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What can I do about his bad breath?
20-f
I recently just started talking to this guy ...well about 2 months ago. He is very nice, respectful and genuine but one thing that I can't get over is every time I see him he has bad breath :( I hate getting close to him or even cuddling with him because of his breath it makes me want to gag, sometimes I hold my breath so I don't have to smell it...it's so sad. He wanted to make out with me and I was freaking out because he had bad breath. We started making out and I was chewing gum and he was like "can I have your gum?" so while we were making out he ended up getting my gum that was in my mouth and oh my gosh did it smell so much better then! I don't know what to do though! I can't tell him he has bad breath, and I feel like if I offer him gum everytime he will get the hint but what if he doesn't want the gum? I don't know what to do! And I know he chews smokeless tobacco. He hasn't done it around me but I'm pretty sure he does before he sees me. I don't know if this could make his breath smell bad.
Any ideas of what I could do? Thanks!
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Hey,
I've always wondered about what I'd do if I were in that situation and I have an answer! I haven't had to do it myself though. Tell him you want to go to the dentist -- but you're too afraid to go on your own, and if he'd go with you and get checked up as well. The bad breath may be a result from not flossing well, not brushing well, and can be some sort of dental problem. The dentist will check him, will *hopefully* prescribe a mouthwash or this and that and voila! It makes me think though, maybe there is something wrong with his gums/teeth. Hmm. Best of luck!
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Tell him.
You can be tactful without being hurtful.
Don't say you hate kissing him because of his bad breath.
Say you love kissing him, but the bad breath is ruining it.
He'll brush his teeth and use mouthwash a hell of a lot more often.
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Offer him a mint. He can't say no to that one. That's your first option. And if he won't take it then here's your second option....
Since he won't take care of his breath...just tell him you don't like it when he chews tobacco. Tell him to stop doing it and maybe he will.
You have to be honest with your man. He doesn't know how bad his breath smells like. So just tell him in a polite manner. Don't be rude to him though. Just say tell him to chew some gum or pop a mint in his mouth before he kisses you or cuddles with you or something to make his breath smell good for you.
He should agree with what you have to say.
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Just tell him.
Last week my boyfriend, who quit smoking about two months ago, turned to me and said "Wow, smoking really smells doesn't it?" and I almost lost my mind laughing.
Smokers, and chewers, don't get it. They can't smell it and they are too used to it. They don't know how bad it smells. They don't realize that their non-tobacco consuming partners can smell it and taste it on them for hours and hours afterward.
They genuinely don't know. They need to be told.
So you have to tell him. Kindly and gently, but clearly. "Look hun, I'm really into you, and I don't know what it is, maybe the chew, but your breath smells bad. I want to make out with you, but you need to brush your teeth, or I brought gum and mints."
If he gets offended by you telling him that you want to make out with him, but he needs to do you the basic kindness of not smelling repugnant, then he is not a very nice guy. If he can’t do that then he doesn’t want to make out with you all that much.
You are not asking for anything that your partner shouldn’t be happy to do. Although it's embarrassing in the moment, it's easier to get it out of the way then to have it haunting you both for months and then popping out at the worst moment.
Take control. Ask for what you need.
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