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Am I a bad person because I mastorbate?
I'm only a 14yo girl and I have started mastorbating more and more latly. It feels so good but for some reson I feel really bad when it's over. Even though I feel bad about it I can't stop. Is this normal? Should I stop?
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.
Let me start by saying masturbation is totally normal. Most teenagers masturbate, be they boys or girl, to relieve the sexual tension brought on by the hormonal changes brought on by puberty. A recent report relates that as many as 90% of the population masturbate. Now this would include adults as well as teenagers and such acts as mutual masturbation, hand jobs, fingering and oral sex. One could define masturbation or mutual masturbation as any sexual activity other than intercourse. Males, especially teenage males, need to relive sexual tension more than females do. Masturbation is a natural way to relive this tension.
Most religions including the Catholic Religion condone masturbation; if this is so why do parents and church elders tell children it is wrong to masturbate? The only reason I can think of is the pleasure received from masturbating leads to wanting the pleasure of actual intercourse. In a sense there is a double standard here. As mutual and some people even use single masturbation as a form of foreplay, adults are telling children that something they do on a regular basis is wrong. Well if it is wrong or sinful for the children, would it not be wrong for the adults.
What my wife and I told our children is that masturbation or mutual masturbation is a safe way to satisfy desire without the chance of anyone getting pregnant. There is nothing dirty or disgusting about masturbation; it is a safe way to satisfy a natural urge. The only time masturbation is wrong is when the urge to masturbate precludes doing everything else.
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When I was younger I would masturbate twice a day but rarely have guilty feelings. Playing with yourself is a great way to abstain from sex and a good stress reliever. Do what makes you feel good and try to let your mind relax. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. Hope this helps nd good luck.
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It's completely normal (unless you do it like 20 times a day). Maybe the reason you feel bad about it is because you don't know if it's normal or not? When I was younger, I felt like a freak for doing it because I thought nobody else did.
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it's toootally noooormal only that maybe cause of your age your friends etc might pretend its gross but everyone does it , even if they say they dont lol everyone does it or at least try it , it's good for your body releases tension and helps you not jump into getting physical with just anyone some might say lol
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It's not uncommon, if you like it then so be it.
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That is completely normal. I don't quite understand why you feel bad about it though. Do you just feel guilty? I know that I used to be embarrassed that I did it because I thought it was a sin, and that it was a horrible thing to do. Yes, masturbating is something that a lot of people pretend is gross, but everyone has done it or will do it at least once. I know some people who do it all the time. Please don't feel bad for doing it. It's very normal, and if you want to do it, then do it.
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