorry I don't want to lose you." He told me everything would be okay, but now when I talk to him he seems so distant? If that would be a word to describe it. He's in Maine right now, and I'm back home in New Jersey so I can just like go over and see him right now. I don't know what to do, he just isn't acting the same now, I didn't do ANYTHING with Luis, I'd never do that to my boyfriend. What do I do? I don't want to hurt my boyfriend anymore, I feel so guilty for even having those thoughts. Can anyone please help?
I'm 17 he's 18. (link)
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Dreams are not reality. Next time don't say anything to him about them. Next time don't get so upset...its only a dream :)
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hey , well this guy has told alot of people he liked me but was scared & he was afraid that he got on my nerves too much that thats why he hasnt already asked me 2 be his girl friend what should i do ? plz help if u can thx 4 tryin ! (link)
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If you like him too...put him out of his misery and ask him out! :)
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I've been with my girlfriend for over 18 months. I'm 19 and female and i just transfered schools. She's 18 and is just going in to college. We're only going to be about an hour apart, but for some reason she thinks she's going to get her heart broken. I keep telling her that we will have to work together to make it work, but for some reason she doesn't think so. Is it possible that she wants out? Can our relationship survive while we're in college? (link)
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An hour apart really isn't that bad. I think you need to ask her what shes worried about exactly.
You have to work on any relationship every single day to make it work so you're right about that. She has to want to work on it with you though. I don't see any reason for it to fail if you both want it to succeed. :)
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okay i moved to a different city about a year ago. there is this guy that is like one of my best friends and everyone knows that he likes me and i like him too((but not alot)). ive gone to dances with him, but im afraid that if he asks me out things will get all weird, and i dont know if i would be able to kiss him without feeling odd.
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You'll never know for sure until you try. But, if it makes you feel weird already just tell him you think of him as more of a brother. :)
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I was dating this guy for a couple of months, and everything was perfect. He was the first guy I could actually say I loved and cared about, and he loved me too. I was a freshman and he was a senior when we started dating. What's the problem you're wondering ... well he turned 18 and graduated at the end of May. His father is the real problem though. His father got a new job in another state, and moved a couple days after his 18th birthday and graduation.[he got to stay in his father's old house] This guy I was dating also stopped calling me [we talked every night!] the day his dad moved. His dad told him several times when we dating that he should be careful and it eventually got to where he told him to stop dating me because he thought we were having sex and doing things. We were never even close to having sex! Well its been almost a 1 1/2 months since we've talked. He never called to tell me he was breaking up with me, but I did find out that he told someone that his dad made him break up with me. I tryed contacting him several times for several weeks, but he never answered his phone or called me back. I need advice on what to do. Should I try to forget him and move on or what? It's driving me crazy not knowing anything. What do I do?
Thanks 15-Female (link)
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It seems he has so you may as well too. You have tried talking to him and he is obviously avoiding your calls. I think it is over for him. Try to move on. :)
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ok i have this boyfriend and we went out for 8 monthes and saw eachother like almost everyday! then we broke up for 5 monthes but now were going out again and we've been together for 4 monthes but we NEVER see eachother like we've only seen eacher twice! and we talk all the time on the phone but never get to be together cuz i ask him all the time and hes always buys or he just blows me off to hang out w/ his friends and i dont no what to do and he always tells me he loves me but i feel like he doesnt can someone please help me? and i dont think hes cheating on me or ne thing! please help thanks! (link)
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He may not be cheating on you but, you are not high on the priority list either. Seems like you are there when its convenient for him. If you want a real relationship, I think you may need to look elsewhere. :)
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13f. i went out with a friend of mine, tom for 4th of july. just us. he was super-polite, introduced himself to my parents, they loved him. we went walking around town together, and we were laughing and talking the whole time. but it kinda started to feel like a date, and i dont like him that way. he puts his arm around me, and asks if he can kiss me. i say no. it was only akward for a minute or so, then we pretty much forgot about it. then we were sitting alone together watching fireworks and he puts his arm around me. we argue for a minute. (cuz i dont mind, i just dont want to lead him on cuz there's no way i'm making out with this guy). so he promises he wont try to kiss me, and we end up holding hands and putting our arms around each other, and my heads on his shoulder, but thats it. he called me the next day and left a message on my cellphone saying he wanted to say hi and to call him back. i dont really feel like talking to him and i dont know if we would have anything to talk about and it could be kinda akward, so, do i have to call him back? if i dont will he think i'm weird about the other night and am avoiding him? (link)
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He could I suppose. I think you can call him since you are friends. You may just have to keep reminding him that you think of him like a brother and not a boyfriend. :)
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Well my boyfriend that I am in very much love with has left for a year and half. Though he's coming home I've been really sad and crying ever nite and not getting alot of sleep, because I miss him so much. Does anyone have any advice on how to pass the time or ease the pain of him not being here right now? I rate good! (link)
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Keep busy. Go out with your girlfriends or family. Write to him, email him. Keep a journal of what is going on with people you know to give him when he returns. Just keep busy! :)
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I want to get this girls attention, but i dont want it to seem like i am really trying to flirt, whats the best way for her to notice me and see me for a good thing, i really like this girl and i want to know how i should get her attention. So how do i get her attention in a good way?
