Member Since: January 4, 2011
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I'm 28 to 29. Should i be upset with my girlfriend for buying me one gift instead of a few gifts? (link)
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Depends on what you've done in the past and the quality of the gift, but don't bother getting upset. It's not important enough to start a fight over and there's nothing she can really do now to fix the situation anyway. Besides, man, come on, it's the thought that counts.
-Pax
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i like him, but what do i say when he asks me out? (link)
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You say yes. Look a bit surprised, but definitely pleased, and you'll be fine. The reaction should seem natural. Just say yes.
-Pax
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So my last relationship was crazy and I really liked this girl. She seemed to be completely truthful and honest. Her friends were not the best though and towards the end of my relationship it turned out that her friends led her to cheating on me with 3 different guys within one month. One of the guy's sisters was the one who finally told me the truth. So me and her had our long time dispute and I finally told her I regretted it all. I know you can say that it wasn't her fault, that her friends made her or talked her into it, but I'm pretty sure they didn't put a weapon up to her and forced her. She has a mind of her own and can decide herself. I thought she was different. Well after I told her I did not want to be friends anymore and that I no longer wanted to hear from me, she still texts me and tries calling me and keeps telling me how she misses me. I sang and recorded a song for her once and she says she has it as her ring tone. Sometimes i reply and ask her if its because she still has feelings for me but then thats when she goes on and tells me she doesnt feel anything for me and is glad she ripped my heart into pieces. Its so immature and confusing. I seriously dont want to deal with her anymore. I graduated and she was one year under. I havnt seen her since the day of the breakup, but im going back to the school with some friends soon just to see how my old teachers are doing and I know for sure that if she sees me shes going to try and talk to me. I seriously do not want to talk to her and have told her millions of times. How should i deal with the situation if she does come up to me or tries to say something to me? (link)
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Her friends can't "lead" her to anything. If she cheated on her, it was ultimately her decision and there aren't really any excuses. Stop replying to her texts, as that sends the entirely wrong message. If you see her at school, just tell her (plain and firm, not nasty) that you don't want to see her and if she persists, don't take the bait. The only way you'll get her to leave you alone is by not letting her manipulate you or show that you care.
-Pax
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My dad smokes and always did when I was growing up. My parents are getting a divorce and he moved out last week. Ever since he moved out I feel weird cravings for the smell of the smoke. Like, I REALLY want to smell it and I feel kind of irritated that it's hard to find a smoker around without it being obvious I want to smell the smoke. When I went out shopping I kind of lingered around these people smoking outside so I could breathe it in and I felt a little better for awhile. Do you think second hand smoke is addictive or do I just miss the smell or something? It's really weird. (link)
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You just miss the smell (and probably your dad). There's nothing addictive in cigarette smoke, so there's nothing to be worried about.
-Pax
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18f. My boyfriend and I decided after four months, mutually that we should be friends. Hes the same age. Things had been going good, but then things would feel off and we would not see eachother for a while and then be happy when we were together again. I felt we needed more interesting things to do when we were together and he just seemed content. One day he seemed real frustrated at me and so I had brought up the idea of being friends for awhile, he said he agreed. His one guy friend said to me that he probably didn't want to break up and that he just agreed, which makes me wonder if he still has feelings. I don't have any close friends/family to talk to or hang out with and so all I can think about is him. I feel as if I lost the only person I had going for me, but I also feel it was kind of the right thing to do. I hope to find another guy, but every nice guy seems taken. I am a friendly, approachable person. What to do?
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Honestly, it sounds like he still has feelings for you, and if you like him, and he likes you, why wouldn't you see him again? You don't need a break, you just need to communicate more about your expectations and feelings. So get back together and do a lot of talking.
-Pax
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17/F , sorry if this is so long. Well my boyfriend who is 20 have been dating for 3 months now, and I met him because his sister was one of my really good friends from dance in school. I ended up meeting him, and immediately we fell for each other. He treats me like a princess, tells me I'm beautiful at least 10 times a day, tells me I'm amazing in bed,
Has gone on family trips with me, and has introduced me to his WHOLE family. We rarely talk about his past but what I do know is he dated this girl Ashley for 4 years and they broke up because she cheated, and I know he loved her.. Obviously. They broke up during the summer, and me and him met in october. So it wasn't that long ago. The other day I was at his house and decided to be nosey and look through his history. I had found he was going on her facebook page almost everyday and looking at her pictures and seeing her statuses, when all he does is claim to me how much he hates her guts and how he could care less about the bitch. I confronted him about it and he said he was " just curious " I was heartbroken. I don't know what to do, I love him and care about him so much but I don't want to get my heart broken if he still cares about her. What should I do? (link)
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This is pretty normal behavior. Just because he's looking does not mean that he's still in love with her, but it does mean that he has some serious hang-ups. In other words, this is not a hanging offense; just give him some time and make your feelings on the subject known and things should correct themselves. Remind him frequently how much you like him and try not to say anything too bad about the ex as well, as it could look bad for you in the long run.
