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Since i calmed down , mary and i are going to sleep but everytime were in bed but we start making out and then we started having sex but she wants me to go a little slower whats wrong (I dont know if this helps but i used a condom)
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Your question is not very clear and I'm definitely not a girl. From what I can understand of your question I thought I could offer you some advice to make you a better lover.
First I am old enough to be your grandfather and offer advise on this site because I believe that young people don't always get the best information; especially when it comes to sex.
Sex is a beautiful thing to be enjoyed between to consenting lovers. It is important that the male makes sure that a safe and comfortable environment is available for the encounter as it is most important that the female feel safe and comfortable to have full enjoyment. Any sexual encounter, oral, anal, different positions, role playing and any fetishes that you might be into be fully consenting on the part of both partners. Never force someone to do something he/she doesn't want to. Most importantly always remember that NO and STOP mean NO and Stop regardless of where you are in your sex act.
Now that that is out of the way, how can you be a better lover. No two people are going to be perfectly compatible in bed. That is one of the most beautiful things about sex, learning what pleasure your partner. Some girls receive more pleasure from vaginal stimulation than clitoral. Learning about each others likes and dislike is as much about sex as is the act of sex itself and the fun part. Does she like to have her nipples nipped at, or how about a girl that has a longer labia. Does she like to have it sucked and chewed lightly on. How does she like her clitoris played with.
Finding out about what your partner likes is part of being a thoughtful lover. No women likes a guy who jumps on her, shoves himself inside her and hammer himself in to her until he gets off. She can provide him with about the same satisfaction with a hard hand job for what it worth to him without the discomfort to her. Mary asking you to slow down was her way of telling you how she wants to be pleased.
Thoughtfulness goes both ways. Your lover should be willing to ask you what you like. Maybe you like a certain way to receive oral sex, or maybe you like a lubricant used for handjobs.
Communication is key to a great sex life so start now and make it part of how you treat your partner(s). Also a considerate lover in today's world will always use a condom until he and his partner are in a long term monogamous relationship and have been tested for HIV and other STDs. I hope I have been of some help in finding an answer to your question.
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The wording of your question is a bit all over the place so I'm going to try and answer it as best I can.
I think you're asking why she wants you to go slower?
Not every girl necessarily wants to have hard, rough sex. Some girls prefer gentle, slow sex. If it's her first time or you two have only just started having sex, she might be in a little pain or nervous about everything and wants you to slow down to make it more comfortable and pleasurable for the both of you.
There's nothing wrong about her wanting you to go slower, she's just telling you how to move to make her feel good.
If this isn't what you're asking, please rephrase the question in the "add additional info" part or inbox me.
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