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My mom is trying to run my life...
Ok so a few hours ago my mom took away my mascara and told me that I wear too much... I don't so I told her to quit running my life and I ran upto my room, then my mom yelled at me to come downstairs so I did and she slapped me across the face and told me to never talk to her like that again..... I just went back upstairs and grabbed my razor and held it up to my wrist, I almost killed myself.... but I put the razor away and cried myself to sleep...What should I do to get my life back without my mom hurting me phisically?? Btw, I'm 13 this year
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First off let me say I am old enough to be your grandfather. As such I am going to offer some grandfatherly advice.
Having read the other 4 responses it appears they are all of one mind in that you have over reacted to the situation. I tend to agree with them but I also understand something they may have missed.
Before I go into this I want to address your mother slapping you across the face. This is not the proper way for a parent to discipline a child. While it may be appropriate to spank a child, even a 13 year old; it is never appropriate to slap or hit with closed fit anyone across or upon the face. If this is your mothers primary way of disciplining you it is called child abuse and you need to tell someone. A teacher, your school principle a friend parent.
Now as to why you over reacted: This has a lot to do with your age. At 13 you are going through puberty and with all the changes both physical and hormonal teenagers, girls especially. I am concerned with the degree to which you over reacted.
Attempting or even contemplating suicide sends up a huge warning signal. Suicide is not the result of puberty it is a sign of depression. I am thankful thou put the razor down and went to sleep. The problem that caused you to pick up the razor in the first place has not gone away. This is something you need to talk to someone about. If not your parents, then a teacher, your school nurse, principal or guidance counselor.
A parents job is to raise a child to be a productive member of society. Part of that job means to discipline that child when they do wrong. Each parent have there own way of disciplining. Taking away your mascara is proper discipline. If a parent chooses a form of corporal punishment they can cross the line between discipline and abuse. Slapping you in the face was not corporal punishment it was abuse. Slapping you on your butt is corporal punishment as long as it remains in the realm of an acceptable spanking; which is to pink up your bottom but not turn it black and blue.
If you feel you are being abused then you can also contact a group called RAINN which stands for: Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. They have a 24/7 hotline 1-800-256-HELP. Call them they can help you get help. They can also help you get help for the depression you may be suffering.
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Your mother is not trying to ruin your life, She is laying down the rules and disciplining you as it is her job as a mother to keep her child in line. You threatening to take your life over the fact that she took away your makeup is very immature and selfish of you. There is a hell of a lot more to worry about in a lifetime then your mother saying you cannot wear makeup. Face reality, Her house her rules.
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Maybe there's more to the story, but from what you described, your mom had no intention of physically harming you. 13 may be old enough to wear make-up or it may not be. Your mom clearly thinks you are too young. She is not the first parent to have this concern. Respect her rules. You're causing drama over nothing.
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First of all, I am so glad that you had the strength to put the razor away. I think that you should try confront your mom about the things that she does to you. If you are going through real phisical abuse though, it might help to talk to a close personal friend so you don't have to go through it alone. Overall, just please talk to someone and don't be drastic and try to take your own life. Good luck and I hope this helped!
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You have some serious issues if you are trying to end your life by slitting wrists over how much makeup you can and cannot use. And no, the woman isn't trying to ruin or run your life.
You need to get a grip on reality and see that and how stupid killing yourself over any of it is. I'm not being a jerk either in saying maybe you should see a professional as this kind of behavior and trying to harm yourself or end your life over it is the farthest behavior from normal.
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