-Pax
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Hey everyone, I am really desperate (I really am) and I need some advice!
I'll try to make long story short. I'm 20 years old and my best friend is 15. I've known her since childhood but we've been friends for about four years now. I sort of fell in love with her soon after our first play-date; she was 11 at the time. It took me about a year to tell her how I felt and I didn't get much of a positive feedback. At first she didn't like the idea at all but she couldn't stop thinking about it. She told me many times it was never gonna happen. She had always wanted a brother and she found one in me... But as time was passing I couldn't help but notice she felt something for me as well. Most of the time, though, I wasn't sure whether it was just my misinterpretation of her 'brotherly emotions'. Anyway, I was always too afraid to make a move and see where I'm standing. I didn't even know if I was SUPPOSED to make a move or wait for her to do it first. I had never had any experience with girls before. So now, four years later, things are still the same.
Almost the same actually!
In the past six months she has given me some clear signs that she wanted to be more than friends. We sometimes talk or text about it, she tells me it may be a good idea for us to be together, but then she backs off! A couple of times she even said she loved me. She also said there were times in the past when she wouldn't have backed off if I'd tried to kiss her...
The worst thing was when we 'cuddled' on this bench in park. I found her literally lying in my lap after a while and we almost held hands! But despite the OBVIOUS sign - I was gutless to do anything about it! And I hate myself for that till this very day!
So I have missed some perfect opportunities and now I'm not sure if it's too late! I also don't get to see her very often so when I do - I need to be ready to make a move! But I don't know if I will be! So what do I do? And how do I do it? I’m just really afraid something could go wrong… but at the same time I know I might be letting something great slip! I wish I could just knock on her door on a random day and go for it! But I don’t know if she will be in the mood… So I’m really freaking out. Time is passing and I’m just standing still.
I’d appreciate it if you could tell me SOMETHING that I don’t know. Anything! A word of advice of encouragement! Whatever you think might help me pound on an opportunity!
Well, that’s about it…
I guess I didn’t make the long story short after all.
Thanks in advance.
PS: Don't give me any of that 'she's too young' crap. I'm not asking to have sex with her, just to date her. (link)
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Please, please, please don't take advantage of her. You seem sweet and upstanding but just keep in mind that she is younger and a lot of people will probably have a problem with the two of you together.
That said, though, let her come to you. Wait for her to make a move or to hint VERY strongly that she wants you to so you don't do something stupid and ruin the relationship forever. The "door on a random day" idea is cute but too chancy.
Just put her in a position where, if she wants to make a move, she will, and let the chips fall where they may. Good luck.
-Pax
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Alright I'm a 19 year old male,and I've known this girl for a lot of my life. In the past two years we've realized that we have feelings for each other. Due to a series of complicated events she's actually been dating another guy for almost two years living with him for more than one.
Their relationship has always been tenious at best as he is abusive and controlling (she told me herself I've had to take her in to the hospital for the damage he's done) Unfortunately whenever we do get together (I've been living in another city for a while now) we end up kissing, telling each other how much we love each other, I've never had sexual relations as I won't condone cheating more than we have. Sorry for the long story, just on new year's I finally told her that we should be together but due to the vast distance and her lack of place to live if she leaves her boyfriend the only option is for her to live with me in a new city, basically should I ask her to move in with me? Thank you in advance for your help. (link)
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If you really love her and have faith that you'll continue to (which it sounds like is a safe bet) then you definitely should. If her boyfriend is abusive, you could be just the push she needs to finally end it with him. It might be hard to adjust to a new city, but if you love her you'll find ways to make it work.
-Pax
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i am a girl and i am 14 i have a boyfriend but i also have a friend and its a girl who i like a lot but i am in love with my boyfreind does that make me bisexul ? (link)
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Sorry, but there's no real cut-and-dry answer to that question. If you have a "crush" on your female friend then the best thing I can tell you is that you might be bisexual, but that one crush on a girl is probably not enough to label yourself. I'd pay attention to how you feel around other girls...if you see a pattern of attraction towards them, then yeah, you're probably bisexual, but it's probably too early to be sure.
-Pax
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