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I just bought my first car, but I've never even done anything with a car before. I got my license and that's about it for my whole experience with vehicles. Anyway, I know my dad has his truck warm up before he goes anywhere in the winter. I don't know if he does this so the interior is warmer for him to sit in or if it has to do with the car needing to be warmed up so it doesn't break. So, do I need to make time to warm my car up in the morning before driving to school or can I just hop in and go? It's a 1999 model so it's kind of old and used too so I really don't want to mess it up right away. K Thanks
There are different theories on this subject. Some believe that letting a car idle to long is bad. Others believe that warming an engine before starting out on a cold day gives you better gas mileage and prevents breakdowns, also allowing the transmission to warm up makes for easier shifting.
Different manufactures have different theories about the cars they build. My suggestion is speak to the service writer at the dealership you purchased the car from. If yo didn't purchase the car from a dealership, go to a dealership for the make and model of the car you purchased and speak with the service writer there. They know their cars the best and can offer the best advise. The other advice given by the other advisors is also good to follow.
Enjoy your new car.
i am 22 and have been having sex for quite a few years with my long term boyfriend we even have a baby together
the last 2 times weve had sex how ever i have bled last time he was fingering me for quite sometime before we actually had sex and was doing it quite hard and there was a little bit of pink when i went to the washroom after and the second time he fingerd me just a little bit and then we had sex and there seemed to be quite a bit of blood then and my periods not for another couple weeks im starting to get quite worried
While Peeps gave you a lot of reasons as to why bleeding could be happening, the only one who can tell you why you are bleeding during sex is your doctor. You need to see your gynecologist ASAP and to refrain from sex until you do.
I'm filling out job applications and turning in resumes and I realized that I don't really want to put down one place I worked at. I worked there for a few months but I didn't like the job and it's a place around here that everybody thinks is pretty low (bad employees, bad management, bad everything). I don't want a possible employer to read it and say, "Oh, it's one of those people..." Is it acceptable for me to not include that part of my previous work experience? I feel like it would hold me back from some job opportunities in this area if I put it on my resume. I wouldn't be like lying but I'd just be excluding a part of my past, right? What do you think? I don't want to break some unspoken rule about resume techniques, of course.
You need to put your most recent work experience on your resume. If the job you are speaking about is among your most recent, within the last 5 years, in the reason for leaving potion of the application, you can write "Found the job unacceptable, Bad Management, poor team work etcetera".
By explaining the reason for leaving you are telling this future employer that you are "NOT ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE"> It is always better to tell the truth then to lie by omission and have some one find out. You can also explain further in your cover letter if you feel this is really necessary.
I volunteer at the hospital and I work really hard because one day i want to be a nurse. So I got...I wouldn't say trouble but I gave a patient water that wasn't supposed to have water (but they knew so they didn't drink it). I apoligized the nurse who told me and she's like, "It's okay. I know; you try too hard."
is that supposed to be a bad thing or good thing? Because I cna't think of anytime when the phrase "you try too hard" sounds pleasant.
What your supervisor is trying to tell you in a very polite manner is to slow down and think about what your doing.
It has been my experience that people who try to hard often make mistakes. These mistakes mean that they require the constant attention of their supervisor. Now people that try to hard generally want their supervisor attention so their supervisor sees how hard they work. In general they get what they want but not the way they want it.
The people that get the attention of their supervisors that those that work to hard want; are those who as some say fly under the radar net. Those that do their jobs day in and day out and work each day to do just a little bit better than the day before.
These are the people that supervisors have to stop and look for. Only to find that they quietly go about their jobs and only seek assistance if something comes up that they require the supervisors assistance with.
This is quite different than what happens in school where the teacher wants you to speak up and be noticeable. In fact when I was in school if all you did were your assignments and did not participate in class discussion or other things you were actually marked down for it. Quite a different isn't it.
My suggestion: relax, do what is asked of you. Be available to assist the nurses as needed. If unsure of something ask. Remember the only dumb question is the one not asked.
