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marriage confusion!
I am recently engaged, and also completely lost. Not in the planning, i am in control of all that. My husband to be's mother is more or less a nightmare. Unfortunately she found out about the engagement on facebook after we held the news from most of our friends and family for 2 days, because she and her boyfriend were too "busy" to call us back or pick up a phone. Let alone she may be his mother but is never really around, she lives in Indiana and i in NY. I feel like i should include her in the day, but how do i deal with her when she gives advice besides saying thanks thats a good idea, i'll write it down. Do i invite her boyfriend? or do i sit her with her ex husband and his girlfriend? His parents are not so much into the wedding that we have the idea for. I do not want an over the top wedding, but unlike his family, i also do not want a country hick wedding. HELP!!!! i need serious ideas.
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you seem to be doing all the worrying for your fiance! not fair! You dont mention if you've got your own mother in your life (not relevent really)but it'd be nice to have your own mother there on your side any way, yes i do think you should include both of them in your wedding, because for one reason it shows your the bigger person, who's to say they will even go? at least you can say you asked them :) AS for seating arrangements, ask your fiance, if he can't help then just put them around other relatives they'll know a few tables away from the ex, and lastly what ever kind of wedding his parents are into, well didnt they have their day? this is YOUR day and you deserve to enjoy it to the fullest, your gona have YOUR family there to enjoy it with and you wont even notice that lady (mother in-law)have a great day! hope i could be some help :)
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Congratulations on your engagement.
Mothers and Mother in-laws to be can be very trying when it comes to weddings. My mother almost cost me my marriage be for it started. My wife and I wanted a very simple wedding. The fact we were working for an airline, our ideal wedding was to fly of to Las Vegas to get married. My mother pitched a fit. I say this to show you I know what you are facing.
Unless you future husband feels otherwise your future in-laws and their significant others should be invited to the wedding. At the reception they should probably be seated at different tables with members of their own family.
IF you and your future husband are paying for the wedding then you get to make all the choices and have the wedding you want. It is at this point where I recommend you hire a wedding planner, if affordable. When receiving advise from anyone you can then say I will discuss it with our wedding planner thus making the wedding planner the ogre and not you. This leaves you relaxed and able to enjoy your wedding.
No matter what you decide to do in regards to a wedding planner; this is your wedding, your paying for it, you get to make all the choices. If your future mother in-law doesn't like the choices you and your future husband make she has the option of staying home or attending.
This is going to be one of the biggest days in your married lives, second only to the birth of your children. Make sure you have the wedding of your dreams.
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Hi there I am young and don't know anything really about wedings but, I know a girl always dreams of getting married right? Now remember your not always gonna get your way, you need to take the good with the bad and talk this out with your fianc`e if he really loves you he will understand(:
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Well because he is his mother, if you don't invite her, I'm sure you will here shit about it after the fact. Of course you invite her boyfriend if you invite her. Honestly, I'm sure she'd bring him anyways, she just seems like that kind of person. Set her straight from the beginning, tell everyone what kind of wedding you are going to have and that it is your special day, and don't budge for anyone, just yourself and your husband are in control of the wedding. When she gives advice, and be completely open to her ideas even if they seem horrible. If you don't like them say nicely "Thanks for the idea {insert name here} but I was thinking more along the lines of...." :)
Have fun and congradulations!! :)
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