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Does he love me or the sex I give him?
how do i know that my partner love me for me and not my sex?
im 15 years of age ,and im a female
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I think dat you shud wait an entire two weeks an just tell him that you tied of having sex n if he get mad data how you kno if thats what it is in your relationship sex no love
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You could try testing him. You know, one day just tell him you want to wait an entire month before you two have sex again no questions asked. If you loves, cares and respects you, as i would assume, than he'll have no problem submitting to your request IF indeed he is actually in love with you.
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Everyone seems to be of one mine, myself included, that trust is the main issue.
My feeling is if you are asking the question you have reason to believe their is an issue here concerning not only trust but commitment to you by your boy friend.
While I may be old enough to be your grandfather I can still remember being a teenage and being in the 13 to 18 year range. Most boys, more at the younger end of the age group, mistake lust for love. They have a tendency to think more with the head in their pants then the one between their shoulders. Bragging rights are most important at that age. Who is getting some and who is not.
It is all appearances. If a girl is the prettiest or the smartest then he gets bragging rights. If the girl is giving him sexual relief that's more bragging rights.
How do you tell. Look at the time you spend together. Is it only for school work? If so he is using you for you academic ability. Does he spend time with you only when he needs a date or sexual relief? Then he is using you for his on self interest. If he spends hours on the phone, constantly is IM'ing you, hanging out with you and so on then I would say he is really into you.
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Teenage boys who are more focused on sex tend to bring the subject up a lot.
Only you can really answer your own question. However, Does he seem pushy? This is the key question.
Trust is very important in relationships, If you don't trust your boyfriend I highly recommend leaving the relationship before you end up with regrets. Like Razhie said, You may never know if he is all about sex. You can find clues though, These clues are usually pushiness, pressure and does he want to spend time with you?...Or would he rather spend time with you and get all touchy feeling? Remember, There are some VERY important things to keep in mind while in a relationship.
1. Communication
2. Trust
3. Respect
If you don't know if you trust your boyfriend completely, Then don't have sex. Without Trust, Your relationship is doomed
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Ask yourself this question...
Is he just as eager to spend time with you when he knows there is going to be no sex as he is when he knows there will be sex?
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If he wants to have a future with you then he probably doesn't want you for sex. If he loves you for you he would care about you, trust you, and have romantic dates with you and you would be his world.
If he wants you for sex than he probably just asks you to come over to his house just for that. He will probably not take you seriously enough in your relationship. Call you late just for sex talk or whatever. He will probably have a really bad relationship with you and possibly cheat on you and not communicate with you day to day. He would just use you because your his advantage for that.
I hope that helped.
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You don't know.
That's why trust is so important to relationships.
Trusting the person you love is worthy of that love. Trusting them when the speak. Trusting them to be honest.
If you can't trust that your partner cares for you, and isn't just with you for the sex, then you shouldn't be with them.
It doesn't matter if your reasons for distrust are good, or are bad reasons. If you don't trust him, then end the relationship.
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