My teacher is 27 and he always asks me do I like him if I'm alone with him. I do have a crush on him, but I never tried to do anything with him and I never will. Sometimes I blush when hes around but that's it.If I go to the restroom and Im tardy to class, he will take me to class and he acts weird, he asks weird questions, like he asked me did I love him in front of our class. He will get really close to me and ask me do I love him and if I say no he just says that he loves me. I cant tell if hes serious sometimes or if hes just playing. Sometimes he makes me go in the hall so he can talk to me about nothing thats important. He calls me his girlfriend in front of teachers and students and they just laugh at him. I don't know if hes playing or what. He'll be in class teaching and put his arm around me. I don't think he'll try to do anything but sometimes he gets close to me and its really uncomfortable, even when I back away. He just stares and smiles at me alot. Or he'll walk over to my desk and stand there for a while. I'm a pretty strait forward person, so after a while I turn around and ask him what he wants. He'll ask if I need help or something.
Maybe I'm just overreacting but I just wanted to know what somebody else's opinion was about the situation. Please answer, thankyouuu!
You are not overreacting. Regardless of how old you are or if you are in grade school or College this teacher is using his position as a teacher to sexually harass you.
You need to inform the school administration of this teachers actions towards you. I'm surprised by some of what you have written that other teachers have not reported him for some of the comments you wrote about are totally inappropriate.
Next if you are still in grade school you need to inform your parents. Even if you are in college you should inform your parents.
As I understand what you have written and my limited of the law what your teacher is doing could be considered unlawful influence. You or your parents if you are a minor should contact the local police and follow their instructions.
You or your parents should also ask to me reassigned to another class at least until the school authorities remove this teacher from teaching.
i want to die
My condolences on the loss of your mother.
Without anymore information then the few words you wrote I can only make an assumption.
You are grieving over the loss of your mother. Their are eight stages of grief and you are presently suffering one of them. Grief is normal. It takes time to heal and sometimes we all need some help with dealing with our emotions. Grief is an emotion.
I would suggest you contact your doctor and tell him/her how your felling. Your doctor can prescribe some medication to help you while you find a therapist you can speak with who will help you deal with your loss. This is grief counseling and is very common to seek this type of counseling.
Should you feel that you are going to hurt yourself go immediately to the nearest hospital emergency room or call your local emergency number and ask for help.
I know you are hurting know but I can assure you the pain will eventually go away. You will never stop missing your mother or loving her. But the pain of her passing will eventually heal.
19/m.
I have been invited to a political Gala dinner. What is the appropriate dress-code for such an event? I don't want to appear in black tie, only to find everyone else in formal attire?!
Thanks in advance :)
Black tie is consider to be formal attire meaning a dinner jacket or Tux. Unless the invitation specifically states Black Tie or Black Tie only Proper Dress would be a Business Suit for gentlemen and evening dress or business suit dress for women.
hi, im a 21 year old female i come from a very conservative family, im thinking soon about starting to take birth control and i still live at home so i cannot let my parents know about this...i used to have increased heart beat rates during a while, and i was taking betablockers (pills to lower your heart beat)..i am not taking them anymore since apparently the problem has stopped, but due to prevention from other stuff i have to take blood tests every 6 months....so i have some questions.
1. if i take birth control and get a blood test done, (general blood test like checking usual stuff glucose, thyroid gland, lipids and stuff like that...) will any of the typical things checked on blood test be altered?? MY dad is a doctor so he checks my blood tests results so i was wondering, would he be able to know something's going on by seeing a certain result level being affected by birth control pills?
like i dont want him to look at the results and say like k so this hormon level is high somethings wrong with you :S and me having to confess im on birth control or something or him thinking i have some sort of problem but its only the effect of birth control and im fine..
2. is it safe to be on birth control pills and take betablockers (pills to lower heart rate) in case i ever need to go back to them..
