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I'm really honest and sometimes thats good, sometimes its bad. But I love to help, and I'm really friendly.
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My husband has smoked for years...35 to be exact. We have been married for 30 years. He is slim, but not very healthy, I think. He almost quit just recently and I was so proud of him and told everyone that I was. He was down to about one cigarette a day. I feel like garbage when he smokes because he does it in the house, car, whatever. It makes me feel like a smoker myself. I feel that if I wanted to smoke, I would have kept it up in college, so you see, I know what it is like to be a smoker, but not what it's like to be a non-smoker, even though I don't smoke. I am sorry this sounds bitter. I am mad. Tell me what to do. I am ready to move out. We have a great marriage, but I don't want to feel crappy anymore because of someone else's vice. He refuses to go outside to smoke.
Chanon
Just tell him that him smoking is harmful to you.. and its not a lie 2nd hand smoke kills.. then see how he reacts and if he doesnt start smoking outside then tell him that you really can't stand it anymore and that you are ready to help him, remember quitting is a really hard thing so he needs someone to help him cope through these tough times. Make sure he knows that you arent just caring about yourself but ultimately about him. Also know that after quitting smoking that hes bound to gain a couple of pounds and maybe hes self concious about that so make sure he knows that you dont care how much he weighs as long as he stops smoking. Also if he doesnt go for any of these ideas just tell him if he doesnt TRY to quit or get help or cut down and smoke outside then you will leave him [if you're willing to go to extremes] I know that I am only 14 but i hope i've helped.
love ;;
samantha
Ok so, my crush asked me out last night so of course I said yes. I'm new to the whole dating experience, im only 14. I like him a lot, but whenever the thought of going to the movies or something comes up, I automatically make up an excuse to not go. I don't know why. I'm very co-dependant and I would be too scared to go anywhere unless it was a double date or something. He says hes okay with that but I dont know whats wrong with me. I think my main fear is making out. Yea yea laugh, but I guess im just scared to do it. I dont know whats wrong with me and why im so scared to go anywhere with him. I'll rate you high. Thx a bunch
Hmm maybe you just arent ready to date. But remember having a boyfriend means having some one on one time, not to just make out and stuff but you talk and learn about eachothers lives and really get to know one another. So if you dont want to hang out with him without lots of people around then maybe yeah you just arent ready? hope i've helped.. =)
love ;;
samantha
ok there is this guy on myspace thats wants me to hang out with him. i don't know if i should. i know my mother wouldn't agree with it, so what should i do?? is it good to meet someone from online??
well first of all, its never good to meet someone online alone.. maybe you should get a group of friends and tell your mom that you are going to the mall and just all hang out together and tell him to describe what hes wearing, so you can spot him first so if hes disgustingly ugly, or old.. you can pretend like you never even showed up =) hope this helpss..
but if you do this.. DEFINANTLY go with a bunch of friends.. maybe include some guy friends just in case!
love ;;
samantha
Hey guys!! Okay I have a really confusing conflict! I am going out with this guy and I like him a lot and he is a great kisser! but I just found out he cheated on me. and he is the kinda guy that doesnt seem like he cares so I dont know if he cares about me. ok I like his friend, we have talked a lot and I know he cares and I know he wouldnt cheat on me....I dont know if I want to break up with My boyfriend and go out with his friend or if I should stay with my boyfriend and see how things go?! PLEASE HELP!! I need all the help I can get!!
first off ; break up with him right away hes a cheater girl, and you definantly dont need him..and he doesnt deserve you..
second ; talk to his friend, tell him how much your ex hurt you by cheating on you and see what he says, if you really like him and think that he wont cheat, then go for it! you might get a really wonderful boyfriend and a little revenge on your ex ;]
thirdd of all ; what if your boyfriend and his friend have a pact or something that constricts them from going out with eachothers ex's .. make sure that your ex isnt really close with this friend or you might ruin their friendship..
hope i've helped =)
love ;;
samantha
I am 14 years old and I am self-conscience about my breast size. Is there anything that I can do to reduce my breast size?
To reduce it? You could have a sugery which is pretty extreme.. but other than that you just have to live with what you got. And the surgery you'd have to ask your parents about, and your doctor, and i believe it is pretty expensive but there isn't any other way.
love ;;
samantha
I have this ex-girlfriend, ok? And see what happened is she just broke up with the guy that she broke up with me for. And I'm kinda worried that she might try to go back out with me just because I'm their and I'm familiar. Plus we also were lightly flirting last time we were together, which was about a month ago so I think I'm safe. What should I do to let her know, without a doubt, that I won't get back with her now, but do it lightly so it's not really noticeable?
