Today I was searching on my boyfriend's video playlist, and I discovered about 4, maybe 5 pornographic videos...I confronted him about it, and he broke down, saying he had forgotten about them, and that they had been there before we started dating...I think believe him...but I'm still not sure what to think...any thoughts?
Thank you...
I don't think it's too much of a big deal. Both guys and girls look at porn, it doesn't mean he doesn't like or love you it just means he's a regular person who gets turned on by naked people. Don't most of us? If he says it's from when you were dating then believe him and forget about it. If it really bothers you that much then speak to him about how you feel but I would just give him the benefit of the doubt. It's not a big deal.
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This is extremely embarassing for me to ask.
I am an 18 year old girl from Egypt, but I moved to the USA when I was seven. My parents got me circumcised when I was six. I am worried that no one will want to marry me because I am circumcised, and will think I am gross. I am very worried because when doctors look at me (just check ups, nothing is wrong with me) they gasp, and make a very big deal out of it.
Please any feedback is so appreciated.
My Mother is a midwife and sees an awful lot of girly bits, including circumcised ones. In Western society female circumcision is common practice and many people, even doctors, won't have seen it before. This is probably why they make a big deal out of it.
What you have to remember is that anyone who won't marry you because of it can't possibly love you or be worth your trouble. There are people who have the most horrific disfigurements and disabilities and manage to find someone who loves them and who doesn't care that their faces don't look like everyone else's or their legs don't work.
I know this isn't quite the same thing, but it's in the same vein. This will not stop you from finding someone who loves you because love is accepting someone for who/what they are, not for just their physical appearance. If you end up in a relationship with someone who is not from your culture then you will have to explain it to them, but as I have said before, if they love you they will accept it. They might knock you back and hurt you but you must remember that those people aren't worth it.
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I have come to the point where I cant write, concentrate, derive pleasure from anything, have difficulty remembering things, have blurred vision, eyes seriously hurt, sometimes have severe headaches, most of the time dont know what I am talking especially with my elder brother. I have nt got father and mother I live my elder brother and his wife since 6 years. I am 26/M an MBA had a successful career but now since six months things have been deteriorating. I cant bear it any more. Plz tell me the easiest way to commit suicide which hurts less and is quick and doesnt make much of a mess.
Suicide is never a good option.
You may feel that your life is bad right now, but just think about how your brother and his family would feel if you killed yourself. Don't think they won't care because if they really despised you they wouldn't be living with you.
You're so young, you're an MBA, you can do so much with your life.
If you can then try and seek professional help, if this isn't an option then try talking to your brother or anyone you know who can help you to move on and feel better about your life.
Whatever you do, don't commit suicide. I don't know whether or not you're religious but I believe that God created us all and that we all have a purpose. Just think of all the things you have the potential to go on to do and all the people you could benefit.
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Ok well I take a shower once every day after school (the time when every body mostly needs a shower) but recently I've developed a habit that all the girls in my class has, taking a shower in the morning.
It's great because I don't feel so grubby in the morning but it takes a lot of time because of my terrible poofy, frizzy, hair, and I don't put anything into it or straighten because I don't want to damage my hair, AGAIN.
But I'm like this huge tree huger in my school and I don't want to take a shower in the morning but it's so relaxing and my hair just looks so much better and I tried taking a shower in the morning b4 school every OTHER day but I can't because I'm obsessing to look good because I'm so shy in school and too shy about my looks because all the girl's in my class wears like jeans and brand name clothes and just looks PERFECT! help?
I used to wash/dry/straighten my hair at night until I got into the habit of getting up at a stupid time in the morning so that it would look nicer.
A trick I've learned to save a bit of time and my hair from damage is to wash and condition it well, towel dry then comb some leave in conditioner through followed by a good amount of heat protection spray. Then if you blow-dry it straight (by keeping the hairdryer pointed downwards and brushing as you go) your hair should be much, much straighter and if you want you can just run the straighteners through it and you're done. The product won't damage your hair and because you're using heat protection spray the hairdryer and straighteners will have a much less damaging effect too.
However, don't feel pressured into showering in the morning so you can look good just to impress the girls in your class, they're only going to be around for a tiny percentage of your life and their opinions shouldn't matter.
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To make that funny voice, do you have to breathe in helium(which is just from balloons bought in the store already) or can you just buy balloons in a bag fromt he dollar store, blow air into it with your mouth, then swallow it, and have that funny voice?
Balloons that you buy from the shop won't give you a high voice because you blow them up yourself with your own breath. The high voice is a result of the helium so you have to breathe in that gas in order for it to work. Having said that, I'm not entirely sure how safe it is and wouldn't reccomend it.
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How do you cheer up a friend when shes sad? because when my friend comes to me for advice i really get speachless and stuff please tell me how and thank you =]
It really depends on what she's sad about but as a rule, if you're lost for words, going over with a huge box of chocolates, a pile of DVDs and some Kleenex usually does the trick. If it would be inapropriate to do that in her situation (death of reletive etc) then sometimes it's just best to let her know you're there for her if she needs to talk and give her some space. Whatever the problem is, knowing you're there to support her will be a huge comfort in itself.
