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Hey everyone, I am really desperate (I really am) and I need some advice!
I'll try to make long story short. I'm 20 years old and my best friend is 15. I've known her since childhood but we've been friends for about four years now. I sort of fell in love with her soon after our first play-date; she was 11 at the time. It took me about a year to tell her how I felt and I didn't get much of a positive feedback. At first she didn't like the idea at all but she couldn't stop thinking about it. She told me many times it was never gonna happen. She had always wanted a brother and she found one in me... But as time was passing I couldn't help but notice she felt something for me as well. Most of the time, though, I wasn't sure whether it was just my misinterpretation of her 'brotherly emotions'. Anyway, I was always too afraid to make a move and see where I'm standing. I didn't even know if I was SUPPOSED to make a move or wait for her to do it first. I had never had any experience with girls before. So now, four years later, things are still the same.
Almost the same actually!
In the past six months she has given me some clear signs that she wanted to be more than friends. We sometimes talk or text about it, she tells me it may be a good idea for us to be together, but then she backs off! A couple of times she even said she loved me. She also said there were times in the past when she wouldn't have backed off if I'd tried to kiss her...
The worst thing was when we 'cuddled' on this bench in park. I found her literally lying in my lap after a while and we almost held hands! But despite the OBVIOUS sign - I was gutless to do anything about it! And I hate myself for that till this very day!
So I have missed some perfect opportunities and now I'm not sure if it's too late! I also don't get to see her very often so when I do - I need to be ready to make a move! But I don't know if I will be! So what do I do? And how do I do it? I’m just really afraid something could go wrong… but at the same time I know I might be letting something great slip! I wish I could just knock on her door on a random day and go for it! But I don’t know if she will be in the mood… So I’m really freaking out. Time is passing and I’m just standing still.
I’d appreciate it if you could tell me SOMETHING that I don’t know. Anything! A word of advice of encouragement! Whatever you think might help me pound on an opportunity!
Well, that’s about it…
I guess I didn’t make the long story short after all.
Thanks in advance.
PS: Don't give me any of that 'she's too young' crap. I'm not asking to have sex with her, just to date her. (link)
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the best thing to do is be confident, even if your not a confident person just be it, dont over do it, but yea a girl likes a bloke to be in control and more than likey shes more shy than you :) so you take her out somewhere, doesnt have to be a touchy feely date or anything but do tell her how you feel and ask does she want be with you as a couple at the end of the night :)
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My bf is really controlling. He always has to know where I am, what I'm doing, who I'm with, and everything. He controls like everything. If I end up being like 10 minutes late from when he told me to call him (like if I go out shopping and was suppose to call him at noon, but I call him at like 12:10) then he gets all angry and yells and screams and tells me I'm a really, really bad gf. I know this isn't healthy but I LOVE HIM. When he isn't mad at me then we have a really good time together. Is there something I can do to make him not controling and better understanding? Do I HAVE to dump him, because all my friends say he's just abusive and it'll get worse but he's everything to me. Help, please! What do I do? (link)
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yes its all the warning signs of what to come (which will most likely be violent) truth is deep down you probably dont love him, how could if he treats you this way? your probably addicted to the drama and thrill of it all, that doesnt mean your a bad person, who wouldnt want a lover to be "madly in love" with them, but then time will tell you, and to be honest i dont think you will dump him, it is very hard after all, you need a wake up call but dont let it be violence! it should never go that far, sounds like you have some good friends there for you though, dont ever let him take that from you, but you should end it with him sooner rather than later. He's not everything to you he's making himself everything to you!
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Okay so so I have this like flap of skin on the right side of my vagina just inside the lip I don't have it on the other side though. Its like kinda stretchy and just stands out from everything. It doesn't hurt or anything like that but I was just wondering if it was normal. I don't like to let guys touch me or see down there because of this.
