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confusing 4th of july
13f. i went out with a friend of mine, tom for 4th of july. just us. he was super-polite, introduced himself to my parents, they loved him. we went walking around town together, and we were laughing and talking the whole time. but it kinda started to feel like a date, and i dont like him that way. he puts his arm around me, and asks if he can kiss me. i say no. it was only akward for a minute or so, then we pretty much forgot about it. then we were sitting alone together watching fireworks and he puts his arm around me. we argue for a minute. (cuz i dont mind, i just dont want to lead him on cuz there's no way i'm making out with this guy). so he promises he wont try to kiss me, and we end up holding hands and putting our arms around each other, and my heads on his shoulder, but thats it. he called me the next day and left a message on my cellphone saying he wanted to say hi and to call him back. i dont really feel like talking to him and i dont know if we would have anything to talk about and it could be kinda akward, so, do i have to call him back? if i dont will he think i'm weird about the other night and am avoiding him?
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You dont have to call him back..and if you want to avoid him do it! and remember he can NEVER blame you for leading him on because you TOLD him straight out that you didnt want him so all you have to do is do whatever you want and dont worry about him :)
=) samantha
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i think you should call him back and see what he has to say. tell him you just want to be friends with him but mabye one day things will change. tell him there is always someone for him out there but you are not the person. but yes DEFINATLEY call him
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He could I suppose. I think you can call him since you are friends. You may just have to keep reminding him that you think of him like a brother and not a boyfriend. :)
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Well you should be true to your feelings. If you don't like him then you were right to reject him and say no. You should never be forsed to do anything you don't want to do. I hope I helped!!!
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Hmm well if you dont like the guy more than a freind ..tell him that you dont wanan be anything more than a freind to him ..and that hopefully he can just deal with being friends ..
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this past 4th of july weekend i was @ the beach w/ my friend olivia and her brother and philip. philip was like all over olivia doing "stuff" i dont want to say. not sex tho. -me and olivia's brother are always hitting each other and laughin and jokin around..and hes like really cute and i mean we've always been friends-then he makes a move on me, we held hands and i layed on him and he had his arm around me..we didnt kiss but it felt awkward for the first like 5 min..then it kinda felt really...sweet! haha..the next day he slaps my butt and says that olivia and philip are gonna "chill" and he wants to CHILL w/ me but me and olivia ended up ridin to dixie queen..we never "went out" we havent talked in 2 days and im gonna talk to him 2moro about this weekend...was it a "wat happens at the beach stays at the beach" weekend or was it "real" i dont know for sure, but you can im me and find out ((taylorbug234)) and if you ever need anything im *so* here!!!! ---(if anyone else is interested in the ending..im me as well (: )---
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wow..i would call him back with like one of your friends on the other line. so they can help you make conversation if you get stuck. i would call him back just b/c he might think that your ignoring him. hope i helped!
good luck!
XoXo Hot Mama XoXo
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yeah i see your point that things can be weird..you have a couple options:
-text him saying hi back..you wont have any awkwardness
-call him and say you had a good time and your parents thought he was polite and nice..maybe this can lead to the topic of parents in general or his parents who knows.
-lead the phone convo and dont let it get to a weird subject
he seems nice so i wouldnt avoid him because that would hurt him
i think eventually the topic of you and him should be talked about though bc if you definately dont like him like that its not fair to him to think you might like him etc..but i think you know this already so thats good
hope i helped out
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i know its awkward but it will be much more awkward (and painful for him) if you dont call back. Even though you said you didnt like him, when u call make sure to apoligize for leading him on..b.c you guys did hold hands, etc. Hopefully he'll understand but remember it might take some time for him to get over it! good luck ♥
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