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13/f im starting to really hate life.im not going to a physicatrist.im more baggy clothes all my ~girl~ friends are more girly but in all mixed groups and my ~guy~ friend is more of a unique person he goesin all stlyes too.every1 is in a group or clique. all but me.it drives me crazy.yes i cuss alot yes i love black and i LOVE jewelry. i have my own style.i can go in any group but its uncomfortable but id rather be with my bff thats a guy but he goes to 2 schools so hes only here half the time and when he is here hes usually w/ me but mainly doin tests and work he missed. im alone in a school death trap. i am myself i dont change for anyone and i have my own style.but im not happy at all i dont have friends tht would always go w/ me most ignore me when their w/ their group but they still call me their 'friend'.my only true friend is my bff thats a guy.ppl think of me as a freak.yea so i never cared but now i do.~~~can u answer this question first then the next~~~now we like eachother as bf gf but people who date end up hating eachother.hes all i have.if we would break up sayin still friends is like sayin your dog died but you can still keep it.people also say o the two freaks dating. i never cared befor but now i do. ~help mee o please~ what do i do ~can u answer them sepratly please
Okay first off I will tell you what I was told when I was your age and had the same problem as you, that you're only 13.
You're right, you don't need a physciatrist because you're just going through what a lot of teenagers go through. You don't HATE life, hate is a very strong word, you're just feeling insecure and uncomfortable in your own skin because all these hormones are rushing through your body and making you think and feel all sorts of things. I'm not going to sit here and pretend that I'm any different, I'm only 15, I still feel like I don't fit in half the time and it's totally normal.
My group of friends is a complete mismatch of people, sure we have a few things in common music/clothes-wise but we differ in a lot of ways. So what if you like to wear black and jewellery? I like to wear whatever's fashionable and I own a lot of clothes but my best friend sticks to the same style and doesn't care so much about appearance, it doesn't mean we can't be friends. You say you can go into any group but don't feel comfortable but you have to accept that your best friend can't be there all the time, so really try to get on with these people, show them you're not a 'freak' - you might surprise yourself.
You won't feel like this forever, it's all just a normal part of growing up and entering adulthood.
As for dating your best friend, ignore other people's opinions. You have to do what you want and what is right for both of you, I suggest you talk to him about it. I've managed to date friends and we've broken up and stayed friends, but it depends on the situation and the people involved, I can't tell you it'll work out because I don't know either of you. You have to talk about it between yourselves.
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I'm tempted to get this shirt (1), which comes only in a *bright* red colour.
(1) http://tinyurl.com/2c4v8f
I have black hair and dark eyes. I currently have pale skin but I tan easily and my natural skin tone is olive (or 'Asian'). Could I pull bright red, even just any shade of red, off? Or should I go for something more subdued? Even some advice about which colours generally would work helps.
I think both pale and olive toned skin could pull that colour off. I have dark hair and pale skin and I've always been told that I look great in bright red. I don't tan but I think red looks good against darker/olive skin tones.
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my friend emily thinks she is emo. SHE ISNT. She is the farthest thing from it. No one can convince her that she isnt though. Its so annoying. In her instant messanger profile, it says "IM EMO AND SO PROUD". every one tells her shes not, and its so annoying. DSFDBDFG. How can I get across to her that she isnt? She wears polos, and all she wears is hollister and abercrombie. she use to cut, but that was only for a day. she thinks that that makes her a hard core emo. I am so confused. Why would she want to be something she isnt?
When you think of all the suffering in the World, does it really matter that your friend thinks she is 'emo'?
She can be whoever she wants to be and if she wants to go around labelling herself (even if it is incorrectly) then so be it. It's probably just a phase that she'll grow out of anyway, it's not something you really need to worry about.
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how did you change the font of your column?
I created my own column style and edited the font there. You have to be a paid user to create your own styles but you used to be able to do it on a regular account, which is when I did it.
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15/f. what is some makeup that i could apply that would make my eyes appear wider?? like what shades of eyeliner and where to apply it, or eyeshadow and mascara even. and if it helps i have blue eyes and dirty blonde hair.
thanks!
I have blue eyes and I find that browns are best for widening my eyes.Curling your eye lashes is also great, as is applying white eyeliner to your lower waterline. Another trick you could try is to apply a smudge of brown liner/shadow to the lower outer corner of your eye with a tiny bit of mascara on the lower lashes.
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whenever i masterbate it feels good. but then i get this feeling thats like telling me to stop. is that normal?
Yes that's normal. It's up to you whether you do or don't masturbate, but remember that there's nothing wrong with it and you shouldn't feel guilty about doing it.
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1. I need to know how to change an iPod's name?
2. Can you only charge a iPod with the computer?
....pleeeze answer in the order with the numbers....PLEEZE...thanks!
1. When you plug your iPod in, you double click on the iPod name next to the iPod symbol on iTunes and just type in the new name.