Thanks (link)
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trust me every girl is different down there! its probably your clitoris, every single girl has a different shape and size one, some girls have abnormally large ones which do effect their everyday health but this doesnt sound like you, have you had a look on te internet? just the female body? you should and you will see your just like everyone else, also blokes dont care! if they even notice that is :)
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My ex boyfriend put on his facebook last night 'praying that you miss me'
That's obviously about me (who else would be missing him) I know he's not seeing/dating anyone else because I'm good friends with his friends and they told me he's not (I didn't ask them)
Btw he broke up with me 3 months ago. For the first 2 months I contacted him but the past month I haven't. (link)
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also delet him off your facebook and any other friends of his that arnt worth your while, or you could write on your status "you wish" haha just messing, no but i would delet him off my page if i were you, he's obviously playing mind games with you, thats not what facebook is for but its what it tends to do keep it just for your friends and new friends ;)
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hi, i have a bf who while we were broken up met this girl, he first lied about how he met her (i saw her on her contacts and he said she was an old friend ) then weeks later when we were kinda getting back together he told me the truth (supposely) he said that he met her at a train station when he had no money for the ticket and she offered nicely to pay so they chatter a little she "found him" on facebook and added him there, on blackberry messenger and on skype (which is rare cause he doesnt have any of this information on his profile so theres no possible way that she would do this without him giving the number and usernames since on facebook he doesnt even has a picture of himself and he has a very common name ) so i was thinking maybe HE added her and they exchanged numbers which is more liley what happened since tbh he is not a skype user either other than talking to me thats all he uses it for so its strange someone added him on there ...anyway ..he said he has stopped talking to her (apparently deleted her from facebook which i have no way to prove cause he has his friends hidden and IM NOT even one his friends there anymore )i deleted him from facebook cause he was extremly jealous i figured that would be better so i cannot add him back and if i did i wouldnt see much cause no one can post on his wall he only gets messages by inbox and his friend list is hidden..
he said he had deleted her off blackberry messenger and skype, BUT the girl keeps sending messages like
"i hope you're ok i dont know why you stopped contacting me i dont know why that day really affected me " (which im wondering ,,,did they go out ?? did they slept together/kissed or whatever more than just chatting at the train station?) he said nothing more happened than they speaking on facebook for like 2 days after meeting then when she started saying she liked his smile etc and flirting he stopped contacting her
shes been callling him NONSTOP and texting him, messages on facebook and everywhere else he wont take her calls or reply to his messages but shes still sending messages like
one day he shared his skype screen and a message from her came up saying "i hope you had fun today :)" (not even a hello or whatever...he said it was kinda like "i hope you have a good day " but to me sounded like as if they were out together and shes saying like i hope you had fun after them hanging out ) he denies it but its all very suspiscious like
"i hope you're ok etc etc i dont understand why u stopped talking to me "
1- why would a girl keep messaging a guy who she only spoke for like 3 days
2-why would she be insisting so much after he hasnt taken her calls? (seriously why cant she think like maybe he doesnt wanna talk to me or whatever)
ANYWAY im so tired of it and i cannot move on cause i wanna be with him but i dont feel safe having her trying to contact him so desperatley, i know he thought she was hot etc so i dont want him getting tempted so ive added her and im thinking about asking her NICELY to stop emssaging him but i want it to look in a way so she wont message him saying like your gf contacted me etc or something, asking him to tell her to stop trying to comunicate isnt an option he says just to drop the issue and move on and i cant so WHAT DO YOU THINK OF THIS? i was planning on telling her something like (not to offend her of course cause this is as much his fault not only hers she might not even know he has a gf )
hello im sorry that ive added you i really havent ever done this and i dont wanna come out rude or anything, but i'd like you to be honest with me about something..
can you tell me what really happened between you and (bf's name without saying my boyfriend )? because i can't understand why you would be insisting so much in contacting him..
if she doesn't wanna tell me then i don't know what would i do
then just say something like : i really don't wanna be rude or anything cause more likely you didn't knew he had something going on so im gonna just ask you in the nicest way as possible if you could stop trying to contact him?
(then hopefully she won't answer agressively or deffensive ...) I KNOW you probably will say just trust him but tthis is not as easy as that since i wont rest my mind until i really know what happened and i REALLY DIDNT wanted to ask her to stop messaging him but shes been calling almost every day for like a month and texting and he hasnt taken her calls
just please tell me your opinion and im sorry this is way too long (link)
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out of fairness to your boyfriend he tried his best to be honest before you got back together properly right? well i reckon this girl is a bit cuckoo! your boyfriend stupidly gave out too much of his information and then after 2days of chatting realized she was an absolute stalker! iv seen it before, now he's freaked out and thats why he kinda came clean about how they really met, he was stupid and now this mad thing has his number,karma is a bitch! tell him to change his number, dont contact her because then you will have to change your own number too.
