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18f. My boyfriend and I decided after four months, mutually that we should be friends. Hes the same age. Things had been going good, but then things would feel off and we would not see eachother for a while and then be happy when we were together again. I felt we needed more interesting things to do when we were together and he just seemed content. One day he seemed real frustrated at me and so I had brought up the idea of being friends for awhile, he said he agreed. His one guy friend said to me that he probably didn't want to break up and that he just agreed, which makes me wonder if he still has feelings. I don't have any close friends/family to talk to or hang out with and so all I can think about is him. I feel as if I lost the only person I had going for me, but I also feel it was kind of the right thing to do. I hope to find another guy, but every nice guy seems taken. I am a friendly, approachable person. What to do?
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Anything worth having is wroth fighting for. You should try and remind yourself of this whenever you feel like all is lost. Yes, it does seem as if you guys cant kind mutual things that you both enjoy so maybe you two should sit down or have a discussion on the phone about potential places or things you two would enjoy together. Doing something like that is all Gain and no Loss. Fight the good fight as long as you feel like its wroth fighting. Other wise, cut your losses and dust yourself off and try again. as long as your alive, you'll have another chance to do whatever you want, whenever you want.
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Honestly, it sounds like he still has feelings for you, and if you like him, and he likes you, why wouldn't you see him again? You don't need a break, you just need to communicate more about your expectations and feelings. So get back together and do a lot of talking.
-Pax
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Well I'm being lazy here ask to get back together with him or that u wanna hang out more, sorry it's not a good anwser but I just really gotta pee!!!!!
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i have been in this situation before and i think looking back now where you said "I also feel it was kind of the right thing to do." i think thats your answer right there, if you felt complete regret and sadness about the whole thing and kept asking yourself "IF IT WAS THE RIGHT THING" you would feel alot worse, i think because you feel it deep down then thats what made you let go of him, which doesnt make you a "lost person" or the only thing that was going for you, it means your strong headed and you know thats not what you wanted and you were strong enough to let go and be alone (which you used to fear)and not just settle for the safe one but you've faced up to that now haven't you? :) of course your gonna feel some sadness but now its time to think of you and what you'd like to do in YOUR life, you dont need other people around you to start, you'll meet them on your way :) good luck :)
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It doesnt matter if he still has feelings for you, it matters if YOU still have feelings for him. If you still like him, go for it! But if yuo really felt as though this was the right thing to to, move on, and look for all of the good things in every guy you'll meet! Your sure to find someone soon! (:
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The best and only way to fully get over someone, if that's what you want, is to find a new person you like better. It might seem strange and different at first but as soon as you develop feelings for a new person the old ones disappear. You are young and have a lot more to experience. Trust me a new person will come around if you just give it time. Until that happens don't forget about the rest of what life has to offer. Friends, family, and sports, I hope you a fan :). Anytime enjoy being young and have fun. Life might just surprise you.
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So pretty much you made him your whole world? I would just suggest getting social and going to parties and events or church activities or dances to get to know someone new or meet new friends. Don't always think he's going to be there for you. I wouldn't be friends with him. It just doesn't work out that good with ex's because you still have those feelings for them and trust me it's really awkward when you have a new boyfriend and your still friends with your ex. You just can't make an ex a good friend unless you feel comfortable with him as nothing more. But anyways, keep yourself a busy outgoing person and maybe you'll meet someone new. Try to be busy on saturday's and on the weekend so you don't always have to rely on your ex boyfriend. Hope you have fun :)
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