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Smile at her, talk to her, be nice....be yourself. Treat her like you think she's special.
The biggest thing I think is the talking. Most of the questions we get from girls here is that they never know quite how the guy feels. Hope this helps you some. Good Luck! :)
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Ok so, my crush asked me out last night so of course I said yes. I'm new to the whole dating experience, im only 14. I like him a lot, but whenever the thought of going to the movies or something comes up, I automatically make up an excuse to not go. I don't know why. I'm very co-dependant and I would be too scared to go anywhere unless it was a double date or something. He says hes okay with that but I dont know whats wrong with me. I think my main fear is making out. Yea yea laugh, but I guess im just scared to do it. I dont know whats wrong with me and why im so scared to go anywhere with him. I'll rate you high. Thx a bunch (link)
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Maybe you're afraid you won't find enough to talk about or something...wouldn't be a problem.
You just need to say yes and go one time. Going out on an actual first date can be real intimidating, you just have to get past that initial fear of it and you will do fine from there. Try it :)
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I'm 14, soon to be 15. He just turned 19. He's so sweet and calls me baby/beautiful/sweetheart. All that stuff. I like him alot, and he likes me too. We've hooked up }not sex{ and I told my close cousins. They all make fun of me now saying that he's 19 and stuff like that. It really pisses me off because they don't know him. He's amazing and he likes me too. We live 2 hours apart, but I see him when I go up to my cottage. Which is alot. I really like him and I want it too work and so does he. But I want my cousins off my case. Should I tell them that I broke up with him??
IF you have any other advice about my situation I would greatly appreciate anything you have to offer.
Thank you soo much.
Love,
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You do realize that dating him could get him thrown in jail? Just checking. He is over 18 and you are under. If the parents find out it could get real Messy. I know you don't want to hear it but my advice has to be forget him until you're 18. Otherwise you're talking about 3 yrs of sneaking around.
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My friend and I are really close. He's my best friend, and I'm really open with him. Sometimes we have really deep conversations, where I tell him anything I feel and he does the same too. We might even have conversations on the phone until 2 in the morning. My problems is that he's really confusing me. He won't make up is mind as to whether he likes me or not. Sometimes he'll hold me or give me those cute hugs from behind, and I really love when he does. We say "I love you" to each other as if it's a greeting. I think he's just leading me on because I asked him out before and he said that he liked me but he didn't want a girlfriend. Now, I don't know if I should ask him out again or what. I like him so much, and I think he likes me too. Should we go out because we're really close or will that mess up our friendship alot? (link)
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You know it really shouldn't. You want your bf/gf to be your best friend. Sounds like you are already there. So long as you don't change once you start dating it shouldn't be a problem. I think the mistake most make is the suddenly stop talking and sharing their feelings. Kind of like you are doing already. Talk to him about this. Let him know how you feel. Talk it out and if he says he doesn't want a girlfriend right now ask him why. You are friends. Friends talk. If you start dating remember this, and if it gets weird, say something. :)
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I really like the kid im going out with. He asked me out a little over a week ago but I had said no because Im so busy over the summer. Now, I regret saying yes this time because I have way too much going on. Im gonna be a freshman next year and Im on the high school cheerleading squad. It takes up a lot of my time and im also playing softball all summer. I go to the cape almost every weekend, and I need some time to myself, plus I have a lot of work to do before I go back to school. I dont know what to do because I wont ever see him and I feel so tied down because im always worried about finding time to be with him. Should I dump him? If so, how should I do it in a way to let him know that we're still going to be great friends like we have been? I'll rate high (link)
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If you want to dump him that's fine just tell him like you told us and he should understand.
