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Long Distance
I've been with my girlfriend for over 18 months. I'm 19 and female and i just transfered schools. She's 18 and is just going in to college. We're only going to be about an hour apart, but for some reason she thinks she's going to get her heart broken. I keep telling her that we will have to work together to make it work, but for some reason she doesn't think so. Is it possible that she wants out? Can our relationship survive while we're in college?
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I know you probably don't want to hear this: but.. she might want out. I don't know.. because she might just want out ; but she just might want out because she's afraid of getting her heart broken and just wants to end everything before that happens...I would talk to her about it and explain to her how you CAN make it work, that you two will just have to work harded than most people. My friend and his girlfriend live about an hour away too, and they visit eachother about every other weekend, and when not that, they talk on the phone and chat online, which is what I suggest you two can do. But just try to hang with eachother as much as possible. Show her that you two can make this work out. Hope everything works out for the two of you! =) I hope I helped!!
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MELii
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If you make it survive then you can. Make sure to visit alot, chat on aol, or call on the phone. Write to each other, but don't get nasty. Keep the conversation flowing and smooth, so that she won't get scared off.
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ahh it sounds like maybe she wants out and just doesnt know how to say it. like you suggested it will take work but college is a big step. i dont know if you two are bisexual or all the way, but that is something that will turn guys on in a heartbeat, and also theres a lot more diverse people in college for her to meet. maybe shes trying to keep her options open?
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i know you probably dont want to hear it. she might want out. for some people long distance is hard so they give up and dont even bother. i have a girl on girl relation ship that is long distance. so its hard but she doesnt mind the long distants. it should defently survive the college thing. I never heard of girl lovers being split up because of college.
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she is probably just paranoid. just keep telling her that you WILL make it work! and ask her why she is so scared. there is a chance that she wants out and is using this to help her do it, but deff. ask her about it!
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Sure it can survive, if you are both up to the emotional demands of a long distance relationship. An hour apart isn't that bad - you can still see each other on weekends and evenings if one of you has a car.
Trust is the main thing in this type of relationship - both of you have to know that the other is utterly committed. There's also feelings of sadness that you can't be together more often.
Still, it can make the times you ARE together even better.
I don't know that your girlfriend wants out, but she could just be really worried about living so far from you. Keep comforting her, and have discussions about the ways you can stay close: letters, phone calls, visits, etc.
Best of luck.
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well for me to answer that question i would need to kno detailed information about everything u2 have done in the bedroom n if uu leave nething out my shits prob gona be off
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College relationships are hard if you're not going to the same college. My advice is to wait it out a little longer, try to make it work if you really love each other. If you really want to make it last, you need to confront her about it and talk to her. Just say: "Listen, its going to be hard since I'm at college, but we have to just make due with what we have." If she still isn't convinced, she might want to break up with you. I don't want you to get hurt, because when you're at college she could be intereted in another guy and you don't want that to happen. Even if she wants to break up, there are lots of other girls out there.
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An hour apart really isn't that bad. I think you need to ask her what shes worried about exactly.
You have to work on any relationship every single day to make it work so you're right about that. She has to want to work on it with you though. I don't see any reason for it to fail if you both want it to succeed. :)
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sometimes long realationships will work and some might not so be straight forward with her and ask her how she really feels
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Long distance relationships are very hard. Even though she thinks her heart is going to be broken have contact with each other when ever you can. On days you have nothing to do go visit each other. Also always be positive if you want the relationship to list.
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Her telling you that it wont work is probably her way of telling you she doesnt wanna try to make it work. I know that sounds bad but it does really sound like an excuse. You should just flat out ask her about it....if she really does just want to break up then bringing that up will make it easier for her to say so....if not then you'll just have to see for yourselves if it'll work out. 8 times out of 10 the realtionships wont work.....hey, ya never know....maybe you can be one of the lucky two.
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Long distant relationships are very hard. Do what your heart tells you to do, and think about your problem hard, so you do things right. Thats is all I can tell you! I hope I helped.
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I believe that if you two love each other enough (im not doubting you), than you can make it work, i mean, this isn't a long distance relationship or anything, your only an hour away from each other, just make sure to call her every night, and see each other on weekends! best of luck!
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she probably got hurt before and knows how it feels and doesn't wanna experiance that again. maybe if you guys try and work out the weekends to see each other then you guys can be with eachother more and she'll probably change her mind. Think of ways 2 try and be closer 2 her `♥//
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Well, there's this thing about college. She's probably going through the same thing my mom is now that my brother's going to college. She cries like he's going to die. It's losing you that she's worried about. She probably likes being close to you (probably convinient for you both, right?) so the new distance probably sounds frightening. You're right though - you're going to have to work because distance is probably one of the biggest killers of relationships.
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