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confused feelings
i am a girl and i am 14 i have a boyfriend but i also have a friend and its a girl who i like a lot but i am in love with my boyfreind does that make me bisexul ?
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you are a young girl who is confuess n if you are having sexually feelings for both of them n you feel like you like her the same way you like him them yes but not really cause if you havent had sexually contact wth her then its ok until you have feelings like that against her then you will knw and once you do its ok its not a bad thing people can judge you all they want but never foget GOD loves you and he dont judge you and everyone that is god is watchin them and god dont like ugly
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The only thing that "makes" you bisexual is your experience of your own sexuality over time. And that's the point - there hasn't been enough time here. Even if you were to have a sexual relationship with your girlfriend (and I'm not saying you should push that, if you think she doesn't want that), that doesn't necessarily "make" you bisexual. Why?
Well, picture yourself thirty years from now - you've never been with another girl, and you've had many long, satisfying relationships with men, and your brief affair with your girlfriend when you were 14 is a distant memory. Does that sound like a "bisexual" woman to you?
Don't get me wrong - I'm not trying to predict how your life is going to turn out. The point is that sexuality - girls' sexuality especially - is somewhat fluid, and is determined by the sum total of experiences and feelings over many years. You don't have to worry about it at any point! Just be honest with yourself about what you feel, and honest with those around you (to the extent that you think they're ready to hear it). You will be fine!
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Hm mm, time for a little grandfatherly advice. Since I'm old enough to fit the title I will offer some.
One of the reasons I am an advisor on this website is to try and answer question as straightforward as I can, especially question of a sexual nature. My feelings are in this area is the better informed you are the less likely you are to get into trouble.
As to, are you bisexual? You are 14, at the beginning of puberty and really just starting to figure out who you are from a sexuality perspective. It is way to early to put labels on your sexuality. You can like and even love someone of the same sex without wanting to have a sexual relationship with them. It is the sexual relationship that would determine if you want are bisexual.
It is not unusual for young adults to experiment with same gender sex. Parents think nothing of two girl, or two boys being behind closed doors or even having sleepovers. I know many young women who while a way at college having many a lesbian relationships who returned to heterosexual relationships after college. Why? Sex with a roommate was safe, available and relieved the sexual tension that built up. Most were bisexual and had sex with men when a boyfriend was available. Since women out number men on most college campuses it was not unusual to hear about lesbian or bisexual relationships women had.
My advice is to not try to put a label on your sexuality at this time; just enjoy yourself while you find out what your sexuality is. When your ready for a full sexual relationship make sure you are on birth control and always, always use a condom.
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Sorry, but there's no real cut-and-dry answer to that question. If you have a "crush" on your female friend then the best thing I can tell you is that you might be bisexual, but that one crush on a girl is probably not enough to label yourself. I'd pay attention to how you feel around other girls...if you see a pattern of attraction towards them, then yeah, you're probably bisexual, but it's probably too early to be sure.
-Pax
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Do you have sexual feelings toward her? Could you see yourself in a relationship with her?
If yes, then you could be bisexual.
If no, then you probably just love her as a friend. I have plenty of friends I love, but I don't see myself with sexually.
--Jack
(19/m)
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