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Getting a cute guy to notice you/ have been trying the last
Here’s the thing I am 15/f and I’ve never had a boyfriend. Now there is a guy who is 2 years older than me and I see him every summer and I’ve liked him for the last 5 years and I was really crazy about him last year. The thing is we’ve never talked and we live on the same street during the summer. Now, last summer I took a picture of him from his cousin (my best friend who is 15/f too) and I drew a portrait of him (I am very good at art). He wouldn’t think I am a stalker because their whole family knows I am good at art and I come up with some crazy projects every now and then. The thing is he is really shy around people he doesn’t know well and he will be really embarrassed when I show him the picture and then I will be embarrassed because I am really shy around guys and especially around guys I like. I’ve also asked his cousin to help me but she wants to stay out of it and doesn’t want to get involved in any way even thought I’ve begged her to help me, because she doesn’t like the whole matchmaking thing, but she does give me information about him when I ask. I can’t pick up a conversation with him because he never hangs out with us and the only way I can talk to him is if I run up to him when I see him on the street which is out of the question because it will be too weird plus you can’t really start a casual conversation this way. The other thing is that I am pretty (at least that’s what many guys have said about me) but the guy I like is very attractive and he has had girls chasing him since 3rd grade so he is used to that, but he is not a player and as I said he is shy (I know all these things from my friend). So I don’t know how to get his attention, we don’t talk, we both act really cold when we are around people we don’t know. What should I do to make him notice me and pick up a conversation without letting him know I like him or at least without letting him know I’m crazy about him.
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well..get to know him better.. maybe just hang around his house for a day or two.. then you're probably garunteed to see him and maybe even strike up a conversation :)
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well i think a good idea is writing a letter to him and signing your name and number on it so when you see him in the street just run up to him say here hand it to him and run home.
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Wow.....maybe you should just casually be walking along the street when he's outside one day...start up a convo about the weather or something. I'm really outgoing so stuff like this just seems simple, (lol). But you should really just try going up to him and talking to him. Tell him you're friends with his cousin and that she mentioned you a few times and you thought he was cool. It'd be a good convo starter....better than the weather, (lol).
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1st off, not having a boyfriend by 15 is nothing to be ashamed of. Lots of people don't even start dating until college. You've got plenty of time on your hands, so don't rush yourself. And definatley don't use this as an excuse to feel insecure. You've got just as good a chance as getting this boy as anyone else.
Now that that's out and overwith, on to the guy.
Before you do anything, I think you should sit down and ask yourself some serious questions. What about him makes you so crazy? What are your motives if/when you to ever hook up? Are you looking for a relationship, or just a summer fling? Once you're clear on what direction your heading, you're good to go.
I would start off by doing research. Find out what his hobbies are, where he hangs out, and who he hangs out with. Even if your cousin is reluctant to play matchmaker, I think she may be able to give you a few details on him.
Then, try to get into those same things. If he likes to skateboard, maybe give it a try. It's a good conversation piece to start out with.
Now comes the hard part. No matter how shy you may be, you are never going to talk to him by sulking in your house. Get out there. You say it would be weird to run up to him on the street -- not neccessarily. Start small. Try to make eye contact and smile when you see him, maybe even work up to a hi. Let him familiarize himself with your face and your routine. It may not be such a bad idea to take a jog around the block everyday. It's good excercise plus it gives you an excuse to see him. And make notes. If you see him polishing his car every week, brush up on your knowledge of automobiles.
Finally, once you feel confident enough, go for it. Just casually say something about how you've lived across the street from him for 5 years, and never said a word. Take it from there, and just start talking about your common interests.
It may take some time, but i'd say this plan has at least a 70% success rate if executed properly.
And as for the picture, i would keep that under wraps until you know him a little better.
Hope i helped
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Maybe you could hang out with him and you can have you cousin ask if you guys want to catch a movie together or some place were you can talk. Maybe the thing to do right now is to just be friends until you can actually tell him you like him... i wouldn't show him the portrait you drew of him because that might scare him away and think your madly obsessed with him. So just try and see if you can hang out with him and go from there
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