3. i may have a tendency to develo thyroid problems hence why i also get checked for this every 3-6 months...will birth control pills affect this results ? like show a bad diagnose or maybe make the problem worst??
thanks alot !
Unless the test is specifically looking for certain hormone levels or specific chemicals in your blood the answer to question 1 is no. A routine blood test is a specific set of blood panels that does not usually look at hormone levels.
The answers to questions 2&3 require a doctor to answer and none of us are doctors. Since your father is your doctor this is a problem for you.
Morally your father should not be your doctor. It is wrong for a doctor to treat members of their own family as it impedes their objectivity for one thing and among the host of other things invades you privacy. Since you were 13 under the law you had a right to medical privacy and confidentiality. Your doctor would not be allowed to share with your parents anything you did not want them to know without your written consent, This is a law passed by Congress known as HIPPA.
I would suggest that since you are now 21 you consider finding your own doctors, ones that are not friends of your father, so that you can have the type of medical confidentiality you need to ask these type of questions of your doctor.
I'm reasonably certain seeking out your own doctors will most likely upset your father as your father. As your doctor he should understand that as a patient you need to be able to speak with your doctor on any subject without embarrassment or fear of his displeasure. Being your father; is both your father and your doctor you do not have the comfort zone or the confidentiality that comes with having a doctor that is not an immediate relative. If need be you explain this just that way.
Medically speaking a patient must be able to share their most intimate parts of their lives with their doctor. You for obvious reasons cannot so do this and is why I am suggesting you find doctors other than your father.
A good way to do this is to use the patient referral service at a hospital your father is not affiliated with. If that is not possible, I'm sure you know which doctors your father is closest to; try not to choose them. Regardless of how close they are to your father they cannot under the law divulge any medical information to him without your consent or they face significant fines and jail time for doing so. I only offer this suggestion as I feel you will be more comfortable with someone who is not a close friend of your fathers or your family.
hi, im fourteen and i need to go to illinios to see the girl of my dreams and i need to no the easiest way to do it....i take all suggestions and i have tried to get family to take me but they wont so help me plz
Edited answer: When a minor leaves home without parental permission; depending on circumstances, the can be considered a runaway. This is why those of us that answered you used the term runaway.
If you have your parents permission and you have a safe way to travel, such as by bus, train or plane, you would probably not encounter any problems. To be on the safe side if you do get to travel to see your girlfriend and are traveling by bus or train have a letter form your parents with you with all of their contact information should the police want to verify you have permission to travel alone.
Zane is right; Running away is not going to solve your problems. All it will do is cause you a whole lot of new ones for what in my day was called "Puppy Love" or "First Love".
Lets start with how are you going to get there? You need money for a bus ticket. You are to young to get a job. It doesn't sound like your going to get the money from your parents, so what's left. Hitchhiking is way to dangerous, you could end up dead.
Once you leave home your a runaway. Your parents file a missing persons report. An amber alert goes out. It is doubtful if you get past the first point where you have to change buses. Then you are in Police custody and placed in detention until either the police arrange for transportation home or your parents come for you. Once home you have to deal with family services and juvenile courts. You have to trust me here but no matter how strict your parents may be family services can be more strict.
For what it is worth the odds are against you getting to your girlfriends. If you do you can expect the police to be waiting for you. So that gives you a zero chance of spending anytime with her. Frankly I don't see an upside to running away to see her.
Instead communicate by Email and phone calls. Come next summer maybe your two parents can come to an agreement whereby the two of you can spend some time with each other by visiting one another. This is something you both have the entire winter and spring to discuss with each other and your parents.
My plan has a much higher chance of success than your plan of running away. Try talking to your parents instead of taking a hot headed approach that has no plan of success but a 100% chance of ruining your life.
Since i calmed down , mary and i are going to sleep but everytime were in bed but we start making out and then we started having sex but she wants me to go a little slower whats wrong (I dont know if this helps but i used a condom)
Your question is not very clear and I'm definitely not a girl. From what I can understand of your question I thought I could offer you some advice to make you a better lover.