2. You can charge iPods on all iPod equipment (like docks).
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I have to touch up on my hair colour. My original hair is growing out and it doesn't look nice against my dyed hair.
I was wondering,
1)is it alright to touch up as well as dye over my already-dyed hair?
2)Will it be ok if I use another shade of brown dye when doing so?
I have to re-dye my hair about every three or four months and although it's not ideal, it's okay. It's fine to touch up as well as dye over your already-dyed hair, but if possible you should try and find kits that are specially designed to touch up roots as they will damage your hair as little as possible. It is also fine to use another shade but obviously if you do that you will have to dye all over your hair, which means you can't use a touch up kit.
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I stumbled across this site by accident. I seriously doubt many of you have the qualifications to give real people proper advice. After reading some of your responses to people's inquiries i was quite astonished as to how teenagers find they are able to give quality advice and information to real people in need with such little life experience. If you ask me you are not in a place to give your "personal opinion" when people truly believe you are giving them the right answer simply because you claim "people think i give really good advice". (eg. i am still at a loss as to how a 17 year old girl thinks she can give advice to someone regarding conceiving a child) I know you try to come across as a "godsend" to poeple who are in some sort of personal crisis and need a fast easy answer but the truth is, in the cases where it really counts, there rarely is one; at least not from you.
I find this incredibly offensive, and I'm sure a lot of other members would too.
I'm interested as to what you think qualifies as 'proper advice', because I could name several columnists off the top of my head who give excellent advice.
None of us claim to have the qualifications to give 'real people proper advice', but that doesn't mean we don't know anything about anything. I'm only 15 years old but I could quite easily give accurate advice on conceiving a child, not because I've done so but because my Mother is a midwife and she's passed a lot of information onto me. There are many columnists who know a lot about certain subjects and give really good, really helpful advice on them.
Yes, of course there are stupid people on here who don't know what they're talking about, but there are also hundreds of people who have really helped out the people seeking advice here. You have absolutely no right to come here and decide that we're all unhelpful and unintelligent because it's simply not true.
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OK. so my sister is married to this guy. who has a brother my age. and i was just wondering if there was anything wrong with dating him. because hes like my brother in law...but we're not blood related or anything. it was just something i always wondered.
No that's not illegal. However it's usually best to stick to dating outside the family because it could cause problems if you broke up/your sister and her husband split etc.
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Okay, well my friend "Michelle"-she has been babysitting for about 2 years now for these 3 kids. The father of the three kids is hitting on Michelle. He has pulled her bra strap, told her she should get something (aka her "chest" pierced..), and when michelle had her sweatpants on, one of the girls were hanging onto her leg and she was puuling them down and she wouldnt let go and then the fatehr was like u could let her pull them down, and the dad said they should "hook up sometime"...(the list can keep going!) Now, the thing is he's a cop. i've told michelle to tell someone-her mom, the mother of the children--SOMEBODY. She refuses to, necause she loves the kids and she gets good money. What should I tell michelle to do?
Thanks in advance...
-Jam
If she is dead set on not telling anyone, then I would advise her to confront the father about his behaviour because it may be that he is unaware that he is making your friend uncomfortable or being inappropriate. I suggest your friend finds a time when it is okay to speak to him (i.e not when his kids or partner is around) and tell him shortly and sharply that she does not like the way he acts around her and that she will tell someone if he doesn't stop (this doesn't have to be true, but it will most likely shock him out of doing it if he thinks that there is a risk that he will get into trouble).
If things continue and she won't/can't tell anyone, then for her safety YOU need to tell someone for her. She might be angry with you to begin with, but she should come to understand that you did it for her benefit.
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Ok so a lot of people tell me i am too thin. I've done those online calculators and they say i am, but you can't really trust those things because they don't take in to consideration a lot of important factors, you know. So, I thought if people could look at my pic site and give me their honest opinion? Thanks. http://www.picturetrail.com/photos/blondina75
You are too thin.
Please, please get help as soon as possible. Tell your parents, tell your friends, go and see a doctor. Please.
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Has anyone seen the Guitar Hero 2 playstaiton 2 video game commerical?
Well in the commerical they play this one song it goes someting like "girl you really got me going you got me so i dont know what im doing, yeah you really got me going you got me so i dont know what im doing"
If you know what song I`m talking about I would like to know the name of the song and the artist.
thank you.
That song is The Kinks - You Really Got Me.
In future you could try looking the lyrics up on google before asking here as it would save you some time.
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i know this sounds really weird but i really need to lose weight fast. a lot of people have probably had these diseases but which one works better, anorexia or bulimea? i need one of them and i just cant say why but please just tell me which is better
Are you crazy? You can't just decide you want an eating disorder and 'get one'. It's not a type of medication or something you can buy in a shop. It's a serious, life threatening disease. People DIE from those diseases, only the other week a Brazilian model died from anorexia. If you want to lose weight, you eat healthier and you excercise, you're crazy if you think that you just get an eating disorder then switch it off when you've lost the weight you want.
I suggest you read this right to the end:
http://community.livejournal.com/proanorexia/12013088.html
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