Well since you don't know for suree if shes even going to ask you back out then maybe you should just wait, but if you hang out with her try to be less flirty, not mean, just not at flirtatious.. then maybe she'll get it from that but if not, wait until she asks you out and use the classic line, i just want to be friends.. should work.. hope i've helped
love ;;
samantha
I work my abs a lot, and I definitely have a 6 pack underneath my stubborn belly fat. Im a normal weight for my age and height, Im 14/f/5'5" and 129 lbs. I'm a little chubby in my lower stomach and I dont know how do get rid of it and let my abs show. I can feel the muscles underneath but i cant see them. I'll rate high
hmm well i love this! because i am the SAME EXACT thing.. i'm 14/f/5'5" and i used to weigh about 130 lbs. and yeah i can feel the abs but i cant see them! so i asked my gym teacher and she just said do some situps every night and morning and dont eat a lotta junk food and dont just sit on the computer all day ;] and yeah now after about 2 months of following that i did 60 situps a day 30 in the morning 30 at night, i only had like 2 snacks a week, and ate very heathly..and i made sure i went outside and ran around a lot and now i weigh about 113 about 17 pounds less and i have those abs.. not very defined, but i have a pretty nice stomach :)
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hope i've helpeddd
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2 days ago me and my sister were running outside in my uncles back yard and i ran around her and i stepped on a 2 1/2 inch rusty bolt and it went 1 inch *or more* in my foot and i had to go to the hospital. well now im back home and i have no crutches or a wheel chair or anything and i really want to walk around my house but when i hop on my good foot it makes my ribs and knee hurt too much does any one know a way for me to get around until i get crutches?
thanks
i rate 5's for good answers
i think you could use a stick? well not a stick but like a broom to lean your wait on for awhile :)
=) samantha
ok well im 14 and ive been going out with my b/f 9 months today. during the school year id see him every day and we would allways talk alot so we rarely talked on the phone and when we did we talked form like 8 till 2 in the morning...he liked me for allmost a year before me and him started going out and everyone says how cute we are and everything, my birthday was recently and he gave this bear that when u scweze it it says i love you and we went out to dinner, i ran out of room in my year book this year so me and him decided we would write each other letters insted and the one he wrote me was soo cute i wanted to cry i could tell that it came from his heart after i read it i thought that this summer would be amazing but now that its summer it makes me soo sad b/c i never see him as much as im use to and im the one who useally calls him and i dont useally do it alot b/c i dont want to be the girl who allways calls boys or anyoingg idk what to do like when ever i talk to him and im with him he acts like he loves me but i dont know what to do it makes me soo sad
helppp i ratee!!
if he is as sweet at you say he is and you two are that close then you could tell him without any worry.. but i just read the additional info about trying to talk to him and even though you dont want to you really should..and if not then you're just going to have to plan dates and sort of MAKE him go :)
=) samantha
13f. i went out with a friend of mine, tom for 4th of july. just us. he was super-polite, introduced himself to my parents, they loved him. we went walking around town together, and we were laughing and talking the whole time. but it kinda started to feel like a date, and i dont like him that way. he puts his arm around me, and asks if he can kiss me. i say no. it was only akward for a minute or so, then we pretty much forgot about it. then we were sitting alone together watching fireworks and he puts his arm around me. we argue for a minute. (cuz i dont mind, i just dont want to lead him on cuz there's no way i'm making out with this guy). so he promises he wont try to kiss me, and we end up holding hands and putting our arms around each other, and my heads on his shoulder, but thats it. he called me the next day and left a message on my cellphone saying he wanted to say hi and to call him back. i dont really feel like talking to him and i dont know if we would have anything to talk about and it could be kinda akward, so, do i have to call him back? if i dont will he think i'm weird about the other night and am avoiding him?
You dont have to call him back..and if you want to avoid him do it! and remember he can NEVER blame you for leading him on because you TOLD him straight out that you didnt want him so all you have to do is do whatever you want and dont worry about him :)
=) samantha
Heyy! Right now I'm 16 and I'll get my license in a couple months (I was lazy and didnt get my permit until I was 16... bad idea!) anyways, I'm getting a silver kia spectra and I cant stand the silver color! especially with the grey interior.... yuck! Does anyone know how much it would cost to get my car professionally painted another color? Or does anyone have any other ideas of how to spice my car up. I'm already going to put my poms in the back window and something around the rearview mirror. I want to get seat covers too but I need good websites that I can buy cute ones on!
Any Ideas?
-Aria
well it would probably cost about 500 dollars for it to be painted.. other than that just jazz it up with funny bumper stickers.. then people will be too busy laughing at your stickers rather than at your car :)
=) samantha
dear advicenators .. i was just wondering if there was a way to make an msn icon and if there is how do you make one also if i have to download anything please let me know if its free i rate 5 to anyone who helps thanks in advance love mandy xox
hmm well you can def. go to google and type in make your own msn avatar [thats what they call em] and find a good site from there :) hope i've helped!
=) samantha
hey me and my boyfriend have only seen eachother once. We talk a lot but we never see eachother that much, and i really like him. All my friends say to break up with him but i really like him, i dont know what to do? I always ask him when can you hangout he says i dont know. But when my friend asks him he gives a day. We were supposed to hangout this weekend but he never called me back. He always says he loves me one day we stayed on the phone till one in the morning! Hes so sweet but i never see him. I dont know what to do anymore.