First I am old enough to be your grandfather and offer advise on this site because I believe that young people don't always get the best information; especially when it comes to sex.
Sex is a beautiful thing to be enjoyed between to consenting lovers. It is important that the male makes sure that a safe and comfortable environment is available for the encounter as it is most important that the female feel safe and comfortable to have full enjoyment. Any sexual encounter, oral, anal, different positions, role playing and any fetishes that you might be into be fully consenting on the part of both partners. Never force someone to do something he/she doesn't want to. Most importantly always remember that NO and STOP mean NO and Stop regardless of where you are in your sex act.
Now that that is out of the way, how can you be a better lover. No two people are going to be perfectly compatible in bed. That is one of the most beautiful things about sex, learning what pleasure your partner. Some girls receive more pleasure from vaginal stimulation than clitoral. Learning about each others likes and dislike is as much about sex as is the act of sex itself and the fun part. Does she like to have her nipples nipped at, or how about a girl that has a longer labia. Does she like to have it sucked and chewed lightly on. How does she like her clitoris played with.
Finding out about what your partner likes is part of being a thoughtful lover. No women likes a guy who jumps on her, shoves himself inside her and hammer himself in to her until he gets off. She can provide him with about the same satisfaction with a hard hand job for what it worth to him without the discomfort to her. Mary asking you to slow down was her way of telling you how she wants to be pleased.
Thoughtfulness goes both ways. Your lover should be willing to ask you what you like. Maybe you like a certain way to receive oral sex, or maybe you like a lubricant used for handjobs.
Communication is key to a great sex life so start now and make it part of how you treat your partner(s). Also a considerate lover in today's world will always use a condom until he and his partner are in a long term monogamous relationship and have been tested for HIV and other STDs. I hope I have been of some help in finding an answer to your question.
im suppost to start my period on the twenty sixth, i hVENT STARTED IT AND ITS JANUARY 7TH! DOES THAT MEAN IM PREGNANT??
I agree with Zane and can only add, regardless of how the home pregnancy test turns out you need to schedule an appointment with you gynecologist. The home test can just as often give a false positive as they give false negatives. Only the test your doctor runs and the exam they do can tell you for sure if you are pregnant.
Just so you know; you are of the age, I assume over 13, that your doctor can not tell your parents anything about your visit. The law, called HIPPA, protects the confidentiality of your medical information. Only you can release this information and the release must be in writing. To release your medical information is punishable by severe fines and jail time. Even if you are using your parents health insurance the insurance company cannot tell them why you where seen by the doctor or what procedures where done.
If you fear going to the doctor for fear your parents will find out you are sexually active or that you may be pregnant; have no worries. Even if your mother was to accompany to the doctor she cannot go into the exam room without your permission. You simply say mother I would like to be alone with the doctor and his /her nurse.
i didnt really have sex.
it was in and out kind of thing, i gave and recieved oral (im a girl) abd in the monring i had a lot of discharge very thick and white.
do i take a morning after pill?
im really scared but i know we didnt have sex!
i also gave two other boys oral the sam night does that mean anything
i no for a fact none of these boys have STDs btw.
Time for a little grandfatherly advice and since I am old enough to fit the description I will dispense some.
Two things first: Even after oral sex some semen can remain in the urethra of your boyfriends penis or on it, especially if has not cleared it by urinating. While it is highly unlikely that you are pregnant it only takes one of those little swimmers to fertilize your egg. You need to decide if any semen may have been left in you and if the morning after pill is something you should take.
Morale here is never ever let a boy enter you unless he is wearing a condom and you are also on birth control.
As to STDs: There is no way you can no for sure that a partner does not have an STD no matter how well you may know them. If they are having unprotected sex with you, then it is reasonable to assume they have had unprotected sex with someone else. This means each time you have sex with this person without benefit of a condom you are also sleeping with every person they have slept with and not used a condom.
