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Dating Advice
I was dating this guy for a couple of months, and everything was perfect. He was the first guy I could actually say I loved and cared about, and he loved me too. I was a freshman and he was a senior when we started dating. What's the problem you're wondering ... well he turned 18 and graduated at the end of May. His father is the real problem though. His father got a new job in another state, and moved a couple days after his 18th birthday and graduation.[he got to stay in his father's old house] This guy I was dating also stopped calling me [we talked every night!] the day his dad moved. His dad told him several times when we dating that he should be careful and it eventually got to where he told him to stop dating me because he thought we were having sex and doing things. We were never even close to having sex! Well its been almost a 1 1/2 months since we've talked. He never called to tell me he was breaking up with me, but I did find out that he told someone that his dad made him break up with me. I tryed contacting him several times for several weeks, but he never answered his phone or called me back. I need advice on what to do. Should I try to forget him and move on or what? It's driving me crazy not knowing anything. What do I do?
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forget him. if he lies like that hes SO not worth it. girl you can get so much better!!!
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try calling again and if he doesnt pick up then...ya id say he dumped u so forget about him and move on.
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It seems he has so you may as well too. You have tried talking to him and he is obviously avoiding your calls. I think it is over for him. Try to move on. :)
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Hmmm sorry to hear that but if iwas you i would forget about him because if he really loved you then he wouldnt care about whatever his dad said about your relationship ..and obviously he didnt mind breaking up with you because of his dad ..Just try and move on .he wasnt worth it if he didnt care .
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Confront him. Even if it mean going to his front door and banging hard until he's forced to answer.
What he did to you was completely unfair, even if it was his dad that forced him into it. You two need to sit down and talk, and he needs to tell you straight up whats going on.
If he still ignores you. Forget him. He's not worth your time anyway.
I know it's hard to let go of someone you feel so strongly for, but obviously something is wrong here, and if he is not willing to work it out, than you shouldn't waste your breath on him.
Hope i helped.
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Wow; that's shameful and disgusting of him. I'm just shocked. I don't see how someone could be theRe foR you stRong all the way thRough, and then have enough disRespect foR you to end it in such an abRupt, Rude, and distasteful manneR.
Bottom line, love is RecipRocal -- it's NOT just one sided. ERGO, you simply can NOT hold a Relationship just because ONE paRtneR doesn't want it to end. What would be the point in involving youRself in a Relationship, something that needs 100% committment, if youR paRtneR is only willing to give anything LESS???? Think of it this way: what's the point in giving youR heaRt away to someone who isn't willing to give you theiRs? I'm telling you to use youR head heRe, and think of youR *OWN* well being on this one -- Don't waste anymoRe of youR time, teaRs oR effoRt on this clown; he's not woRthy.
Hopefully this makes sense to you -- and hopefully eveRything works out!!
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If he truely loved you then he would of never stopped talking to you reguardless of what his daddy said!!
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SINCE HE IS 18 YEARS 0LD HE SHOULD OF HAD THE BALLS T0 STAND UP T0 HIS FATHER. I MEAN HE IS OLD ENOUGH TO MAKE HIS 0WN DECISIONS. YOU DONT HAVE T0 GIVE UP AND F0RGET ABOUT HIM. Y0U SH0ULS KEEP TRYING T0 CONTACT HIM! MAYBE HE IS JUST REALLY CONFUSED AND HE D0ESNT KNOW WHAT TO DO. GIVE IT A LITTLE MORE TIME AND MAYBE HE WILL CALL YOU. IF HE HAS A SCREEN NAME OR AN E-MAIL ADDRESS YOU CAN TRY CONTACTING HIM THERE! KEEP CALLING! I MEAN IF YOU REALLY LOVE EACH OTHER THEN JUST TRY TO MAKE IT W0RK. CALL HIM A LITTLE LATER AND IF HE DOESNT PICK UP HIS PH0NE JUST LEAVE A MESSAGE! HE WILL TALK TO YOU BUT JUST D0NT WORRY TOO MUCH! [[ ♥ ]]
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Wow..well if he has an e-mail address, send him a well thought out e-mail. That way, if you are on the phone, you aren't saying a bunch of stuff and get all confused. If you e-mail him, you will have plenty of time to think out what you want to say to him.I hope it all works out for you!
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Well he's 18 years old..so he knows that he's an adult and that he can make decisions on his on. Also if yall weren't having sex then what is he worried about? If you truely loved you then he would stick by your side no matter what. Stay strong and look for the strength within yourself for the time being. And I don't know him so maybe he does love, and if you does then he will call you sometime. So you need to give that time too. Never give up on guys. Also if he's not answering your calles or returning them maybe he needs times to think so give that a rest for a little while to. Trust me on this one.. what's meant to be will end up being.
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Sadly at 18 this guy should have enough gonads to be able to stand up to his father and for what he really wants.
His childish refusal to talk to you matched with blaming his father (who doesn't even live near him anymore right?) makes the guy sounds like a chicken.
I think it's time for you to start to move on, this guy doesn't sounds like he has the courage to love you or even to be totally honest with you.
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I know that it's hard when someone just up and stops talking to you. It feels incomplete, like just hearing him say "yes, I want to break up" would feel better. And it might, but it doesn't sound like that's what you wanted - sounds like you wanted to stay together. At this point, if he is not returning your phone calls and it been over a month, I would say that he has made a definate decision. Just move on. The energy there is probably so screwy now that even if he wanted to call you up and say something it would feel awkward. Just leave it alone. You know the saying - if you love something set it free - if it comes back it was meant to be (that's my shortened version =) ) Write him a letter - don't send it - just write it. Say what you need to say to him. Get it all out - the mad (cuz you have to be a little mad) the sad and hurt and the love. Get it all out. Then, get a metal container and a lighter - go in your garage or somewhere paved and put the letter in the metal container and light it on fire (make sure to do it in a safe place - and make sure your parents are okay with it beforehand) - make it your farewell ceremony. Sweetheart, there are soooo many men out there - and I know that sounds a bit cliche` but it's true. You are going to find the right one. When things work out like that I have always found that it was for the best - even though it didn't feel like it at the time. Whatever you do - please do not dial that man's number again!!! Forget it - unprogram it from your phone... You'll find better.
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Well i think that you should try calling him or getting in touch with him any way you can. Whether you see one of his friends and are just like * hey have you seen *bfs name* around lately? i havent talked to him in forever* just be casual about it. If you dont get back in touch with your bf, then my last bit of advice is to move on, because apparently he already has. I hope i helped!! IM me at Sammerz619 if you need anything else. Sammerz
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You should do what your heart really wants. You should call him if you really want to talk to him. If you love this guy you will do what is right for the both of you.
Hope I helped
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