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18f. My boyfriend and I decided after four months, mutually that we should be friends. Hes the same age. Things had been going good, but then things would feel off and we would not see eachother for a while and then be happy when we were together again. I felt we needed more interesting things to do when we were together and he just seemed content. One day he seemed real frustrated at me and so I had brought up the idea of being friends for awhile, he said he agreed. His one guy friend said to me that he probably didn't want to break up and that he just agreed, which makes me wonder if he still has feelings. I don't have any close friends/family to talk to or hang out with and so all I can think about is him. I feel as if I lost the only person I had going for me, but I also feel it was kind of the right thing to do. I hope to find another guy, but every nice guy seems taken. I am a friendly, approachable person. What to do?
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i have been in this situation before and i think looking back now where you said "I also feel it was kind of the right thing to do." i think thats your answer right there, if you felt complete regret and sadness about the whole thing and kept asking yourself "IF IT WAS THE RIGHT THING" you would feel alot worse, i think because you feel it deep down then thats what made you let go of him, which doesnt make you a "lost person" or the only thing that was going for you, it means your strong headed and you know thats not what you wanted and you were strong enough to let go and be alone (which you used to fear)and not just settle for the safe one but you've faced up to that now haven't you? :) of course your gonna feel some sadness but now its time to think of you and what you'd like to do in YOUR life, you dont need other people around you to start, you'll meet them on your way :) good luck :)
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I am recently engaged, and also completely lost. Not in the planning, i am in control of all that. My husband to be's mother is more or less a nightmare. Unfortunately she found out about the engagement on facebook after we held the news from most of our friends and family for 2 days, because she and her boyfriend were too "busy" to call us back or pick up a phone. Let alone she may be his mother but is never really around, she lives in Indiana and i in NY. I feel like i should include her in the day, but how do i deal with her when she gives advice besides saying thanks thats a good idea, i'll write it down. Do i invite her boyfriend? or do i sit her with her ex husband and his girlfriend? His parents are not so much into the wedding that we have the idea for. I do not want an over the top wedding, but unlike his family, i also do not want a country hick wedding. HELP!!!! i need serious ideas. (link)
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you seem to be doing all the worrying for your fiance! not fair! You dont mention if you've got your own mother in your life (not relevent really)but it'd be nice to have your own mother there on your side any way, yes i do think you should include both of them in your wedding, because for one reason it shows your the bigger person, who's to say they will even go? at least you can say you asked them :) AS for seating arrangements, ask your fiance, if he can't help then just put them around other relatives they'll know a few tables away from the ex, and lastly what ever kind of wedding his parents are into, well didnt they have their day? this is YOUR day and you deserve to enjoy it to the fullest, your gona have YOUR family there to enjoy it with and you wont even notice that lady (mother in-law)have a great day! hope i could be some help :)
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I have really straight hair that is fine and thin. I take care of it but I wish I had curls. I totally love curly hair. I was thinking about getting a perm one day but my friend said that my hair would break off since it's so fine and that I'd be better off just leaving it the way it is. My hair pretty hard to curl since it's so straight and I also wonder if the perm wouldn't hold because of that?
Anyway, is it possible for a person with fine, thin hair to get a perm or will it damage it too much and break it all off or burn it?
Thanks. (link)
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hey! well take it from experience! i naturally had really tiny thight little curls and thick lush hair and always wanted it straight since i was small! so i started to straighten it and eventually it just lost its curls and went inbetween wavy and straight but still very healthy and kind of thick, and when i got to my 20's i missed my curls, so i went and got a perm, which i loved, at the start, then it began to fall out in clumps and i eventually just shaved it all off and now a year later my hair has grown back quick enough considering the condition, my hair is really thin and unhealthy and still has that annoying kink. So basically if a perm didnt work out in my naturally wavy hair then no i wouldnt recommend a perm for your hair. There are loads of new ways to give it a wave and shape! you could even get non-chemical hair extension for more body and fullness, which iv also tried since my hair grew back, although its still a little short but i will get more in, the best ones to get are Keratin hair extensions! :)
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