My advice is never ever have sex with someone without using a condom until you have established a long term monogamous relationship with him. Then and only after both of you have been tested for HIV and other STDs should you consider not using a condom. You should be on another form of birth control other than relying solely on the condom is something I also recommend
I'm only a 14yo girl and I have started mastorbating more and more latly. It feels so good but for some reson I feel really bad when it's over. Even though I feel bad about it I can't stop. Is this normal? Should I stop?
I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.
Let me start by saying masturbation is totally normal. Most teenagers masturbate, be they boys or girl, to relieve the sexual tension brought on by the hormonal changes brought on by puberty. A recent report relates that as many as 90% of the population masturbate. Now this would include adults as well as teenagers and such acts as mutual masturbation, hand jobs, fingering and oral sex. One could define masturbation or mutual masturbation as any sexual activity other than intercourse. Males, especially teenage males, need to relive sexual tension more than females do. Masturbation is a natural way to relive this tension.
Most religions including the Catholic Religion condone masturbation; if this is so why do parents and church elders tell children it is wrong to masturbate? The only reason I can think of is the pleasure received from masturbating leads to wanting the pleasure of actual intercourse. In a sense there is a double standard here. As mutual and some people even use single masturbation as a form of foreplay, adults are telling children that something they do on a regular basis is wrong. Well if it is wrong or sinful for the children, would it not be wrong for the adults.
What my wife and I told our children is that masturbation or mutual masturbation is a safe way to satisfy desire without the chance of anyone getting pregnant. There is nothing dirty or disgusting about masturbation; it is a safe way to satisfy a natural urge. The only time masturbation is wrong is when the urge to masturbate precludes doing everything else.
f/13
My Aunt got me a cell phone for Christmas & my mom was ticked so she took MY phone & locked it her closet. She said i'd be able to use in June when I go to Europe. She sid we'd talk about me earning my phone for doing chores without complaint (I complain about them) when she got back from her trip. Well she got back today & she said & I quote:"your not going to use this phone until your trip & your aunt shouldn't have given you any ideas." well it ticked me off because she promised me that we talked about it. How do I confront her about it?
I'm old enough to be your grandfather so I'm going to offer some grandfatherly advice.
First: You live in you moms house so mom makes the rules; that is just a fact of life. Second your Aunt was wrong to gift to you something your mother may not have wanted you to have, that is another fact of life. Third: Who would be paying for cell phone service? You are obviously to young to get a job and maybe to young to do much baby sitting. So that leaves mom to foot the bill. Has it occurred to you that mom may not be being mean; that having a cell phone bill may just be beyond her ability to afford right know.
Every problem, every situation that confronts you as you go through life will have more than one side. Your ability to see all sides of a problem or situation will help you to be a great solver of problems, something you will find of immense value later in life.
As I see it mom not wanting you to have a cell phone may have more than one side to the reason. She may think you are not responsible enough, not mature enough and the biggest one is she cannot afford to pay for it at this time. Your job is to figure out which if not all of these reasons is what mom is thinking and provide solutions to them. Then ask mom if you and she can discuss this in a calm manner to see if you can provide an acceptable solution to her reasons for saying no.
Whatever your moms' reasons are one fact remains crystal clear and unchangeable: You live in her house and you must abide by her rules. If you want to change a rule you need to have good reason for doing so backed up by more than well Ann has one or Ann's' parents told her it was okay.
Whenever I used that type of reason my mom replied; "does that mean if Billy jumps off the bridge you have to too". I'm certain many moms still use that reasoning today.
Ok so a few hours ago my mom took away my mascara and told me that I wear too much... I don't so I told her to quit running my life and I ran upto my room, then my mom yelled at me to come downstairs so I did and she slapped me across the face and told me to never talk to her like that again..... I just went back upstairs and grabbed my razor and held it up to my wrist, I almost killed myself.... but I put the razor away and cried myself to sleep...What should I do to get my life back without my mom hurting me phisically?? Btw, I'm 13 this year
First off let me say I am old enough to be your grandfather. As such I am going to offer some grandfatherly advice.
