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I ALMOST made the biggest mistake of my life... but now he's
To give a bit of background information, my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and are madly in love with eachother. I gave him my heart.. as well as my virginity and he did the same. But the past few weeks, I've been doubting our relationship. I'll be having dreams of being with ex boyfriends or just other guys, particularly this one guy named Luis. He's a very good friend of mine and a total flirt around me. For a second I thought I had feelings for him and I actually concidered breaking off my over one year relationship with the love of my life for this guy, Luis.I realized it was stupid to end something that is SO good for something that is only going to last a few months IF that much. I called my boyfriend and I was barely crying and, I should've known he would be able to tell I was because as soon as I said hi he said "What's wrong why were you crying?" (He knows the sound of my voice when I'm happy or sad and everything in between like the back of his hand). I told him what happened and I kept saying "Baby, I'm so sorry I don't want to lose you." He told me everything would be okay, but now when I talk to him he seems so distant? If that would be a word to describe it. He's in Maine right now, and I'm back home in New Jersey so I can just like go over and see him right now. I don't know what to do, he just isn't acting the same now, I didn't do ANYTHING with Luis, I'd never do that to my boyfriend. What do I do? I don't want to hurt my boyfriend anymore, I feel so guilty for even having those thoughts. Can anyone please help?
I'm 17 he's 18.
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the only thing i can think of is, talk to your boyfriend explain to him how sorry you really are and make sure he truly understands. Also tell him you noticed the difference and talk to him about that too.
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yeah just call him and tell him that you want him back. make a huge effort to see him a lot. call him a lot and that stuff. hope it works out
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Well i think you love your current boyfriend alot and you just need some help and you told hime and hes hurt...maybe you guys just need time to yourselves ive never lost my virginity and i havent had a bf for a year or even close to it sry...everything will get better
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Dreams are not reality. Next time don't say anything to him about them. Next time don't get so upset...its only a dream :)
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Well i think you should give him some time to get your wholdreams and feelings for other guys out of his mind.It sounds like he really loves you. i think he was just a little urt but give him some time and do something to show you are commited to him. Thats what i would do. I hope i helped. If you have any other questions send them to me in my inbox
claire!!
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Aw thats really sad. I'm sure when he comes back everything will be ok. He might just be scared to loose the bestest thing in his life. For him to no everything about you even your voices and that he really cares and you dont wanna give that up!! Sound to me your soul mates. When you talk to him tell him you would never do anything with luis cause you love him so much. And for the feelings thing for luis i would try to keep them out of your head. Some times being friends is the best when it comes to that. If you dont wanna have feeling for him just think about this cause if you dated him and then broke up you probley wouldnt have that great friend of yours there any more. I no how you feel its hard. My bestest friend asked me out and i used to like him but i told him no cause i no if we broke up things would never be the same. And he was just great to talk to about my boyfriends. Good Luck With Your BoyFriend!!! And never let him go he seems like one of the bestest boys out there. Oh yeah if you have any more question or you just need to talk ask some more!! Cause i no how it feels to loose your virginity to someone you care about and all that stuff hun. Hope i Helped.
♥Ashley♥
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ok, i know that this must be really hard for you. i think you shouldnt have told him that you had feelings or thoughts but i understand that you wanted to be trustworthy. ok, i think you should have a talk with him. you love him(i can tell) and you DONT want to give that all away. i mean really, havnt you heard the song listen to your heart by DTH? o well, tell him that you love him and you want to be with him more than anything else. hope i helped and you can feel free to drop something in my inbox if you want anymore advice.
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even though you didnt do anything you still obviously hurt him very badly...it will probly take him some time to just see how much you really do love and care for him.... so just give it some time... put yourself in his position...
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Well even if nothing happened you still thought about it. Now your Boyfriend Just Needs time to realize how much you really do love him and care for him and then he'll come back around. He is porbably Just doubting himself more than Anything. But you stay Close to him as distant his heart may seem. Ill be here if you need to talk.
You ask Ill answer Irishdude405 ;)
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Well it seems liek you and your bf are very close. I think that he is just feeling hurt right now because you were thinkin about doing something with someone other than him. I kno for a fact he is acting this way because he loves you. Just remember your lucky because most guys out there dont care about anyone that way and have that kinda sense like you kno when sometinhg is wrong. Thats just special. I think you know how to work this out. yoU and your bf will have a lovely life together, i can tell. If you ever wanna talk IM me at Sammerz619. I hope i could help.
Ps. Everyone has thoughts, so dont worry about it. yoU cant control how you feel, but i kno nothing will seperate u two. TRUST ME
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One of my ex's recently separated from her b/f for a few days feeling the need to go out and just be able to flirt and be a bacchelorette. This may be what is going on with you.
I think you should take some time to yourself to think about things. Figure out what your relationship with your b/f is about, why you are with him, and if that's really what you want.
He's probably acting a little bit different because he doesn't know how to deal with the situation, so you need to talk to him before you do this. You should tell him what you're going to do, and that when you figure things out, you'll let him know what's going you'll talk to him about it and any decisions you've made before actually making any changes. And that no changes may even be necessary.
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Aww. Ok, I think that your dream made you think a lot about past relationships. You noticed how Luis was such a good friend, he'd probably be better as a friend like you said. It was very good that you told your boyfriend your feelings even though he probably took it "weirdly". Stay with your current boyfriend, he seems like a nice guy and like you so said that it would be stupid to brake up when you have something great, which your right, because it probably is a better boyfriend girlfriend relationship than you might have with Luis. It didnt work out the first time with Luis evidently so why have feelings for him again? Maybe your confused, it's probably just friend feelings you have for him. Call your boyfriend and tell him how much he means to you, and that you have no intention of braking up with him. That Luis is just a friend, and that your boyfriend is soooo much more. Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!! Hope I helped!!!
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