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I found porn on his computer...
Today I was searching on my boyfriend's video playlist, and I discovered about 4, maybe 5 pornographic videos...I confronted him about it, and he broke down, saying he had forgotten about them, and that they had been there before we started dating...I think believe him...but I'm still not sure what to think...any thoughts?
Thank you...
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Don't worry about it.
Men look at and watch porn. Men look at and watch porn so they can masturbate. Most men masturbate. Some even masturbate when they are in a healthy relationship and having sex on a regular basis. Why? A hormone called testosterone. Both men and women produce this hormone. Men just produce a lot more of it than women do... And that explains why men experience sexual urges on a more frequent basis. Basicly, and excuse me if I offend anyone, men masturbate when they're feeling horny and their partner isn't around.
And what a lot of women fail to realize is that it has nothing to do with them. Their man still thinks they are attractive, still wants to have sex with them... Porn is just something to get the job done when they're alone. (And yes... A REAL guy has actually told me this.)
So... Don't feel insecure. And don't make something that probably isn't an issue... into a big issue. Relationships come with enough obstacles, you don't need to add anymore. If it bothers you, be honest with him and explain why, but also try to understand his side. Don't give him ultimatums, don't judge him... Just talk about it. Conversations about sex should be open and honest. Especially with your partner.
This is nothing to be ashamed of. Sexual urges are natural, healthy... So is masturbation. Infact... If you think about it, it's safer. No STD's or unwanted pregnancies to worry about. No mistresses.
I think a lot of women feel conflicted about this issue because of their own insecurity. When a woman discovers that her boyfriend/husband has been looking at pictures of another women... naked... and is turned on... She wonders if he's looking at the pictures because SHE is deficient in some way. She begins to wonder if he still considers her attractive... Or attractive enough. Maybe she even wonders if she satisfies is his sexual desires.
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Lol don't worry about it...Almost EVERY guy on the planet has/does/is going to watch porn.Its natural...hes not cheating on you or anything its just a video or whatever.
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There are very few guys left out there that don't have porn on their computer. Since you confronted him about it, it obviously bothers you, which is understandable. Just trust him for now when he says they were there before. And even if they weren't, it's not like he's cheating on you. Now that he knows that it bothers you, he will be more careful to not let you find those kinds of things. As for you, respect his privacy. If he wants to have porn, there's no reason why he shouldn't be able to as long as you don't have to see it. Fair enough, right?
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Okay. EVERY guy has porn.
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Don't worry. Guys are easily visually stimulated; they like looking at nice things. It doesn't mean he's replacing you, or being unfaithful.
He probably got upset because he thought you'd be angry or disgusted with him. Men are usually fairly shy with their girlfriends about their porn viewing habits (my boyfriend is still really nervous about me seeing his).
Let him have his fun. If he feels that he can be honest and open with you, then he will. Just don't get upset with him, because he'll start hiding it. He won't stop.
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Even if they are from before you started dating ... he's going to continue looking at them. Porn is addicting.. for almost everyone. If he liked it then he likes it now.. Sorry! :(
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He probably is telling the truth. A lot of guys go through that & maybe he just forgot all about the videos once he met you :]
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Hi.
You shouldn't worry about it. Its a pretty normal thing. Like what was said by the other person, it doesn't mean that he doesn't love/like you.
My fiance told me one time not to worry about it, he is never gonna meet/see the people in it, so why worry about it.
Since he broke down about it, I doubt he actually watches them.
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I don't think it's too much of a big deal. Both guys and girls look at porn, it doesn't mean he doesn't like or love you it just means he's a regular person who gets turned on by naked people. Don't most of us? If he says it's from when you were dating then believe him and forget about it. If it really bothers you that much then speak to him about how you feel but I would just give him the benefit of the doubt. It's not a big deal.
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