Having read the other 4 responses it appears they are all of one mind in that you have over reacted to the situation. I tend to agree with them but I also understand something they may have missed.
Before I go into this I want to address your mother slapping you across the face. This is not the proper way for a parent to discipline a child. While it may be appropriate to spank a child, even a 13 year old; it is never appropriate to slap or hit with closed fit anyone across or upon the face. If this is your mothers primary way of disciplining you it is called child abuse and you need to tell someone. A teacher, your school principle a friend parent.
Now as to why you over reacted: This has a lot to do with your age. At 13 you are going through puberty and with all the changes both physical and hormonal teenagers, girls especially. I am concerned with the degree to which you over reacted.
Attempting or even contemplating suicide sends up a huge warning signal. Suicide is not the result of puberty it is a sign of depression. I am thankful thou put the razor down and went to sleep. The problem that caused you to pick up the razor in the first place has not gone away. This is something you need to talk to someone about. If not your parents, then a teacher, your school nurse, principal or guidance counselor.
A parents job is to raise a child to be a productive member of society. Part of that job means to discipline that child when they do wrong. Each parent have there own way of disciplining. Taking away your mascara is proper discipline. If a parent chooses a form of corporal punishment they can cross the line between discipline and abuse. Slapping you in the face was not corporal punishment it was abuse. Slapping you on your butt is corporal punishment as long as it remains in the realm of an acceptable spanking; which is to pink up your bottom but not turn it black and blue.
If you feel you are being abused then you can also contact a group called RAINN which stands for: Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. They have a 24/7 hotline 1-800-256-HELP. Call them they can help you get help. They can also help you get help for the depression you may be suffering.
Well I'm going to America in March and obviously need a Visa. I'm going to apply for a Tourist visa, but I don't know how much it costs. Does anyone know? I'm from Australia by the way so I don't know if the prices on the Australian government website are for visas COMING to australia or for GOING to another country :s And how long before leaving do I have to apply(how long does it take to recieve it?) My plane is booked for March 9..
I've never travelled overseas before so that explains my clueless mind XD
I agree with Director you should contact the American Embassy closest to your home. There are several Embassy throughout Australia mostly located in the major cities such as Sydney and Melbourne.
The gateway cities from Australia in to the U.S. are primarily Los Angeles and San Francisco. You have written that you have already purchased your ticket, if you still have a choice of which airport to enter into the U. S. with I would suggest San Fransisco as it is an easier airport to get around in.
When you visit the Embassy bring your ticket (E-Ticket conformation itinerary) with you as this will help speed the process; also don't forget your passport.
Downloading and filling out the paperwork, having the fee's available in acceptable form, passport: I would also bring your birth certificate even if it is not asked for, as well as your ticket and anything else the Embassy website asks for will speed the process. Other than that I hope you enjoy your stay here in the U. S. A.
Also I wouldn't worry about a rough flight between Australia and here. Most flights a generally smooth. Most turbulence if any will be experienced during decent to the airport.
How do i give a good hand job ? I feel stupid when i do it and he dosen't get off.
Cux is right, it is always good to ask a partner how they like to be pleased. In just about everything we do do there is a first time. Even if you are a sexually experienced person there will be a first time you make love with a new partner. Why not ask them their likes and dislikes.
Some guys like a lubricant to be used in a hand job, it gives the feeling that is more like being in the vagina. While we are on the subject you should never be afraid to tell your lover what you like. Maybe you are more clitoral than vaginal. If so you would not get as much enjoyment out of being fingered if your boyfriend spends the entire time stuffing his fingers in you.
