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Is this teacher being inappropriate, or am I overreacting?
My teacher is 27 and he always asks me do I like him if I'm alone with him. I do have a crush on him, but I never tried to do anything with him and I never will. Sometimes I blush when hes around but that's it.If I go to the restroom and Im tardy to class, he will take me to class and he acts weird, he asks weird questions, like he asked me did I love him in front of our class. He will get really close to me and ask me do I love him and if I say no he just says that he loves me. I cant tell if hes serious sometimes or if hes just playing. Sometimes he makes me go in the hall so he can talk to me about nothing thats important. He calls me his girlfriend in front of teachers and students and they just laugh at him. I don't know if hes playing or what. He'll be in class teaching and put his arm around me. I don't think he'll try to do anything but sometimes he gets close to me and its really uncomfortable, even when I back away. He just stares and smiles at me alot. Or he'll walk over to my desk and stand there for a while. I'm a pretty strait forward person, so after a while I turn around and ask him what he wants. He'll ask if I need help or something.
Maybe I'm just overreacting but I just wanted to know what somebody else's opinion was about the situation. Please answer, thankyouuu!
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I would tell your parents what you told us and even go so far as to print it out and tell them you wrote it. Let them know that his behavior creeps you out and you want it to stop.
It's beyond inappropriate as most teachers know heck most adults know that acting like this with kids isn't right whether it's joking around or not in their eyes. If it makes you feel icky and it does--tell your parents and have them speak to the appropriate administrator on your behalf. They deal with this tactfully and your name won't be mentioned to him. The guy either has a problem or severely bad judgment to be doing this.
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You are not overreacting. Regardless of how old you are or if you are in grade school or College this teacher is using his position as a teacher to sexually harass you.
You need to inform the school administration of this teachers actions towards you. I'm surprised by some of what you have written that other teachers have not reported him for some of the comments you wrote about are totally inappropriate.
Next if you are still in grade school you need to inform your parents. Even if you are in college you should inform your parents.
As I understand what you have written and my limited of the law what your teacher is doing could be considered unlawful influence. You or your parents if you are a minor should contact the local police and follow their instructions.
You or your parents should also ask to me reassigned to another class at least until the school authorities remove this teacher from teaching.
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He's using his position and authority to bully and abuse you.
You aren't over reacting, you are actually under reacting. This is way more inappropriate than you realize.
You need to tell someone you can trust, a parent, or the principal or guidance counselor, just how far this has gone and how uncomfortable he is making you.
It's okay not to feel all right about this. It's not all right behavoir. It's abusive. It really is. It's abuse when an adult in a position of authority uses that authority to harass you and pry into your personal life.
You have a right to not be treated this way. You need to let the people around you know how out of control this man's behavoir really is.
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Oh gosh! I agree you are not over reacting that is not normal behavier! Teachers aren't suppose to be even teasing you like that Especialy asking if you love him all the time! And taking you in the Hallway just to ask you stuff like that. He has a serious prob. You need to get help. You said he is 27 how old are you like Are you I college, highschool,
or middle school? It's still wrong for any age but it would be really wrong if your like way way younger! Anyway I hope this helps good luck(: keep me informed if you need any help!
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No, You are not over reacting at all.
Your teacher is acting very inappropriate Also, Putting his arms around you is also wrong. Your teacher has crossed the line, The best thing for you to do is to report him to a counselor. Guess what, He keeps it up he is going to find his ass fired really soon.
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No. You are not overreacting. He's doing things that make you uncomfortable. Don't be afraid of your instincts. They are God's warring system! Don't confront your teacher. Go to the school counselor or principal. Explain to them just what you said here. Tell your parents, also. But others need to know. If your teacher is a weirdo, something has to be done so he doesn't end up hurting someone, or making another girl feel like you do. If its nothing serious, if its just a case of him not realizing that he's making you uncomfortable, than somebody needs to be able to tell him how he looks to other people. Bottom line, you have to tell someone at the school, another teacher you trust or someone in authority. You haven't done anything wrong and its not wrong to share your worries with another adult. The only way for this situation to get better is to let the adults handle it. You're not crazy! But your teacher sounds a little off, to say the least.
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Well, I'm no expert, but honestly just 'cause you said "please" here goes. :) Sorry if it doesn't help at all.
I would say if he tries to get you alone to talk to you and ask if you like him, there's a pretty big chance he DOES have feelings for you, which is a big no-no. He might just know that you like him though and is simply teasing you for fun?
If it's making you uncomfortable, you should talk to someone about it. If you don't want to risk him losing his job though, and you think it isn't a serious problem, perhaps you could try telling him "Even if you're joking, your behavior is really starting to make me uncomfortable," and ask him back off first?
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