Julia xox
if you NEVER see him, sorry to say but he could be doing so many other things / girls.. thats why when you have a boyfriend you make sure you know what hes doing and when hes not doing anything.. you are with him..or when he goes to parties you go with him.. and if you have a boyfriend that you never see when do you kiss him and hugg him and cuddle with him? just break it off if you're not gonna see him a lot.. on the other hand you could take control and make sure you guys hang out ALOT if that doesnt work than yeah.. just break it off i guess
=) samantha
ok so I have these 2 friends....We r really close but just like anyone sometimes i just get tired of being with them.....well first off they had planned to go bowlin....i hadnt heard that we were going for sure all day so another friend of mine called and since i had not heard from them i made other plans....next.....we had planned to go see some free concert and the day of the concert i had softball practice and didnt' really like the guy that was singing...so i didn't go and the whole time they were gone they called me tryin to rub it in that i didnt' go and tryed to make me wish i was there....when all i thought was nothin cause i didn't wanna go.....Then the next day they said something about going to see fireworks...but when they called me I was at my sister's fixin to get in the tannin bed and i wasn't ready.....So that night i went with my sis and her family somewhere else ot see fireworks... Was I wrong for not doing that stuff with them? Should I feel bad about it? cause as fo rite now i really dont' feel bad about it cause i did what i wanted ot do and went where i wanted to go .....
please help!!!!!!!!!!
as long as you were happy you're fine! :) because it doesnt matter if they want to do something not like you shouldnt take sacrifices for your friends but they dont seem like the type of friends that would sacrifice for you. so you did what you should've done!
=) samantha
whaT DO you do if u hear your parents ummm..... doing it. they're like 48 and i think its wrong. They were both making sounds and i don't want to confront either one. please help me i dont no y but it bothers me.
ill rate high for good answers
hmm i think that yeah that is REALLY nasty but.. all you have to do is either bring it up.. if you are that bold :) or if you are shyer with those topics with your parents.. then just pretend you never heard / saw anything..
=) samantha
p.s. and its normal to have it bother you!
hey! i stay home in the summer (cant go outside or anything like that) soo what can i do? being online bores me too much. so what are some other things that i can do to keep busy && things that are sumwhat fun? any ideas? all i do now is just like be on the computer or watch tv... so what else is fun to do? ♥ nicole
well.. you could call some friends over. or get some movies and stuff.. or just start a hobby, like painting or something :)
=) samantha
Does anyone know how to get rid of burns (from a clothing iron) quickly? How long will it take? Thanks Bunches!
you just have to wait it out =\ sorry
=) samantha
Here’s the thing I am 15/f and I’ve never had a boyfriend. Now there is a guy who is 2 years older than me and I see him every summer and I’ve liked him for the last 5 years and I was really crazy about him last year. The thing is we’ve never talked and we live on the same street during the summer. Now, last summer I took a picture of him from his cousin (my best friend who is 15/f too) and I drew a portrait of him (I am very good at art). He wouldn’t think I am a stalker because their whole family knows I am good at art and I come up with some crazy projects every now and then. The thing is he is really shy around people he doesn’t know well and he will be really embarrassed when I show him the picture and then I will be embarrassed because I am really shy around guys and especially around guys I like. I’ve also asked his cousin to help me but she wants to stay out of it and doesn’t want to get involved in any way even thought I’ve begged her to help me, because she doesn’t like the whole matchmaking thing, but she does give me information about him when I ask. I can’t pick up a conversation with him because he never hangs out with us and the only way I can talk to him is if I run up to him when I see him on the street which is out of the question because it will be too weird plus you can’t really start a casual conversation this way. The other thing is that I am pretty (at least that’s what many guys have said about me) but the guy I like is very attractive and he has had girls chasing him since 3rd grade so he is used to that, but he is not a player and as I said he is shy (I know all these things from my friend). So I don’t know how to get his attention, we don’t talk, we both act really cold when we are around people we don’t know. What should I do to make him notice me and pick up a conversation without letting him know I like him or at least without letting him know I’m crazy about him.
well..get to know him better.. maybe just hang around his house for a day or two.. then you're probably garunteed to see him and maybe even strike up a conversation :)
=) samantha
I'm really worried about my girl friend her grandpa is in the hospital. Well she's sad and streesed out. I'm sad for her, but I don't know what to do for her. So my question is... What should I do for her? Or should I do anything at all?
Well comfort her.. maybe go with her to see her grandpa that would mean a lot to her.. and when she says she needs her space.. give it to her.. and when shes crying ; let her cry on your shoulder..just mainly be there for her.
=) samantha
okay so whenever i wake up in the morning i always feel so nausious that i cant eat anything but it usually goes away by about 10...excpet sometimes it gets worse and i either throw up or are about to throw up...and its not because im hungry because i usually have like big midnight snacks and stuff so whats wrong wtih me
maybe you should stop eating at midnight...and start eating in the morning.. then everything might even out!
=) samantha