Sex is a beautiful thing, meant to be enjoyed by both partners. To fully enjoy sex both partners need to be in tune with each other. This means communicating with each other your likes and dislikes. Neither partner should force the other to do something the other is not comfortable with doing. In the same vain nothing done between two consenting partners is weird as long as both consent and no one gets hurt. The operative word is both consent. No still means no and either partner can use that word.
Also when it comes to sex, like many other things in life, experimentation is good. You can try something and even when doing it either partner can say stop. Stop means stop, right then and there, just like no means no.
I know I have given you more information than you asked for but felt you may be somewhat inexperienced and might find this information helpful.
how do i know that my partner love me for me and not my sex?
im 15 years of age ,and im a female
Everyone seems to be of one mine, myself included, that trust is the main issue.
My feeling is if you are asking the question you have reason to believe their is an issue here concerning not only trust but commitment to you by your boy friend.
While I may be old enough to be your grandfather I can still remember being a teenage and being in the 13 to 18 year range. Most boys, more at the younger end of the age group, mistake lust for love. They have a tendency to think more with the head in their pants then the one between their shoulders. Bragging rights are most important at that age. Who is getting some and who is not.
It is all appearances. If a girl is the prettiest or the smartest then he gets bragging rights. If the girl is giving him sexual relief that's more bragging rights.
How do you tell. Look at the time you spend together. Is it only for school work? If so he is using you for you academic ability. Does he spend time with you only when he needs a date or sexual relief? Then he is using you for his on self interest. If he spends hours on the phone, constantly is IM'ing you, hanging out with you and so on then I would say he is really into you.
i am a girl and i am 14 i have a boyfriend but i also have a friend and its a girl who i like a lot but i am in love with my boyfreind does that make me bisexul ?
Hm mm, time for a little grandfatherly advice. Since I'm old enough to fit the title I will offer some.
One of the reasons I am an advisor on this website is to try and answer question as straightforward as I can, especially question of a sexual nature. My feelings are in this area is the better informed you are the less likely you are to get into trouble.
As to, are you bisexual? You are 14, at the beginning of puberty and really just starting to figure out who you are from a sexuality perspective. It is way to early to put labels on your sexuality. You can like and even love someone of the same sex without wanting to have a sexual relationship with them. It is the sexual relationship that would determine if you want are bisexual.
It is not unusual for young adults to experiment with same gender sex. Parents think nothing of two girl, or two boys being behind closed doors or even having sleepovers. I know many young women who while a way at college having many a lesbian relationships who returned to heterosexual relationships after college. Why? Sex with a roommate was safe, available and relieved the sexual tension that built up. Most were bisexual and had sex with men when a boyfriend was available. Since women out number men on most college campuses it was not unusual to hear about lesbian or bisexual relationships women had.
My advice is to not try to put a label on your sexuality at this time; just enjoy yourself while you find out what your sexuality is. When your ready for a full sexual relationship make sure you are on birth control and always, always use a condom.
One day when my boyfriend was over in my room we were dancing and grinding. I was kidding around and started to grind on his ass like guys do to girls. He said he actually liked it and I saw he got a big hard on. Now when he comes over and I feel like dancing he will make remarks about me grinding on his butt again. Sometimes I do it and when I do I can see he gets really turned on. Yesterday we did that and we ended up having amazing sex after. Is this okay or weird?
To answer your question, when it comes to sex my view is this: anything done between two consenting adults, as long as no one is physically hurt, is absolutely fine. No one should force their partner to try or do something that partner is not comfortable with. This goes both ways. A guy should not force a girl and a girl should not force a guy. If either agrees to try something and while you are trying it, it turns you off or it hurts; you say stop and you stop. No pleading, begging just stop. If you follow this rule you should have a very enjoyable sex life.
As to your boyfriend asking you to grind against his but, this is normal for a lot of guys. Some guys are blessed or cursed, depending with a lot of feeling in their butts. Grinding or lightly pressing their butts or dragging your nails over their butts is very exciting. This may sound weird but try lightly smacking his butt, he may like it. It all has to do with extra nerve endings back there.