If you want to stay with him though, couldn't he come to your games? Maybe take you home after? Pick you up from practice? Granted it isn't a lot of time together but it is something. :)
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i'm dating a guy who treats me like a princess, but when we're in the bedroom, he treats me like a prostitute. he spanks me(lightly), pulls my hair, and says things like "your're so, so dirty. someone needs a shower, she's so nasty." what's up with him. (link)
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If you don't like the things he is doing you need to tell him so. Otherwise he's thinking you're okay with it. Talk to him about it. :)
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my gf is always demanding me to do things if i don't she tells people about the things we do
and my family belives her evevn if its not true
and it makes me out to be the bad person
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Why is this girl still your friend? You don't blackmail your friends for crying out loud! I think I'd be looking for someone else to hang out with. :)
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is it weird for an 8th grader to be friends with a 6th grader? and not just friends like hey, friends like hanging out after school and going to birthday parties. thanks. (link)
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I don't think its to weird. Be friends with whoever makes you happy. :)
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i really like him and i cant stop thinkin about him. i dream about him everynight and sometimes i call him under private number just so i can hear his voice. his best friend and me went out for 2 months, and i thought i loved him but then he cheated on me. josh wouldnt tell me that he cheated, but his best friend (anton) told me. and to tell me a secret that his best friend told him NOT to tell me, but to tell me anyways, i thought that was sweet. i dont know what to do. i dont even know if he likes me or not. if you dont think i should go out wtih him, how do i get over him? and if i might should take a chance, what should i do to get him? (link)
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You said you really hadn't talked to him much, so start there. I think you should take the chance to date him if you'd like to. Take the risk. If you talk to him you will be able to tell if he likes you or not.
Some things that might help you know...
Is he nice to you? Does he smile at you when you see him? Will he talk to you or brush you off?
You just need to think of a reason to call him. Maybe call and say I'd really like to see "name of movie", would you consider going with me? Ask him out!
Most of all just be yourself. Yes, if you go out with him you might get hurt. It can happen with anyone. But then again, he might be great! Go talk to him and make him notice you. Let me know how it goes. Good luck :)
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sorry this is so long but i am really confused and i would love for any advise from anyone!
ok here is goes. me adn my ex boyfriend (josh) we out all last summer and he cheated on me so we broke up and havent talked since. well the other day i was on the phone with his best friend (anton) and josh was over there so me adn josh talked and we are cool now. well i like anton but anton is a huge player. he has cheated on almost every girl he has went out with. he is also not a virgin .. me i havent even tounge kissed a guy before. well anton told me that he is actually ready to get into a serious relationship with a girl. i really wanna be that girl, but im so scared for anyone to know that i likw him. im scared he is gonna cheat on me or hurt me just like josh. me adn anton dont talk alot adn we dont know each other really good. i really like him and i dont know what to do. i even dream about him at night. can anyone please give me some advise on what to do?? thanks if you do!! (link)
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First of all you need to talk to him more and get to know him better. Whenever you decide to start a relationship with anyone you take a risk of getting hurt. It just kind of goes with the territory. You have to trust people until they give you good reason not to. If you aren't ready for sex you say so right up front. Just because he isn't a virgin doesn't mean (hopefully) that he is sleeping with everyone he meets! So, if you want to have a relationship with this guy, you need to get to know him better, that will help with the trust issue. If after getting to know him better you still don't trust him, go with your instinct. But, you do have to take a chance on getting hurt now and then. :)
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I went to a friend's camp this last weekend. She told me that there was this guys a few years olded then us but he was annoying, stupid, and ugly.Then we went out onto the lake and he came along. He had this really big tube and we were all just chillin on it and pushing each other off. then one time it was just me and him and i justed to like him but kept myself from liking him because of what my friend said. i know it doens't matter because i probably won't see him again but should i of let what my friend say keep me from liking this guy?? please help! (link)
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You should keep what your friends say in mind, but in the end you need to make your own decisions about people. Everyone's idea of what is annoying, stupid, or good looking are different. Even if he were all those things it doesn't necessarily make him a bad person. :)
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Im going to be a senior this year. i graduate in 2006.
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Ok....Just proceed with caution whatever you decide. I don't think its a great idea mainly because the potential for you to get hurt in the end is really high. I also don't think teachers should get involved with students...but, you are 18. Good luck with it all :)
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